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17 Steps to Make a Girl Horny, Freaky and Aroused

No one asks how to get a guy horny because we all know that it only takes some visual stimulation. But on the other hand, getting a girl horny is a complete mystery to most guys.

But why is it such a mystery?

Because masculinity is what makes girls horny. Masculinity is the only way to get a girl insanely aroused and super freaky.

example of a horny woman

And masculinity is not something visual that can arouse a girl instantly the same way lewd imagery does for men.

In this post you will learn how to display your masculinity to make any girl feel an instinctual, animalistic craving to mate with you.

We’re gonna start with the clean stuff and progressively get dirtier as we move along. Sounds good? Let’s get started!

1. Create a sexy environment

Why do all the work yourself? Let the environment do some of the work for you!

Start by dimming the lights, you want to create a relaxed atmosphere (bright lights only make people alert). Just make sure you have enough like so you can see what you’re doing and get your condom on correctly!

Get your room neat and tidy. Girls hate it when everything looks all messy. Make your bed, clean up the garbage and put away all the random stuff lying around.

If you want some bonus points, light up some scented candles and try using the color pink because pink has been shown to make people feel romantic, affectionate and tender. [1]

If you’re watching a movie together, why not get the best movie for Netflix and chill:

  1. Y Tu Mamá También
  2. Pretty Woman
  3. Blue Is the Warmest Color
  4. Irreplaceable You
  5. About Time
  6. Don Jon
  7. Below her mouth

And last, but not least: use alcohol. According to this scientific study, some alcohol can make women feel horny, but too much can actually lower arousal in both men and women making it harder to get wet and holding an erection. [2, 3]

2. Use The Mind-Preparation System

The essence of The Mind-Preparation System is laying a foundation in your girl’s mind so that she can easily transition from being passionless to getting freaky.

This system is crucial because you can’t just grab a woman off the street and use a magic spell and ta-da! She’s soaking wet. It just doesn’t work that way…

There are many ways to apply The Mind-Preparation System, the first way is to release all her stress and let her fall into a blissful state of relaxation.

Here’s how you do that:

  1. Get her to to for a run
  2. Set up the environment as described above
  3. Give her a massage
  4. Tell her to take deep breaths
  5. Tell her to write down everything she needs to do so she can stop thinking about her responsibilities
  6. Get her to do a full body stretch

You can’t skip this part, there are just too many studies that show how stress completely blocks the ability for women to get horny.

As a general rule: any step in the article that involves getting her freaky without making your intention clear, is part of The Mind-Preparation System.

3. Use the Arousing Food Technique

I talk about this technique extensively in my post titled: How To Make a Girl HORNY Fast In 11 LUSTFUL Ways because it plays a role in the process and should not be left out:

All you need to do is serve her aphrodisiacs. Aphrodisiacs are foods that increase sexual desire, sexual pleasure, or sexual behavior, for example:

  1. Cacao
  2. Fenugreek
  3. Cinnamon
  4. Vanilla
  5. Nutmeg
  6. Ginger
  7. Cayenne
  8. Pepper
  9. Cloves
  10. Saffron

Most of these foods also increase blood flow, make a girl’s breasts bigger, boost testosterone, increase sperm count, reduce inflammation, and help with weight loss!

Because this step gets a girl horny without doing anything freaky or sexual, this step is also part of The Mind-Preparation System.

And by the way, if a girl ever asks you “why am I always horny?” The first thing you should ask her is what type of food she is eating because food has a direct impact on sexual arousal for both men and women.

4. Use your wealth to make her horny

You want to talk about the things that make a girl horny? Well here is the number one thing: wealth.

  1. Super cars
  2. Big houses
  3. Expensive watches
  4. Tailored clothing

And if you’re wondering why these things make a girl horny, just read my post titled What Do Women Want: 17 Things Girls Like because you’ll learn that it all boils down to displaying power and status.

