In this article you will learn the exact 25 steps to turn a guy on.
This is not some short WikiHow article, Riddit post or Yahoo answer because in this article you will learn all core concepts, techniques and steps to make your man insanely turned on.
Let’s get started!
Table of Contents
1. Tease him sexually
Teasing a guy sexually is the best way to turn him on and leave him hanging so that he always wants more.
You go hot (sexy, bold, advancing) than cold (backing away, teasing) so that his mind gets completely chained to you.
Here are the 4 ways to do it:
#1 The Lean-In Tease Technique
Start by looking into his eyes and play with your lips in a sexy way (i.e. biting, licking)
Then lean into him while putting your hand on his chest as if you are gonna kiss, but at the last second kiss his neck instead then pull away and look away. [1, 2]
He doesn’t know what to expect so at this point you can do what you want: do it all over again or actually go in for the kiss and make out.
#2 The Arouse From Behind Technique
What do you do when he’s playing his favorite video games on the computer and you can’t get in front of him?
Use The Arouse From Behind technique:
- Stand behind him
- Run your hands over his shoulders (almost like a massage)
- Press your boobs on him
- Lick and nibble on his ears and neck
- Whisper some sexy lines into his ear (#25 Things to say to turn a guy on)
Once you do this, he will become so full of desire that he’ll drop whatever he’s doing and run after you!
#3 The Casual Sex Talk Technique
This may be my favorite technique to tease a guy sexually and make him horny:
Walk over to your man and start a conversation about anything.
Then tell him (in calm, “no big deal” voice) that you’d be interested in having sex right now.
But before he gets a chance to react, continue the conversation with whatever you were talking about earlier.
This will make him so horny and desperate for more that he won’t even think of leaving you.
#4 The Control Him With Kisses Technique
Walk over to your man and give him a quick kiss.
Then, as you’re about to walk away, turn around and really kiss him well – get a little wet this time.
But as you’re getting more passionate, stop again, give him a sexy look and play with your lips in a way that you know makes him crazy.
By this point, he’ll lose control of himself and try to pull you in which is exactly why you’ll take a step back, offer your hand and tell him to follow you.
And because he’s so hooked, he’ll follow you wherever you decide to take him! [3, 4]
2. Turn him on with your naked body
Don’t worry about your boob size, how your vagina looks or your weight (unless you’re 200 pounds!) – trust me, your man will get turned on by your body!
However, the best nakedness is unexpected nakedness, so here are some good times to walk out butt naked:
- While he’s fixing his bike in the garage
- While he’s playing a video game
- While he’s reading a book on the couch
- While he’s on the phone
- While he’s studying for a test
Here are some things to consider:
- Are there open windows around?
- Don’t use this technique to turn on a shy guy as he may get very uncomfortable and not know what to do with himself
- Do you guys live together? If no, you can always undress at him place, but make sure no one else in around
And lastly, if he’s on the couch and you really want to get him super horny, just sit next to him and masturbate while letting him see everything!
3. Send him nudes
If you’re too uncomfortable to walk about out all naked, sending nudes might be the best way to get him freaky!
But how can you take the best nudes so that his dick makes him lose control?
#1 Get the right lighting
Make sure you have some light facing in front of you so that you’re clearly visible and experiment with different kinds of lighting (natural, fluorescent, warm/cold, etc) to see what works best for you.
#2 Make sure you got the right background
Laying on a bed is fine, but if you’re gonna take a pic in the bathroom make sure you don’t have any gross or messy things laying around!
#3 Get the right pose
There are so many different poses and honestly it all comes down to what you like most, but you can browse these subreddits for ideas:
If this is your first time, I recommend you take a whole bunch of shots and choose the one you like most and of course, focus on whatever body part you love most.
#4 A little warning
Sending a nude can be dangerous too.
Once he has a picture of you naked, he can do whatever he wants with it, so here’s my advice to you:
Leave your face out of the photo.
And sometimes it’s better that way because you’ll trigger his imagination to fill in the blanks!
