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I’ve seen this happen, I know a guy that went through exactly that. He didn’t believe he was worthy of his woman, this led him to do some really stupid stuff and he got dumped.

To make the situation worse, he now needed to figure out how to get his ex girlfriend back from another guy! He also wanted to know if it was too late for him since they haven’t talked in 6 months…

This girl wasn’t just a random girl off the street she was beautiful and had a playful personality.

His confidence was really low.

I gave him a few principles to help get his life to move along, and I thought I might share them with you. Over a couple of months he completely revamped his social life and now he has girls chasing him.

Read this article if you want to learn about mindsets that only a few men know of. If you are sick are the fear of approaching women and you can’t stand being awkward than make sure to follow all of the steps here.

If you want to learn about small shifts in perception that will make you exude charisma than invest the next couple minutes into this article.

The Ultimate Seduction

Be ‘Her-Conscious’, NEVER self-conscious

I’ve had the fear of wondering what other people would think of me. Do I look good enough? Am I good enough for people?

And it’s easy to get stuck in your head, start overthinking. And thinking is the beginning of the end in relationships.

Once you start overthinking, every social anxiety cell in your body comes and ruins your conversation completely and the only thing you can do is smile awkwardly and walk away.

And many people live like this on a daily basis. Just getting stuck in their head and thinking about themselves. This is the exact opposite of what makes people attracted to each other.

Who will ever want to be your friend if you constantly think about yourself. And even when you want to give people attention you can’t because they can sense you are still stuck being self-conscience.

What people and your woman want is for you to be as less self-conscience as possible, there is no one on this planet that doesn’t want undivided attention. 

I don’t care if it’s a super hot model or a new friend you just met, they are starving for someone to recognize them. We are discussing a human need, not just a personal preference.

And this is why I told my friend to stop being so self-conscience. To stop thinking about how you are speaking or how you look.

  • Nobody cares how you look, only how they look.
  • Nobody cares how sexy you are, they only care are sexy they are.
  • Nobody cares how cool you are, it’s about how cool they are.

When people feel cool and sexy around you because you make them feel that way, why the heck would they not want to be your friend?!

But if you are just waiting for your “friend” to shut up in order to talk more about your life and more about how awesome why would she be interested in you. This is the source of the problem. [1, 2]

This is why your ex left you, you were not making her feel good and now she’s gone. How can you get her back?

Follow the same rule we just spoke about, and this has been written about over and over by the pioneers in personal development.

Dale Carnegie writes in How To Win Friends and Influence People “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” This is what I call ‘Her-conscience’, if you make women feel good about themselves they will be your lover.

And one of the best ways of doing this is by making them talk about amazing things they do. Let yourself be impressed by them and their ego will double in size and explode on you.

In the 7 Habits of Highly Effective, Steven R. Covey says “if you want to be interesting, be interested.”

This is the best way to get people to love and respect you. I hate saying this but: you get what you give.

The famous personal development speaker Zig Zigler used to say: “If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.”

OR “If you go looking for a girlfriend, you’re going to find girlfriends are very scarce. If you go out to be a boyfriend, you’ll find girlfriends everywhere.” I swear if you do this your girlfriend will chase you. [3, 4]

Follow this rule to attract your girl when she isn’t even interested

Practice changing your paradigm to the one getting impressed, not impressing. Once you see yourself getting results try getting in touch with some of your ex’s friends and befriend them. Do exactly what we just talked about. 

Let them impress you. Even though you really want your old girlfriend back, invoke jealousy in your old girlfriend start getting a little intimate with her friends first. At this point she will start talking to you again. 

But you gotta be careful now… you can’t do the same things that made her run away. Let her impress you. Show her how much she blows your mind, let her feel as if she is wonder woman.

I know that you know your ex isn’t wonder woman, but seduction has nothing to with reality. Seduction is all about emotion, lure her in with her vanity.

Just continue doing this until you have her in your bed. This always works without any exceptions. [5, 6, 7]

But why don’t people do this automatically? Why does this concept need to be so complicated?

I feel that I used to think that if I show my friends how good of a person I am then I will be liked. In other words, I thought that if I show everyone in the world how grand and cool my life is than I will be loved.

And looking back, this is perfectly understandable, yet it is not only wrong, but destructive. Girls will only like you if you make them feel good.

And what’s the best and fastest way to make anyone feel good?

Make them look beautiful, sexy, and confident. Nobody will like you just because you are awesome, they will adore you if you make them feel like they are awesome and do amazing things.

As you work with being “her-conscience” focusing on what your ex girlfriend wants and you follow the 4 rules that I will lay out you will see surprising transformations with you women, and she will eventually come back.

How long will it take to get your ex back?

It will take time, it took me 3 months to get laid. Keep in mind that when I started I was terrified of asking for directions from girls.

The truth is I was blessed to discover the Global Seducer podcast, from there I learned about the host Sebastian Harris. I discovered his course and What’sApp coaching and something in me said “do it” and I invested in his book, course and What’sApp coaching

I recognized at the time that I could learn everything from the best courses out there, but if I didn’t take action then I would never see any results. Dating courses, no matter how good they are, are only meant to make you more masterful! 

And that’s why I was so lucky to come across his course AND his What’sApp coaching. I got the best of both worlds (at a very low price point for the value), I got the course to teach me the principles and steps, then he got me off my butt to start picking up girls.

And I failed so hard, I think I even embarrassed the girls I was speaking to! Talk about 2nd degree cringe! But Sebastian didn’t let me stop, each day he would give me my daily mandatory challenge. I was terrified before each approach, but the fear lessened over time.

But hey, you are in a better place than I was when I started off, you had a girlfriend, all you need to do is follow the rules of the game. If you feel that you need some coaching than get his book The Rise of The Phoenix from there you can either get his full 14 day seduction bootcamp course or/ and his What’sApp coaching. 

I recommend his offers because I used them and I saw massive transformation. I could tell you to get a thousand other courses, but this is the one I chose. 

You are getting a top notch ‘bang for your buck’ and if for some reason you don’t like it, he has a 60 day no questions asked return policy. 

Once you get the course within a few months you will get much more than just your ex back, you will see a virtually unlimited flow of beautiful girls.

How to practically charm her and make her interested:

#1: focus on her weak spots

If she knows that she is beautiful, than you can’t just tell her that she is beautiful. She already knows that, she sees that guys stare at her. 

But maybe she doesn’t believe that she is smart enough, this is a weak spot. This does not mean that you don’t tell her she is gorgeous, because then your taking the one thing that she relies on. But focus on her weak spots this will have a devastating effect.

She will be reliant on you for her self-esteem which is the ultimate enslavement. Although never forget to compliment the one thing she has right: her beauty.

#2: Focus on her amazing side

As humans we all have a great, strong side AND a weak, pathetic side full of failures. When we are attempting to seduce a girl we tend to just let them talk about themselves and that can be good, but then you run the risk of talking about her failures.

You need to make sure your woman steers clear of any of her failures, you will need to take control of the conversation. 

#3: Be confident

If you are going to be the one giving validation then you must control the frame. If you can’t hold your own you cannot give validation, you will come off as insecure.

Being confident means having a calm core. From that calm core you can be strong and take action. You must be constantly challenging your fears, you must learn how to approach women and really push your fears.

#4: Be self-aware, not self-conscience

Have you ever gotten second degree cringe from seeing some guy out there that has such a low degree of self-awareness that they talk loudly without even knowing it?

I know that I went on about never being self-conscience, but you must be self-aware.

Self-consciousness is a self-absorbed, narcissistic state of mind. In this low energy, people begin to worry what other people think about them and are only looking to fulfill their own desires. Fear of rejection creeps in at this point.

On the other hand, self-awareness is the complete opposite. Self-awareness is a state of mind where you see yourself objectively, as in 3rd person. 

Why? What is the purpose of this?

Because you are the goal is to make yourself as desirable as possible. And the most efficient path to developing seductive characteristics is to look at yourself as a separate entity, you stop taking criticism personally. [8]

You need to be thinking about how your character posing, smiling talking. Think about what type of energy your body is giving off, is it full of tension?

Pay attention to your voice, are you talking to quickly? Do you see any attempts of rushing the seduction?

Summary & Conclusion

To reignite the attraction of your girl, you really need to rethink attraction and that the core concept that changes everything is called “her-conscience.” You stop asking am I good enough, you make HER feel good enough. 

Once everything becomes about the victim of your seduction she will free fall for you. Using this concept together with the 4 principles you are going to completely subdue her and she will live out her sexual fantasy with you.

And most importantly – have fun!


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