Power and status is what makes any girl horny. And do you know how a horny girl feels? Here’s how a girl described it on Reddit:

She feels like her pussy is empty while feeling an intense craving to get it filled. Her clit, vagina and uterus are filled with blood and her breasts feel heavy just waiting for someone to play, grab and suck on them.

The inside of her vagina feels empty. It feels like it needs a cock to squeeze, stroke and completely encompass. She feels an animalistic craving to feel that friction.

Her entire body feels this way. Her first instinct is to lay down and open her arms and legs to her partner ready to get penetrated and pumped. It’s about having sex, not masturbating. [4]

When a girl is horny she can’t stop thinking about this, she needs to consciously fight that feeling.

But if you’re a broke guy, living in your mom’s basement what’s your chances of arousing a girl? Your chances are very low unless you take massive action to get your life in order.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed while getting started which is why I recommend you watch this 2 hour video by a guy who started with absolutely nothing and built himself up with pure hard work and determination.

You will feel motivated, hopeful and you’’ even get some practical steps to get started!

(Like I mentioned earlier, because displaying your wealth gets a girl horny without doing anything freaky or sexual, it is also part of The Mind-Preparation System.)

5. Ask her what makes her horny

The question “how to get a girl horny?” is not the question you should be asking. The right question is “how do I get this/my girl horny?” because every girl’s sexual response is different.

You need to ask her what gets here turned on, it can be anything. Here are just some examples:

  1. Role play (mother/son, teacher/student, father/daughter etc.)
  2. Having a six pack
  3. If you both like martial arts, have a “fight seen”
  4. Talking in deep voice
  5. Being choked
  6. Being humiliated
  7. Bondage/ tied down
  8. Being uncontrollably bold
  9. Lighting candles

And keep in mind, just the act of asking her will actually make her feel more comfortable getting freaky with you in bed. [5, 6]

6. Give her sexual compliments

Now that we’re done with preparing her mind, let’s get into the steps to directly make your girlfriend horny, starting with sexual compliments.

Here are some examples from Best 100 Compliments For a GIRLFRIEND:

  1. I don’t want to offend you, but you have an amazing body
  2. Your smile drives me crazy
  3. The way you look at me makes me lose control of myself
  4. You walk in the sexiest way
  5. Your lips are too sexy for my libido
  6. I’ve never felt so crazy around a girl before, what are you doing to me?
  7. Every inch of you looks so delicious
  8. You got a special kind of beauty that’s getting me hard
  9. I’ve never dated such a tempting girl
  10. Your level of cuteness is off the charts, don’t tempt me!
  11. Your voice is so damn cute that it’s messing with my mind

Obviously, you can’t say this the moment you approach a girl! First, use The Mind-Preparation System and when she’s ready, start sprinkling her with sexual compliments until she’s totally flattered. [7, 8]

Read more: How To Compliment a BEAUTIFUL GIRL’S Picture In 10 Effortless Ways

7. Raise the sexual tension

Without sexual tension, there cannot be any horniness, freakiness or arousal. Sexual tension is crucial, so how do you build sexual tension?

You make her feel sexually attracted to you without allowing her to fulfill her desires. It’s like holding 2 magnets close to each other, but never actually touching.

The longer you deny her the pleasure, the more sexual tension there is, for example:

  1. Lick your lips as if you’re gonna kiss, but pull away
  2. Tease her (we’ll talk about teasing her soon)
  3. Give her a massage in bed, but never ask her to undress
  4. Look at her with uncontrollable desire, but never act on it or say anything

Act like you have all the time in the world. Take it slow, girls love the journey. Let her heart beat a little faster and let her feel your unbeatable confidence.

8. Use the power of touch

Studies have proven that physically caressing makes the body produce a hormone called Oxytocin. Oxytocin makes people feel loved, calm and warm which is exactly how you want every girl to feel!