Oh and talking about filling his imagination and making him yours:
Here’s a free, exclusive video by Bob Grant called The Women Men Adore where he discusses the number one trait that makes any high value man never want to leave you.
Just watch the video, because in there you’ll learn how to use this one quality to have a truly hypnotic effect on men.
It works even if you don’t have a Victoria secret body and it doesn’t matter what age you are: 18 or 68!
It’s a bonding code that works no matter what personality trait you have. Go check out the video now!
4. Play with his dick
The ultimate turn on spot for a guy is his dick…. And here’s how to play with it:
#1 The Driving Turned-On Technique
Whether you’re on a long trip home or you’re just heading back from college you can pull this technique and get him as horny as a red deer:
- As he’s driving start rubbing his upper chest, abs, belly button, etc moving down towards his dick
- Rub the outside of his pants and make orgasmic noices
- Slowly unzip him and play with his balls and penis like it’s a fun toy
- Make him wait till you get home before he can orgasm
#2 The Ultimate Dick Tease Technique
Warning: after doing this technique, you will be dealing with a man that is so turned on that his dick will be in total control:
- While you’re sitting on the couch together, unzip his pants
- Hold is dick lightly with your right hand like it’s the most precious thing you’ve ever seen
- With your left hand cup his balls in the most caring way
- Start to lean in with your head like your about the give him a blowjob
- When you’re about half an inch away, pause and let him feel your breathe pass over his penis
- Look at him with a cheeky smile
- Start to give the tiniest of licks, but never enough that he really feels your lips
- Pause again and kiss every his entire groin area
- Go back to his dick and give it a big passionate lick
- Back off again
Congratulations! You’ve finished The Ultimate Dick Tease Technique and now you can do whatever you want with him because you’ve drained all the resistance out of him! [5, 6]
#3 The movie theater turn on
Besides for being a great way to tease his dick, this is also a great way to get a guy horny in middle school because it’s super “innocent”:
- Sit beside him at the movie theater
- Place your hand on his knee
- Slowly rub his thigh while moving towards his dick
- Look at him in a seductive way and say “I need a hard dick right now”
This also works if you’re just sitting on the couch or eating lunch together.
5. Give him a little peak
By giving him a little peak of whatever body part you love most (butt, boobs, thigh, pussy, etc.) you are making him imagine all sorts of freaky scenarios in his head:
- What does she really want?
- OMG I wonder how hot she is naked!
- Are we gonna have sex now!?
Once he’s thinking about you naked, his mind will go nuts and here’s how you do it:
#1 Flash some cleavage
Wear a shirt with a low top with a push up bra and while you’re standing next to him, lean down to get something you “dropped”.
Depending on the guy, it might help to wink at him while biting your tongue as if to say “this is our little secret”.
#2 Flash your upper thighs
There are 2 ways of doing this: the “obvious” way and the “accidental” way.
Let’s start with the obvious way:
- Preferably sit down close to him
- Place your hand at the end of your skirt
- Get his attention (e.g. softly calling his name)
- Start pulling up your skirt as if you’re getting so much pleasure from just touching your own body
- Before you totally raise your skirt up, look at him and say “that’s enough for now, you’ll get some more later”
This will totally leave him drooling, but if you want to make him insanely crazy just thinking about you, flash your upper thighs “accidentally”:
- Put on a mini skirt (wearing panties are optional!)
- Pass by him while your leaving
- As your about to walk about the door, turn around towards him so that your skirt flies up for a second and he gets an “eye orgasm”
- Look at him like is was a mistake by placing your hand on your mouth and saying “I didn’t mean that to happen”
- While giving him a innocent look use your hands to glide over your hips and thighs to brush your skirt down
- Either walk out the door with a sexy walk or walk right back to him and get busy
If you decide to leave, I can guarantee you that he’ll be thinking about that moment all day!
6. Tell him how much you want his cum
Girls ask me all the time: How can I turn a guy on mentally?
