What Do Women Want: 17 Things Girls Like

When you know what women want and what girls like you can start to become the ultimate man that all girls go crazy just thinking about. But without this knowledge, you cannot possibly succeed with women.

Knowing what women desire is crucial.

Some people will say women just want pockets because smartphones are getting too big! Others say women just want a really good looking guy.

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The more “desirable traits” that you have, the higher value man you’ll be. And the higher value you are, the higher value women you can get.

So the goal is to become the best version of yourself and get as many of these attributes as possible in order to become the ultimate man.

1. Financial stability

I love it when guys ask “why don’t girls like me” when the answer is so obvious: you are broke and your life is a mess.

Women need men that have their life together.

This is the same reason women want men older than themselves: being older means you’ve had more time to sort yourself out and know how to build a business so that you can be the provider.

So what can you do about this? 2 options:

  1. Give up on ever succeeding with women
  2. Find some videos that can help you get started to become financially stable and get to work today

I say choose: option #2, become financially stable because you can and it’s what girls like to see in every man.

Think about it: once you have a solid business, you won’t worry about who’s supposed to pay for the date anymore and you might even impress your girl with your brand new sports car!

a woman is happy when she gets what she wants

2. An ambitious man

Number 2 on the list is: being ambitious and passionate about life, but here’s what most guys don’t understand: you can be ambitious about anything you like

  1. Sports
  2. Running marathons
  3. Building a business
  4. Woodworking
  5. Dancing
  6. Martial Arts

Again, it doesn’t matter what you’re passionate about as long as you wake up every morning doing what you love and always looking for the next biggest challenge to conquer.

And although no woman will ever admit it, women do not want to be #1 in your life. In fact, they desperately want you to be somewhat detached from the relationship and to focus on your goals. [1, 2]

3. Deep intimacy

Don’t get confused! Women want you to work hard on your passion, but when you’re done working, they want you to feel your deep love and to be with them intimately.

A woman wants the best of both worlds in her relationship. By having both characteristics you become the ultimate “Chad.”

OK, but what is more important to a woman: the loving, intimate guy or the passionate man? The answer: depends on her age:

If the woman is below 30 and is not pressured to settle with a man to have kids, she will always choose the ambitious man.

If the woman is above 30, she will most likely choose the loving, stable guy so that she can settle down and have kids.

4. Men with empathy

A study conducted by David M. Buss, Department of Psychology, University of Texas, found that women look for “good parenting indicators” and one of those indicators is empathy.

Women want empathetic men because it shows that their man will stick around after the baby is born to support them. Apathetic men don’t care about being good fathers, they just want to spread their seed into as many women as possible.

So what does this mean for you practically?

  1. Have a warm smile
  2. Talk in less defensive tones
  3. Use open body language
  4. Talk slowly and calmly
  5. Listen and connect to whatever your women is saying

(I have a friend that used this principle and purposely put a photo of himself hugging a dog in his Tinder profile to show women that he is caring. Unsurprisingly, it helped get him matches.)

5. Tall guys

Do girls like tall guys? Yes, absolutely. It’s a sign of masculinity because you look stronger and more resilient. It helps get the attention of girls.

But under no circumstances, if you’re under 6,4” can you ever think of yourself as a victim! You must remember that being tall is just one of the many things women look for men.

Don’t focus on what you have no control over, focus on what you do have control over: your confidence, muscle, health, charisma, sense of humor and all the other traits women love seeing in men.

So does being tall help? Yes, but is it everything? No. Still don’t believe me? Just search up “short men with hot women” and you’ll see exactly what I mean.

6. Beards

I’ve covered this topic thoroughly in my post Do Women and Girls Like Beards? 7 Reasons Why They Do!. But in short: 99% of women LOVE beards.

By the way, even if you can’t grow a full out beard or you’re just too young, just grow a mustache or a chin curtain and girls will appreciate it.

7. Being good with your hands

When guys tell me what they think girls like, they’ll usually say:

  1. Good looks
  2. Money
  3. Abs
  4. Confidence

And while all of those are true, they are missing one big factor which is being good with your hands and building/ fixing stuff, for example:

  1. Woodworking
  2. Plumbing
  3. Electrical
  4. Knowing how to build a house
  5. Simple stuff like fixing a bike

If you need some extra convincing just invite your girl over while you’re fixing a leaking pipe or replacing the chain on your bike and watch the look on her face!

