How I Got Myself A Girlfriend
A couple years ago I was not even able to ask directions from girls because of my intense fear, I would talk super fast in the most awkward way.
I would go to sleep asking “why can’t I get a girlfriend?”
Those were hard times, and I lived like that for a long, long time.
I had zero social skills, I thought I had a permanent mental problem. I didn’t think that I would ever be capable of having real friends or real love. 
Everyone told me that I was crazy, I believed them. I never felt comfortable around people..
But whenever I would look in the mirror I couldn’t understand how I could believe such horrible things about myself… I was stuck in this unending pattern of self-destructive thoughts.
To make a story of many years short, I started to get my act together. I found myself a coach and began approaching girls.
Eventually, after a billion rejections and many years of work my life my life gradually transformed into a fantastic life, full of girls.
I want to tell you guys what took me out of that sad, depressing place to a popular, charismatic guy with tons of beautiful girls in my life.
But I want to warn you about something before we get started: stop dreaming for the one key that will give you super seductive qualities. It doesn’t exist.
1. You Don’t Need To Be Hot To Get a Hot Girlfriend
Most guys that don’t have girl think it’s because they don’t look good enough. This is not true at all for 2 reasons:
First of all, girls don’t care about looks nearly as much as men. They are attracted to the feeling that our masculinity gives them.
If you have a masculine body; that attracts them, but traditional beauty doesn’t have such an effect on women.
Second of all, you aren’t that ugly.
We set up these ridiculous expectations for who we need to look like in order to be loved. I used to believe that I needed to be a feakin male model to get models.
Then of course from that screwed perspective I looked ugly. The truth I am average looking, and chances you are too.
Anytime I looked in the mirror I only saw the the worst.
Whatever you see in yourself, girls will see the same in you. That is why girls rejected me.
You do not need to be part of the lucky sperm club to get a woman. It’s OK to be who you are.
2. 30 Days To Unlimited Girls
If you take a good look at yourself you’ll see that you have a great personality that girls love, you just have fear sabotaging your goodness.
The issue isn’t with you, the issue is that you believe you are undeserving of love and full of fear.
Is there a way to knock 70% of that fear away and become the true MF you are within 30 days to get climbing the mountain again?
Yes, and it’s the practice of semen retention. Not releasing to PMO (porn, masturbation, and orgasm).
You have masculine, rough, aggressive, passionate sexual energy in you.
But every time you ejaculate you release that raw power.
You can decide to use that animalistic energy to destroy any fear you have with women! It only takes 30 days to feel the 80% of the benefits of semen retention.
You’ll feel this incredible need to improve yourself and from that masculine place you’ll be able to approach any girl you like.
Think about it: your semen has energy that can create a human being. Every time you masturbate and let that energy go out in a physical manner you have wasted that incredible energy.
Napoleon Hill in his famous book “Think And Grow Rich” has a chapter on semen retention.
Napoleon describes the power of the sex emotion: “sex is the most powerful of human desires, when driven by this desire men develop keenness in their imagination, courage, willpower, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.”
So by using transmuting sex desire to succeeding in life you will experience: courage, willpower, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times… and who the heck doesn’t want that while trying to overcome fear of sexy women?
In the r/NoFap community we say that you grow an extra set of balls, you take bigger risks.
Here’s a video of “Captain Sinbad” on YouTube describing his experience of NoFap for 70+ days. I recommend watching his videos, they are very encouraging for some.
Here are some quotes from Napoleon Hill author of Think And Grow Rich on sexual transmutation:
- Controlled sex supplies the magnetic force that attracts people to one another. It is the most important factor for a pleasing personality.
- It gives quality to the tone of voice and enables one to convey through the voice any feeling desired.
- It serves, as nothing else can serve to give motive-powers to one’s desires.
- It keeps the nervous system charged with the energy needed to carry on the work of maintaining the body.
- It sharpens the imagination and enables one to create useful ideas.
- It gives quickness and definiteness to one’s physical and mental movements.
- It gives persistence and perseverance in the pursuit of one’s major purpose in life.
- It is a great antidote for all fear.
- It gives one immunity against discouragement.
- It helps to master laziness and procrastination.
- It gives one physical and mental endurance while undergoing any form of opposition or defeat.