Answer: boost your mans’ ego!
There are many, many ways to make any guy’s ego double in size, but telling a guy how much you need his cum may be the best way!
Here’s what you can say:
- I want you to cum all over me
- I know you can’t hold it back any longer, give me that delicious cum!
- I need you to cum inside of me
- That cum is mine
- Cum for me
- Please daddy, I want to taste your cum
- I want your warm cum all over my sl*tty face
Just one last thing:
Make sure you say this in a horny voice so that he really feels your desire! [7, 8]
7. Talk about his dick
If you’re gonna talk about his cum, you can’t not talk about his glorious dick:
Here are some examples:
- It’s soooo big
- No wonder you have so much dick energy
- So this is why you’re so tough and manly
- Oh’ I love it, it’s sooo hard
- It’s too huge for my mouth [wink, wink]
- It’s so beautiful
- You could kill me with that
- It feels so perfect inside of me
- I can’t wait any longer, I need this inside of me
- You have big balls
- It feels enormous in my hand
- It makes me soaking wet
- Your balls feel so good in my hand
- Just f*ck me in the ass already
- You gave it to me just perfectly
- It’s so handsome
And just like we said earlier: make sure you say this in a naughty, girly voice!
8. Tell him what you want
If you’re asking how to turn a guy on, what you really want is sex, so why not ask him?
And as a nice bonus, he’ll get super horny in the process!
Here’s how you do it:
- Be confident
- Tell him what you want, do not ask
- Walk over to him like you won’t even accept a no
Whether you want to play out of porn scene, make out or have sex, there’s no way he’ll say no.
9. Check him out
Make sure he knows you’re checking him out and here’s how:
- When he turns around and faces you, make it obvious that you were staring at his butt
- Bite your lips while staring at his arms
- Touch yourself while looking at his groin area
- Look at whatever body part you love most and seem impressed
This is not only a huge ego boost, but it’ll also send signals to his dick to get busy! [9, 10]
10. Force him to make out with you
OK, I don’t mean force as in he doesn’t actually want it!
What I mean is be dominant and forward about kissing him, for example:
- If he’s sitting on a chair, straddle him and make out
- If he’s standing near the couch, push him over and calmly walk over to him and kiss
- If you’re eating side by side (or opposite each other), place your hands of both sides of him head and kiss
In all of these scenarios, you’re making out spontaneously which makes it so much hotter.
You may also find that this is the best way to turn on a shy guy as he won’t make a bold move on you.
11. Pull him in by his dick
Well this is a pretty simple one: whenever you want to get f*cked, just grab his dick (lightly!) and pull him onto your bed.
If you can’t reach his dick for whatever reason (thick pants, etc.) just grab him by his belt and take him to wherever you want have sex!
12. Fulfill his horny fetish
Every guy has his own fetish that gets him horny to a level even he didn’t know was possible, so why not use it to make him horny?
Let’s go through some different fetishes and how you can add them into your sex life:
#1 Foot fetish
If you somehow know that he has a secret foot fetish, but won’t bring it up, here’s how you can bring it into your sex life:
- Talk about the idea of foot fetishes
- Ask him what he likes about your feet
- Ask him to give your feet a massage
Now that he’s OK with showing his true sexual desires, watch how turned on he gets the moment he starts giving you a foot massage.
From here you can take it as far as you want with any of the following ideas:
- Get him to lick your boots/ shoes
- Get him to wash your feet
- Get him to lie on his back while making him suck each individual toe
- Make him fit as much of your foot into his mouth as possible
- Give his a “footjob”
- Ask him horny questions like “how badly do you want these toes?” and “what makes you think you deserve these magnificent toes?”
- Make him put on nailpolish and “punish” him if he makes any mistake
The options are endless so make sure you talk it out with him and find out what really gets him hot.
#2 Boob fetish
Boob fetishes are a whole lot less taboo because all guys like boobs, it’s just that some get obsessed and turn it into a fetish — so don’t worry about introducing it into your relationship if you already know he secretly has the fetish.