She will look at you with such desire because you are displaying masculinity it it’s purest form: being able to fix problems and having the ability to provide shelter which is irresistibly attractive to females.

So if you haven’t already done so, get your money situation in order by following the steps in this video series, buy some ply-wood with your hard earned money and start building your own shed to show off your masculinity.

8. Muscular guys

A woman needs to know that her man is capable of protecting her while she is vulnerable with her children.

The more capable you are of protecting a woman, the more attractive you are as a man. But how does a woman know how capable you are as a protector? Your muscles.

Now we can answer the age old question: do looks matter? Yes, but not because women want pretty men. Looks matter because women want to see 6 pack abs and ripped shoulders.

To summarize: do girls like skinny guys? Not really and neither the men carrying around a lot of belly fat. [3, 4]

9. Influential men

Women want the influential man for the same reason that they want the muscular man: these men have the power to protect their women from danger.

The muscular man’s power comes from his physical strength.

The influential man’s power comes from his followers that will do what he says. (This actually makes him exponentially more powerful than the muscular man.)

So what do girls like about guys? Status and power. Do girls like shy guys? Not really. A shy guy will have a hard time with girls, but if he’s got some other good qualities, he might have a chance.

10. The bad boy

I hope you’re seeing a trend here: women want men, not boys or guys that act like girls. The more manly a guy is, the more attractive he is to the opposite sex.


So what is the #1 alpha male quality? Always being on the edge, challenging himself with new adventures.

In other words, the ultimate man for a woman is not the guy with a stable job. It’s the bad boy who’s dangerous and does risky things.

Read more: Why Do GIRLS Like Bad Boys And What To Do Now.

11. Being good looking

Although good looks are not number one on every girl’s checklist, they do matter, but you have more control over your looks than you think. Start by taking some of these actions:

  1. Wash your face every morning
  2. Get a nice haircut
  3. Wear nice clothing, have your own style
  4. Workout
  5. Whiten your teeth
  6. Grow a beard
  7. Learn how to smile genuinely
  8. Put one some deodorant
  9. Get a nice belt
  10. Put one good shoes, not slippers

And don’t forget to clean up your apartment too! Girls want a guy that takes care of himself. A guy that respects himself.

It’s OK if you weren’t born looking like a male model. Just focus on taking care of the things you have control over, stop whining about the things you’ll never get and you’ll start seeing results.

12. Confidence

This should come as no surprise to you: women will always fall for the guy with the highest level of confidence. In fact, a woman will never date a guy that has less confidence than her.

Girls don’t just like guys with confidence, they need guys with confidence in order to feel any level of sexual attraction. Confidence is not optional for women.

Being needy is obnoxious.

I wish I could tell you how to build confidence with women in a sentence, but unfortunately there are many steps and with each step of the journey you need to know how to calibrate.

So what are you supposed to do? It all depends on your level of confidence, but I recommend most guys get The Collection of Confidence Training by Hypnotica (Review).

The program manages to get most guys out of their pit of social anxiety and into the world of seducing and sleeping with magnificently beautiful girls.

13. Tattoos

A lot of guys like to ask me “do girls like tattoos?” and the answer is yes.

But why do girls like tattoos? Because getting a tattoo is risky – after all there’s no going back. And that risky move is a sign of masculinity/ testosterone which is what attracts her. [5]

14. Smart men

Girls want it all. They want a wealthy, loving, powerful, confident, muscular man, but that’s not all! Girls also desire smart men.

That means critical thinking, being street smart, having a good vocabulary and having the knowledge to fix things.

I know this is a lot to digest, but don’t get overwhelmed, you have many years to improve yourself. Just pick one or two things to focus on and get to work!

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15. Compliments

You wanna know what women want to hear? Compliments, compliments and more compliments. Women want to be flattered.

Girls even like it when you call them by a flattering nickname, for example:

  1. Carmel
  2. Angle
  3. Butterfly
  4. Cup cake
  5. Smoochy

But just like many things on this list, it takes time to master, but here’s a great article to get started: Best 100 Compliments For a GIRLFRIEND.

16. Having good sex

Guys don’t like to talk about it, but you need to be good in bed! