This fact sheet provides a consolidated view of BPD's association with violence and domestic abuse.
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1. Violence Trends in BPD Women's Relationships
Among couples where the woman is diagnosed with BPD, psychological violence is notably high, while physical violence, especially minor assaults, also occurs at a significant rate. 
2. 37% BPD Partners Face Violence
In one 4-month follow-up study, 37% of partners of individuals diagnosed with BPD experienced either physical or psychological violence from their BPD partner. 
3. Most BPD Women Report No Violence, But Some Face High Levels
While 73% of women with BPD report no physical violence in the past year, a notable minority still experienced high levels of mutual violence. 
4. 27% Of Domestic Violence Arrests Have BPD Traits
27% of females arrested for domestic violence perpetration meet the criteria for BPD. 
5. BPD Women Perceive More Domestic Abuse
Women with BPD perceive a higher rate of domestic abuse than women without BPD. 
6. Borderline Features Dominate In Teen Dating Violence
Across various forms of teen dating violence (TDV) — from victimization and perpetration to severe cases — borderline features consistently emerge as a predominant factor. 
7. BPD Individuals View Relationships As More Hostile
Individuals diagnosed with BPD often perceive both their past and current relationships as more hostile and less cohesive, surpassing even the perceptions of those with depression or bipolar disorder. 
8. 50% Of Female BPD Patients Report Assault Vs. 26% Of Males
Adult females with BPD have reported significantly higher instances of physical and/or sexual assault (50%) in comparison to adult males with BPD (26%). 
9. Men With BPD Traits More Likely To Be Batterers
10. Violent BPD Men Act On Impulse During Anger
Violent men diagnosed with BPD often respond with impulsive and unplanned aggression, particularly during moments of heightened arousal or anger. This inclination towards violence may intensify when confronted with their partner's distress. This entire behavioral pattern is potentially rooted in difficulties in emotion regulation or an innate response to strong negative feelings. [10, 11]
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11. BPD Rates High In Female-Perpetrated Abuse
Higher rates of BPD and other personality disorders were found in women who perpetrated abuse toward their intimate male partners. 
12. Nonsevere Vs. Clinically Significant Abuse In Aggressive Females
"Nonsevere" abuse is more frequently perpetrated by females with aggressive personalities compared to males, whereas "clinically significant abuse" is commonly characterized by mutual abuse and linked to personality deviance, such as low self-control and high negative emotionality. 
13. BPD Traits In Men Link To Both IPV Roles; In Women, Only To Victimization
For males, BPD traits correlate with both intimate partner violence (IPV) perpetration and victimization. For females, these traits only relate to IPV victimization. 
14. Chronic Anger And Aggression In BPD Men In IPV Treatment
BPD is significantly linked with chronic anger, jealousy, and increased frequencies of both verbal and physical aggression among males undergoing treatment for intimate partner violence (IPV). 
15. Higher Hostility In Individuals With BPD Traits
16. Partners Of BPD Individuals Face More Hostility
17. Common Hostility In BPD Romantic Relationships
18. BPD Symptoms Linked To Various Marital Issues
When adjusting for demographic factors and the presence of Axis I disorders, BPD symptoms show a positive association with marital distress, minor violence perpetration, severe violence perpetration, and marital disruption. 
19. Break-Ups Heighten Clinical Risks For BPD Individuals
20. Contrasting Mean Rates Of Exhibited Violence
In the field of physical violence, women with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) exhibit violent tendencies at a rate of 7.2. This rate sharply contrasts with control women, who show a much lower rate of 0.79.
In the area of psychological violence, the difference is even more pronounced. BPD women exhibit this type of violence at a rate of 29.29, substantially outpacing the 4.62 rate among control women.
As for the male partners of BPD women, the data is equally troubling:
These men exhibit physical violence at a rate of 1.34. This is double the rate of control men, who exhibit at a rate of 0.66.
Likewise, they show psychological violence at a rate of 11.91, more than doubling the 4.74 rate observed in control men. 
21. Contrasting Mean Rates Of Experienced Violence
When looking at experienced violence, BPD women face physical violence at a rate of 1.51, significantly higher than the 0.31 rate for control women.
In the realm of psychological violence, BPD women experience it at a rate of 13.37, over three times the rate of 3.88 among control women.
The male partners of BPD women are not immune to these heightened experiences:
These men experience physical violence at a rate of 6.34, almost ten times the 0.66 rate among control men.
In terms of psychological violence, they experience it at a rate of 23.54, more than five times the 4.29 rate for control men. 
To sum it up, both the exhibited and experienced rates of physical and psychological violence are alarmingly higher among BPD women and their male partners compared to control groups. This underscores the urgent need for specialized intervention and support.
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