So how do you use the power of touch to get a girl freaky? Here are some awesome techniques that I learned from a great book called The Rise of The Phoenix by Sebastian Harris:

  1. Start with a slow handshake, at least 3 seconds. This sets the tone for the whole approach.
  2. As you talk, ask her about her jewelry (watch, bracelet, necklace etc.) and check them out while caressing her
  3. Once you sit down for a coffee date caress her arms. Always building up slowly.
  4. If you’re sitting down next to her, run your hand in your hair and pull from the roots of her hair. Girls love this!
  5. This theme continues when you get into bed, kiss every part of her body. Top to bottom.
  6. Before you even give her oral sex, kiss her thighs, breasts, and everywhere around her vagina

If you follow these steps, not only will she be soaking wet before any penetration, but also crazy horny and freaky! The best part is that you’re using her body to turn her on. 100% natural, no creepy techniques.

9. Use the Feminine-Mirroring Technique

I created The Feminine-Mirroring Technique to solve a very big challenge: men and women are opposites which  makes it hard for men and women to connect on a deep level.

  • Men are super logical, women are emotional.
  • Men are problem solvers, women flow with the energy of life.
  • Men aren’t about being sensual, women are all about beauty and pleasure.

This list goes on and on. Men and women are like 2 pieces of a puzzle that don’t fit. If this is true how can you ever seduce a girl and make her lustful?

Easy! Act slightly feminine, for example:

  1. Dance in a feminine way
  2. Smile
  3. Show deep love like a woman would
  4. Put on perfume
  5. Show empathy
  6. Put some makeup on
  7. Show emotion and vulnerability (at times!)
  8. Act in graceful way

In general, mirror female psychology which is why I call it The Feminine-Mirroring Technique.

It instantly makes every girl feel like you have something in common and the more comfortable a girl feels around you, the easier it’ll be to get her sexually aroused.

(Of course, when it comes time to make your bold move to kiss her or take her to bed, do not hesitate because that is the time to be fully masculine and be her powerful man.)

10. Use your muscle to make her horny

When trying to get laid, most guys forget about getting shredded and it’s a big mistake. Muscles is one of the few ways to make any instantly girl horny, which means:

Go to the gym and get a six pack abs and big arms (focus on your upper body because that’s what really gets girls turned on).

If you’re out approaching girls, put on a “A-shirt” to show off your arms and encourage girls to feel them. Don’t be lazy, start working out now!

11. Be unapologetically masculine

Being masculine is what makes any girl feel attraction to a guy. It’s about having those alpha male character traits.

Being nice, kind, or emotional will put you straight in the friend zone because after all, you’re just acting like another girl. No girl gets wet from a guy trying to act like a girl.

You must be unapologetically masculine.

Here are some examples:

  1. Have a rugged style, look masculine
  2. Show her your brute strength, grab her wrists and pin them down
  3. Pinning her against the wall and kissing her
  4. Show some of your opinions
  5. Be risk taking
  6. Ask her to interlock her fingers together, hold her wrists and make her punch herself lightly
  7. Talk in a deep masculine voice
  8. Work hard and sweat
  9. Show how you’re good with your hands

Most girls won’t admit it, but it turns them on like nothing else.

Real men make panties wet, not eyes Click To Tweet

(Like we mentioned earlier, The Feminine-Mirroring Technique should only be used sparingly because if you act like a girl too often there cannot be any sexual attraction. Remember: everything in moderation!)

12. Use the Sexual-Conditioning System

Most girls feel ashamed to show how freaky they really are. That’s why they say “lady in the streets, freak in the sheets.”

A good girl is just like a bad girl, except she’s only bad with someone very special. Click To Tweet

Girls hide their overpowering horniness in order to appear feminine and act like all the other girls. But you need her to express that lust! How?

Use The Sexual-Conditioning System. The Sexual-Conditioning System is a system that I created to slowly make women feel comfortable with expressing their true sexual nature.

So here’s how you use The Sexual-Conditioning System:

  1. Talk about your sexual experiences
  2. Encourage her to talk about her sexual experiences
  3. Talk about the spiritual side of sex
  4. Use the power of touch to become more intimate with her
  5. Watch “adult entertainment” with her
  6. Ask her questions like “what makes you crazy?”