- It gives one the fighting qualities necessary under all circumstances for self-defense.
- In brief, it makes winners and not quitters!
Whatever fear you experience around girls now, you will only experience a 1/10 of that after a month of semen retention.
- Don’t read sex stories/ edge, or do anything that will cause you to release semen because you will not feel the results
- Have something you can do when you are feeling urges. For many guys a cold shower does the job. I’ve done push-ups too. You will feel super horny, if you don’t have something to take you out of that state you will lose your streak.
- Understand that your brain get’s Fu(ked up by watching porn so for the 1st month you will experience crazy ups and downs.
- Learn more about NoFap, I’ll list a whole bunch of channels later. Learn about the benefits of semen retention this will keep you motivated.
- Breathe deeply. Deep breathing, particularly Wim Hof’s style, is an excellent way to channel your energy to the rest of your body. This will also help you stay grounded as you can become very wild with all that stored sex energy.
3. Start Approaching Girls
Get the course that I recommend in step 5, and start talking to girls.
Listen you can’t go from being terrified of girls to landing a girl right away. You need to start by cold approaching girls on the street.
Most guys can’t just approach girls on the street, so start by asking for directions and tell the girl that she looks pretty.
Once you’ve done that a couple times, take it to the next level. Every time you get directions, introduce yourself to her and ask her for her name.
You don’t need to get her number, just make sure she knows your name and you think that she’s pretty by the time she goes.
This is a scary step up, but you can do it. Do this for a week or 2 until you are reasonably calm.
Now you can start by asking for directions, compliment her, ask her some questions AND go for the number close.
This can be very frightening, but do this for the same week or 2. Once you’re done with this (and you’ve got some dates) you are ready with the last step.
Follow the same steps that you would if you talk to a girl at a gym or a party and get her number. No more asking directions.
Now you are doing cold approaches. Many women will reject you, but that only makes you stronger.
This is where a course (mentioned below) comes into play. They can teach you exactly how to approach a girl, get their number and get them to bed.
4. What Type of Girlfriend Do You Want?
You are now comfortable being with girls. You are OK being yourself.
You need to choose what type of girlfriend you want.
Some guys want a sexy, crazy, wild girl. A girl that likes other girls too!
Maybe you like the type of girl that you can take on adventures hiking all around and doing dangerous things.
That’s great, set that as your standard. It doesn’t matter how hot she is, if she doesn’t do what you love to do, drop her.
The effect of her beauty will eventually fade and then you’ll be left with a girl you don’t like. Honor your needs and get the girl that compliments you.
Or maybe you aren’t that way. Maybe you are an introvert and you want a girl that you can have some quiet time together.
You will find that you only attract girls that are like you in you in the first place. But you’ve got to conscience of what type of girl you like.
If you are looking for an introverted girlfriend, a quiet, cute girl, approach women in libraries or bookstores.
If you are looking for a party girl go to clubs and crazy parties. Just start dating away until you think you’ve found that girl you click with
If crazy, adventurous girls get you on, play intense sports with girls, meet girls on hiking adventures or at the gym.
Don’t go to the grocery store looking to buy a laptop. Fair enough?
6. How To Develop The Relationship
The difference between a hookup and having a loving relationship is huge.
One night stands are nice, but you won’t have that deep fulfilling feeling that a relationship gives you. This part scares men.
It can be terrifying to be more than friends and to allow yourself to be vulnerable with your girl. To open your heart to love completely, without defending yourself.
That is not easy. And it’s a journey. A journey to love.
You’ve done self healing and you’re not giving love from a place of neediness, you can flood her with the one thing you can never run out of: LOVE.
Love is the one unlimited resource that we all have. Why not give her and the world your infinite goodness?
This is the journey: you open your heart to love and never stop giving. This is exactly the process of making her your girlfriend.
Focus on giving her the feeling that she belongs, she is loved. Don’t even worry about getting love back, make it all about her and she will make it all about you.
Once you come from this place, you are well on your way to making her your girlfriend. It is just a matter of days until she officially asks you to be her girlfriend.
7. What is The Best Book To Get a Girlfriend
The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene is by far the best book for anyone aspiring to seduce, attract girls.
I actually own the audio-book and the paperback version of the book simply because by taking in the information in different ways I am reprogramming my subconscious mind.
