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Learning how to be the bad boy is all about getting exactly what you want out of life while disregarding what other people want.

It’s an extreme version of masculinity that leaves people wondering “why do girls even like bad boys?”

It’s all very strange, but we do know that the bad boy gets all the hookups and sex that he wants, while the nice guy finishes last….

Therefore, this article is not about why girls like the bad boy, it’s about how you can become the bad boy and reap all those benefits.

The benefits of commanding the respect of your male friends, of having women fall for you and not caring of what people think of you.

You are the complete opposite of the nice guy. But I must warn you that there are disadvantages of becoming the bad boy:

You will never have a serious, intimate relationship with any girl. Girls will sleep with you whenever you like, but they won’t stay.

Your vicious, hyper masculine behavior will draw girls in, but once they see that they can’t pin you down they’ll leave. 

Although who I am to tell you what’s morally right so let me tell you the exact steps to become the ultimate bad boy.

1. Have principles

Having principles doesn’t mean that you have good principles, it just means that you live by rules. This makes you the boss for several reasons:

Number one, you follow these rules regardless of what any girl, man, or authority tells you. And that gives you a dominant energy.

You don’t let any hot chick mess around with your life. This communicates that you have a solid control over your life which is devilishly attractive to women.

The second reason why having principles makes you even more sexier is because you already know how to act in tough situations.

The nice guy that has no rules to live by and will fall on his face the second adversity sets in. He never planned for chaos.

But as you are the bad boy you know exactly how you’ll act and whether you’ll act morally or not doesn’t matter. It’s just about being the bad boy.

Here are some example of bad boy principles and rules of life by some of the greatest men:

  1. Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.
  2. Every man dies, not every man lives.
  3. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm.
  4. A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.
  5. Life is tough so get tougher.
  6. This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time.
  7. Stop trying to control everything and just let go.

2. Find your purpose

This is connected to the first step. But this is about the purpose of your life, what are you here on this planet for.

It’s not about being moral and ethically correct, the goal of having a purpose is to make you as masculine as possible, to be a bad boy, not a ‘pure’ child.

Have a purpose, that’s all I ask from you.

As yourself what you are living for? What makes you feel happy?

Who do you admire and what do you admire about them? Finding your purpose should come down to 2 things:

  1. You are growing and expanding yourself
  2. You give and contribute to others

In my journey I invested 7 dollars in a course called The Power Quadrant System to find out what my strengths and weaknesses were.

Because here’s something that most people don’t get: if you can’t recognize your natural strengths how can you improve your weaknesses?

This means you will have no energy to follow your purpose, be a man and ultimately you’ll end up getting zero women. [1, 2]

3. Never commit

This goes into the paradox of a woman’s sexual attraction to a man. Which is why you see so many nice guys trying to buy love.

Nice guys think that if they could just be a little better and “simp” a little harder, the girl will sleep with them, but in fact the opposite is true:

Women are biologically wired to desire a man that shows dominance, strength and brutality because that man will give her strong children.

Although here we are only going to focus on the quality being non committal to women.

Becoming the man that doesn’t care about having a stable relationship shows a woman your independence and strength. That’s exactly the man she wants to have a relationship with!

You must make it clear to her that she’s not important enough for you. It’s a savage thing to do, but it definitely works on a girls brain.

When she wants to talk about having an official committed relationship tell her that you have things to do and continue pushing her off.

Or you could tell her that things are fine as they are now. Meanwhile you’ll be getting all the sex you could’ve dreamed of without any strings attached!

And because a woman’s attraction is paradoxical, the more you do stay noncommittal, the more she will crave you. 

4. Be a leader

As you are aiming to be the bad boy one of the traits that you must cultivate is leadership. You must be able to inspire and lead other people into a cause.

It’s about having the charisma to build trust between you and your followers while taking responsibility for what happens.

But why is this so important since you are only looking for fleeting relationships and casual sex?

Because you are looking to hack a woman’s sexual attraction. 

As soon as a girl sees you in power as a leader she falls back into her submissive, feminine role feeling instantly sexually attractive to the dominant man you are.

(This brings us to a hidden aspect of the bad boy. Acting:

We all, as humans, have fears and insecurities, but we can make a conscious effort to cover them up with a persona to get what we want in life.

The bad boy can become a sort of alter ego. Another identity that we become in order to get what we want.

And in this case you act out the leader-bad boy to get the sex you desire. To impress the women into pulling down their panties.)

5. Be ambitious

If someone would ever ask me to summarize masculinity in one word I would say “ambition.” Ambition is the soul of masculinity.

And as you know by now, the bad boy is essentially hyper-masculinity. So in order to become the bad boy you must be hyper-ambitious. 

You must become passionate beyond measure about life and women will come to you. It’s your passionate energy that women become addicted to.

When I started this whole journey trying to become passionate about anything I started my own online business. It took a long time to build up, but now I love a financially abundant life.

You’d be surprised at how many ways you could earn massive amounts of money online. I just found this 2 hour long video that teaches everything you need to get started on your online business.

This is your opportunity.

Once you learn what you need to get started, get passionate about it. Be willing to invest time and hard work into your dream.

And remember you are doing something that makes you happy in the moment, this is not just about the attainment of the goal.

6. Stop caring about what other people think

The bad boy is a guy that doesn’t care about people rejecting him. He does things his way without caring what people will think about him.

This is what allows him to be so dominant. He simply doesn’t care what either of us think of him. He independent in the most extreme ways.

But how can you cultivate this characteristic?

An easy exercise that you can do on a daily basis is accepting the worst case scenario. Let’s say you want to approach a girl at the gym, but you’re feeling too much fear.

All you need to do is imagine the worst thing that can happen. Imagine how she might slap you in the face and laugh so that everyone else stares at you.