OK, but what are some examples of using his foot fetish to turn him on?
- Put some chocolate or whipped cream on your boobs that he gets to lick off
- Give him a boob job
- Let him massage your boobs
- Make him carefully wash your boobs
- Wear a smaller bra so that your boobs spill out to the sides
- Cover his face with your boobs as if you were trying to suffocate him
- Give him a handjob, but place your boobs on the head of his penis
And of course, you can always simply pleasure/ reward him by letting him hold your boobs!
#3 Little girl fetish
Some guys love acting like the dominant daddy in the relationship and if your man is like that, here’s how to do it:
- Call him daddy, sir, master or whatever else shows him that he’s the one in charge
- Ask him to call you little girl, kitty, toy, sweetie or princess
- Ask him to make simple decisions in your life
- Ask him to take care of you in the simplest of ways
- Be completely sexually available to him (even to the point of sleeping naked next to him)
- Ask him to try different styles of bondage while having sex
This all comes down to asking him about his sexual fantasies and then giving them to him.
Once you do this, it should be no surprise that he’s uncontrollably horny!
13. Selectively expose yourself
We’ve talked about giving him a little, quick peek, but now it’s time to learn how to selectively expose yourself for the purpose of getting a hard erection out of him:
- Walk into him room wearing one of him big undershirts and nothing else (for bonus points start having a casual conversation)
- Look at him with a naughty smile and slowly raise your shirt until he gets a nice view of your “underboob”
- While he’s looking at you, reach up for something while wearing a crop top so that he gets a nice glips of your “underboob”
- Start doing yoga near him in a way that he gets to see your best features (make sure you wear the right clothing!)
There are so many different ways of selectively exposing yourself, but my best advice is to make it seem accidental so that his horny imagination goes wild!
14. Turn him on in the shower
Want to give your boyfriend a nice surprise?
Wait until he’s in the shower and singing (JK, you don’t have to wait for the singing part!).
Walk right in on him – with your clothing on – and start making out like horny teenagers.
Obviously, your clothing will become super hard to take off, but I wouldn’t worry much about that because you’ll be so crazy aroused that it won’t make a difference!
15. Show him how horny you are
The best way to show a guy how horny you are is by having “I can’t wait sex” and here’s what I mean by that:
#1 Hallway sex
Hallway sex is the best because it’s like your so consumed with desire that you have no time to make it to the bedroom!
You have a couple here, but you can start by pinning him against the wall and giving him a blowjob and once things get even hotter, have sex on the carpet.
By the way, carpet burns only make it better!
#2 Parking lot sex
Unlike The Driving Turned-on Technique where you play with his junk while he’s driving, here you make him wait:
- Start by masturbating (and moan too!)
- Tell him that he has 2 minutes to find a secretive parking spot and f*ck you
- Once you get there, straddle him or sit on his lap facing away – either way, make sure he penetrates you!
Side note:
If finding the right sex position is too difficult you can always give him a nice blowjob.
16. Play his mistress
Let’s be clear:
Not all guys like having a mistress girlfriend.
However, if your boyfriend is the right type and wants you to be his mistress, here’s what you need to do:
#1 Use a strap on
There are a couple different ways of using a strap on to inflame him in desire:
- Make him give oral to your strap on
- (Obviously) peg him
- Put a strap on while looking at him dead in the eye
- Make him worship your strap on
#2 Orgasm control
Orgasm control is all about putting yourself in charge of him cumming, here are some example:
- He must ask you permission before cumming
- He cannot orgasm before you under any circumstances
- He must keep his legs wide apart so that you can jerk him off whenever you want
- If he misbehaves, you will edge him for half-an-hour, completely denying him any sort of orgasm
Now let’s move onto the most important part of being a mistress: talk to him like you own him…
#3 talk to him in a dominant way
The following video is a perfect example of that:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQrDlWvvF5w&ab_channel=cutegirls
Here are some key points:
- Make him feel like doesn’t deserve you
- Make him feel weaker than you
- Make him feel like he can’t control himself around you
- Make him say things that humiliate himself
Again, if your boyfriend gets turned on by this, why not learn more about being a strong mistress? There’s so much to learn and you’ll both have so much more fun!