One of the biggest takeaways that I got was to see rejections objectively and stop taking them personally.
This was really big for me, especially at the beginning, when I got rejected 5 times, the book taught me to stop taking it personally and getting all emotional about it.
I learned that there are ways to act that will get me sexy girls and there are ways to fail BIG.
I was acting the wrong way, I kept on doing the same pattern over and over again.
But the book taught me that what I was doing was causing me ENORMOUS PAIN and if I acted in these new mindsets and followed some simple rules I could have any girl I wanted.
Easier said than done, BUT this DEEP 468 page book, which will teach you which character and what process to follow will make everything a hell of a lot easier.
This book will not:
- Give you the motivation, you need to motivate yourself.
- Tell you exactly what to say, this book is about the principles.
- Change you overnight, BUT if you reread this and allow the book to seduce you and you put in the work you will be set up fine.
I recommend you could do what I did and get both the audio-book and the paperback and just let the words seduce you!
8. What Is The Best Course To Get a Girlfriend?
The best course in my opinion is The Rise of The Phoenix and the 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp by Sebastian Harris.
I have a full review on the Rise of the Phoenix HERE.
The 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp tells you everything you need to learn. The Rise of The Phoenix just gives you the core principles
He teaches the exact methodology to remove all guilt, shame, fake confidence, and build solid mindsets and confidence.
If you can follow the steps in this course for 14 days, your eyes will open and you will be like “why was I ever so full of fear?”
The course is also full of timeless principles. You’ll refer back to this program in a year from now to improve your night game.
The course includes:
- 14 life changing audio courses based on 73 scientific studies.
- 14 mind-altering trances that give you superpowers only master seducers have.
- 42 practical exercises only my one-on-one coaching clients have access to.
- 13 hours and 28 minutes of transformative audio content in 14 modules.
Everyday, for 14 intense days you will listen to a lecture detailing everything you need to know, then you will listen to the exercises that you need to do that day. And before you fall asleep you’ll listen to a mind altering trance that will reprogram your mind for success with women.
It costs less than 5 dollars per hour of transformative content.
Nightgame Evolution: The Rules and Words to Get Laid in Bars and Clubs (30-minute audio course) worth $49.99 for FREE.
Make Her Come: The Politically Incorrect Way to F@#k Her to Cloud Nine (40-minute audio course) worth $59.99 for FREE.
OH’ and by the way, this all comes with a 60 day no questions asked return policy!
A much needed day to day What’sApp coach
Important: The 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp and the What’sApp coaching is only available to those who invest in The Rise of The Phoenix.
Once you invest in The Rise of The Phoenix you will have the option to get the 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp and the What’sApp coaching.
The What’sApp coaching is by Sebastian Harris, the creator of The Rise of The Phoenix and the 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp. He will be coaching you every single day and answering any questions you have.
Every day he would give a challenge. At the very beginning Sebastian only made me do very basic, but terrifying things like tell a girl she is pretty and then walk away.
But gradually he made me do some small talk with girls and over a couple months a got some numbers and some dates. Dating was sooo scary, but he didn’t let me chicken out.
After 5-6 months I was basically fear-free. That doesn’t mean I had zero fear, it means that I had the relationships that I wanted with the hottest girls and I could live a healthy, sexy social life.
Approaching girls has become a game for me. I see how deeply I can seduce and flirt with her.
But let me warn you that it was horribly difficult. I had girls just walk away from me. I believed in “annoyed at first sight,” so although I make it sound like it was effortless, it was not.
Becoming a man that can get a girlfriend is hard, Sebastian once sent me a message: “[it’s] Hard but in the end it will be all worth it.”
I remember being in a mall not having the guts to approach a girl, so I just walked around each floor twice till I forced myself to talk to a girl and it was terrible, she just said no and walked away.
One of greatest things in life is the relationships that we build. Nothing is more precious or valuable than having a deep relationship with a girl.
This requires a lot of fears to be healed and for your heart to open, but once you’ve done the hard work there is nothing better than that.
There are a lot of articles that like to complicate the process. But if you see that you are deserving of love everything becomes very clear.
All you need to do is go to places where the girls like you hang out, get some dates, pick the special girl and build the relationship.
This is not a complex process and if I’ve done it, I swear you can do it too.