This also escalates sexual tension like nothing else!

13. Talk dirty to her

Talking dirty is always super effective, but talking dirty in public is doubly as effective. Why? Because it’s risky and girls love bad boys who take risks. [9]

Here’s how you talk dirty to make girls horny – in person or in text:

  1. I am getting hard thinking about you riding me
  2. I am so horny thinking about your eyes that you better get ready for tonight
  3. Come home right now I need to be with that sexy body
  4. I’m gonna fuck the stress out of you
  5. I am getting hard thinking about you riding me
  6. I want to cover your body with my cum
  7. I am so horny thinking about your eyes that you better get ready for tonight
  8. Come home right now I need to be with that sexy body
  9. I’m gonna chain you down and fuck you like an animal
  10. I’ll lick you so clean that you’ll lose control of your body
  11. The view from between your legs is what I need now
  12. I’m gonna rub my dick on your clit until you say please fuck me daddy
  13. I need to hear you moan
  14. Shut up or I’ll choke you while forcing my semen down your throat
  15. I own you so get over here and I’ll fuck that pretty little mouth of yours
  16. I’ll fuck you so hard that you won’t be able to talk
  17. When I come over you better be on your hands and knees ready to fucked from behind like a dog
  18. After tonight you won’t be able to walk normally

Too scared to say even one of these to a girl? Then deal with the real problem: you have no confidence. And although, this is not a guide to build confidence, here’s my advice to you: get The Collection of Confidence Training by Hypnotica (review).

14. Tease her sexually

Teasing is about poking fun in a playful way. Sexually teasing a girl is about poking fun of a girl’s sexual attraction or behavior in a playful way, for example:

  1. You are a naughty girl and I must punish you
  2. You need to be taken control of because you can’t behave
  3. If you don’t bend over now I’ll force myself into you
  4. You are know how to behave you little slut
  5. Swallow it all, B*tch
  6. Show me how fucked up your mind is
  7. When I fuck your mouth – you keep it open, understand?
  8. Your pretty little body deserves to be fucked
  9. You’re too dirty I can’t believe I spent time with you

Only use these when you know she’ll take it the right way. Your first coffee date probably isn’t the right time!

15. Kiss her well

The key to kissing a girl well to get her totally aroused is about kissing like an man, without holding back. If you kiss a girl like an unapologetic man, that girl will stay with you no matter what.

First off, if you’re in bed with a girl: kiss her entire body with passion. That includes:

  1. The nape/ back of her neck
  2. Her inner thighs
  3. Her armpits
  4. Her earlobes
  5. The small of her back
  6. Her lower stomach
  7. All of her erogenous zones

If you’re on the street or outside some restaurant, try one of these styles:

  1. Holding the back of her head while giving her a scalp massage and kissing her neck/ ear
  2. Pinning her against the wall and making out
  3. Holding both sides of her head firmly and kiss

You can even say things like:

Your lips are delicious I can’t hold myself back

I can’t control my libido around your juicy lips

16. Show intense sexual desire

Whenever you interact with women I want you to show intense sexual desire because at the end of the day, unconditional desire is what every girl dreams of.

Here’s what Robert Greene writes in his book, The Art of Seduction:

“A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy figure – when he desires a woman, brief though that moment might be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her.”

This might be the simplest step and the hardest step! It’s hard and it takes balls to do it right, but it works!

17. Read and watch erotic stories

Only do this while you’re already in bed with your girl!

What guys don’t realize is that girls love adult entertainment too. They masturbate just like you do!

So if you already used the Mind-Preparation System and she’s all warmed up, just invite her into bed and enjoy it together!

And because you are being so open about your sexuality, she will be too! (i.e. The Sexual-Conditioning System!)

Summary

At the end of the day, getting a girl horny heavily depends on where she is on her monthly cycle and if she’s on the pill.

So if you’re doing all the right things and you still aren’t seeing results, it may just be better to come back later, but otherwise,

Good luck!

Colt Smith

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