17. Straddle him
Straddling is something that all guys love whether they’ll admit it or not.
Here are the 4 best ways to straddle a guy so that you get him on fire:
#1 The straddle kiss
This is the classic type of straddling:
Sit on his lap, wrap your legs around him, place your hands on both sides of his head and make out.
This could turn him on, but if you really want to make him sexed up, do the next type of straddle…
#2 The grinding straddle
Instead of sitting on his legs/lap, sit directly on his crotch and grind on it while kissing so he gets turned on – oh’ and grind your clit area on his boner so that you get freaky too!
To make the experience even better, wear lingerie or go topless so that he can he can suck on your nipples and grab your ass while you’re taking care of the kissing
And of course, once he gets hard, he’ll want to adjust himself which is fine. (Although you could always ask him in a sexy, sweet voice “does this position feel better?”)
#3 The straddle handjob
Even if your man likes being dominant in bed, all guys need some time off especially after a hard rough day at work!
Here’s how you can be dominant and give him a great straddle handjob:
- Get him to lie down on the bed naked
- Sit on his upper thighs right under his crotch
- You can be dressed, in lingerie or naked – doesn’t matter
- Jerk him off like he would himself
This position is great because it won’t make your hands tired, however if you want to switch things up you can always sit on his chest and jerk him off while he gets a nice view of your ass.
#4 The shower straddle
This type of straddle is great because he’ll see how much sexual desire and enthusiasm you have for him:
- Take a shower
- Dry yourself completely
- Walk out of the bathroom with a towel on facing him
- Drop the towel and straddle him while he’s standing
Bottom line:
There are many ways to straddle your man, just pick the one that makes him the most lustful and have fun!
18. Use your voice to turn him on
There are so many ways to turn a guy on with your voice and plain old talking, here are just some examples:
- Do some yoga/stretching near him and make sure he hears you moaning
- When “no one is near” make some really cute, girly noises
- While eating with him make sure he hears your licking, swallowing or breathing (not in a gross way)
- Whisper into his ear in a rasper, breathy, sexy voice
But “how do I get a rasper, breathy, sexy voice?
Well I’m no vocal/ voice expert, but this video should help you out:
19. Condition him to get turned on
Well this must be one of my sinister techniques, but it works!
- Use any of the previous techniques mentioned above and get him horny as f*ck and I mean really horny.
- While he’s horny play one specific song (you pick) and say one word or phrase such as “you can’t hold it any more” or “I need you NOW!”
- Repeat this process 4-5 times
Now whenever you want him horny, just play that same song while saying that phrase or word you picked earlier and watch how freaky he gets even though you haven’t even touched him!
This works because you’ve associated the feelings of being seriously horny to the song and phrase you said so now anytime you use those triggers, he gets mad hard!
If you really want to drive him mad, use the trigger on him in public and watch how he loses control over himself!
20. Turn him on over the phone
Besides for having that sexy voice that we mentioned earlier, there are other way to turn a guy on over the phone:
- Call him up and tell him all about the lingerie you’re wearing and how it looks on you (don’t leave out any details!)
- Start masturbating while talking to him on the phone, when he asks why you’re masturbating – tell him it’s because he’s too sexy
- You can also take control of him while you’re masturbating (i.e. “now go to the bathroom, pull your pants down and glide your hand over your penis)
- Tell him what you want to do with him once he gets back from work
You pick whatever option makes you feel the most comfortable!