Then make peace with that fear. Don’t try to resist the fear, allow it. And by accepting the fear you can get around it.

Also realize that the more you try to impress others, the more you’ll get rejected. No one likes the needy guy.

It’s a paradox, but the less you care and worry about rejection, the less you’ll get rejected. With this belief and energy you approach every girl.

7. Go after what you desire

As the bad boy you get exactly what you want and leave. You are after hookups and leaving everything else behind. 

You love your life believing that you can get everything you could every desire: endless hookups, blowjobs, hand-jobs and threesomes. 

The point is that you don’t compromise at all. It’s about getting what you want and nothing else. 

This is not only true in your dating, but in everything. You go after what you desire without any compromise.

8. Be assertive

You’ve heard about this many, many times, but I must tell you that living at a higher level of assertiveness will make you a sexy guy.

It’s about telling people what you desire. Being radically honest. You are simply being true to yourself and if people don’t like it, too bad for them.

As the bad boy, you live for yourself. Of course, being assertive doesn’t mean screaming and shouting, it’s about calm confidence…

9. Calm confidence

By displaying calm confidence while being assertive you are like a sweet honey trap for girls. You are forbidden pleasure to women.

First thing you do is live on your own time. When you speak you pause often, you never speak in a hurried manner.

You have no need to prove yourself and that’s why you can easily charm people. You simply give them the ability to talk.

Calm, core confidence is about knowing you have control over the situation. You have no fear because you’ve learned how to manipulate the minds of women.

Here’s a great video by the greatest dating coach of all time: Joshua Pellicer, showing you all the steps to make a woman get wet, horny and freaky.

By learning these techniques you become fearless because you realize that you have complete control over what’s happening.

10. Live on the edge

Gosh, we are already up to number 10! I guess being the bad boy isn’t as simple as doing one or two things.

Being the bad boy is about living a different life from the rest of people on this earth. Most people live trying to escape their fears and suffering.

But you are different, you live for your fears and suffering. Facing your fears makes you come alive, you live on the edge.

But of course you don’t start by doing the most insane stuff. First you go repelling, then bungee jumping… working your way up the fear ladder.

After you progressively grow your appetite for fear and adrenaline, take yourself to the next level – go skydiving or whatever makes adrenaline flow through your blood.

This is how you live your life. And when women feel that energy they feel an irresistible attraction to you. [3]

11. Become seductive

Without being seductive how can you ever expect women to chase you? How will you get all your blowjobs if you don’t know how to make her desire you?

I can’t go into this subject fully because it’s massive and it must be studied on it’s own. The best advice that I can give you now is to get The Rise of The Phoenix seduction course.

The course will teach you everything you need as you’ll learn about in my review.

But while you are following that course remember this one thing: seduction is about making the women crave your approval like a child.

Once you have made her dependent on your approval you can easily train her to do exactly what you desire.

12. Show extreme desire of women

Let me first quote to you my favorite book on seduction “The Art of Seduction” from Robert Greene:

“A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy figure – when he desires a woman, brief though that moment might be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her.”

In other words, when you show a girl that you desire her so deeply and you are so hopelessly deep in love with her she will in turn fall deeply in love with you.

The bad boy understands this and uses this against women. He knows how to talk to a girl in a way that makes her have a mental orgasm because she feels desired.

He gazes in a woman’s eyes that make her feel unconditionally desired. This makes every girl that he talks to explode in sexuality.

13. Play the coquette

The coquette is one of 9 seducer archetypes that Robert Greene talks about in his book The Art of Seduction:

“The ability to delay satisfaction is the ultimate art of seduction – while waiting, the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are the Grand-masters of this game, orchestrating a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward – the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power – all of which, however, proves elusive; yet this only makes their targets pursue them the more.”

First the bad boy does something to allure his targets in. Something that initially attracts them then he waits.Because he isn’t the needy one he can simply push her away making her feel unlovable.

But as she wants to give up of him he compliments her, flatters her and brings her back into his life, but he never fully gives into pleasure making her super needy in the process.

Every girl that he meets becomes emotionally entangled with him like she’s stuck in a spider web ready to be eaten.

14. Don’t care about anyone’s happiness

This is part of that “badness” inside of him. He lives his life not caring whether anyone is happy. He just gets what he wants and nothing else.

As you become the bad boy you see no reason to smile to anyone that isn’t directly serving your desires and needs.

No one’s emotions matter to you. It’s a cold, hard world out there and you think that people just need to get a little tougher. 

You never compliment a girl unless you know that compliment is needed to get you laid or a personal benefit. But you NEVER actually care about any girl’s happiness.

And as you incorporate this into your life you will start to feel happier because you are holding onto less ridiculous responsibility.

15. Become tough

You could say that all 14 of these bad boy characteristics come down to one thing: being tough. (Reminds me of Tyler Durden in the movie Fight Club.)

Surface level toughness is about having a strong body, but true toughness comes from mental toughness. It’s about what you do when you get knocked down by life.

This toughness comes from having a purpose and all those principles that we talked about earlier. It’s about having that self-belief that no one can take away.

You have the ability to stay calm and focused in stressing situations. But you’re asking how can you become tough?

Start building your inner toughness by doing the small things and slowly taking it up a level. Taking cold showers, intermediate fasting, working on your business when you don’t want to.

After months and years of practice you’ll come out as a strong, tough man.


There are massive benefits to the bad boy. And with all this work that you are putting in I would say that you deserve it.

You deserve all the blowjobs, hand-jobs, threesomes and whatever else you can imagine. This is not an easy quick process, but if you implement all of these steps you’ll see massive success. 

If you aren’t sure what to do or how to start, I’ve recommended you courses earlier in this post, so why not go back and invest in your life? 

Your friend,



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