21. Make him touch you
Prewarning:
Don’t do this when he’s genuinely busy and needs to get some work done, but otherwise, most guys will love this technique:
The basic idea is that you get him (or make him) touch any sexy part of your body that you want, for example:
- While straddling, take him hand and push it against your boobs so that he really feels it (this works while facing him and facing away)
- While sitting together take his hand and let it cup one of your boobs
- Tell him to use his hands to show himself some more cleavage
- While sitting on the couch together, tell him to lay his head down on your groin area while you play with his hair and smother him with your boobs
- Give him a big hug and tell him that you want him to feel your big boobs
Here’s a perfect visualization of this technique:
22. Make him watch you change clothing
If you want to seem innocent while doing naughty things, using clothing to turn him on is for you:
- Take him lingerie shopping (make sure you ask him what he loves most)
- Tell him that’s it too hot in the room and that you “need” to change
- Walk out of the shower and get dressed in front of him
Make sure to get all the right angles and shake around a bit…
23. Do freaky things in public
Well the title says it all and here’s my list:
- Make out in the elevator
- Grope his butt in public
- Hand him the control to your vibrator inside of you
- Go out for a walk in the park in a mini shirt and no panties on
- Giving him a blowjob behind a dumpster
- Wear a butt plug in public
- Making out in the backseat of the car while there are people walking outside
- Flash him your pussy while in public
And if there’s some kinky idea I haven’t mentioned, let me know in the comments and I’ll update the article!
24. how to turn on a guy with your eyes
Here’s how you can look at a guy and turn him on with your eyes:
#1 Make your eyes look bigger
Guys like bigger eyes, watch this tutorial to learn how to make your eyes appear bigger:
#2 look at your man with bedroom eyes
Here are some “traits” of bedroom eyes:
- Unfocused
- Not completely open, as if your half-asleep (that’s why it’s called “bedroom” eyes)
- Completely relaxed
- A slight hint of desire
#3 put on makeup!
I’m not an expert at applying eye makeup, but here’s a great video tutorial:
25. Things to say to turn a guy on
Here’s are some lines/ phrases to say to make your man honry (we’ve already covered some of them):
- I want you to cum all over me
- I know you can’t hold it back any longer, give me that delicious cum!
- I need you to cum inside of me
- Hey [his name], I’m not done with you
- That cum is mine
- Cum for me
- I’m too horny for my own good, help me!
- Fill me up (sir, daddy, master, etc.)
- Please daddy, I want to taste your cum
- I want your warm cum all over my sl*tty face
- It’s soooo big
- You so damn good at getting me all horny
- I need your dick right in my dirty, dirty mouth
- I want it hard this time
- Force me to ride ride you
- Stuff it into my tight little pussy
- Your body is mine tonight
- I want to get you hard
- I love how you orgasm in me
- No wonder you have so much dick energy
- I think you want a blowjob
- So this is why you’re so tough and manly
- I love that feeling when you get bigger in my mouth
- Oh’ I love it, it’s sooo hard
- Force it into my pretty mouth
- I want all your clothing off
- I am your sex slave, do whatever you want
- It’s too huge for my mouth [wink, wink]
- It’s so beautiful
- You could kill me with that
- It feels so perfect inside of me
- I am dripping wet
- I can’t wait any longer, I need this inside of me
- You have big balls
- I want your cum all over my body
- It feels enormous in my hand
- It makes me soaking wet
- Your balls feel so good in my hand
- Just f*ck me in the ass already
- Stick it anywhere you want
- My sl*tty body is all your tonight
- You gave it to me just perfectly
- It’s so handsome
Hope that’s enough examples for you and don’t forget to say it in that sexy voice we talk about earlier.
Summary
Hope this article helped you out and gave you some good ideas and as always, the only way to get good at anything is to practice, practice, practice!
Reading books and studying sex courses may help, but only real action will yield results.
Have fun and good luck,
Colt Smith
Wow! What a post!
Love your writing, what can I do about a stubborn alpha male?
He want sex, but no relationship! I think I’ll try to hook his ego and make him reliant on me… what are your thoughts?
I do agree, if you can’t attract him with your looks (even while trying to play hard), definitely try to hook his ego among other techniques.
Let me know if this works!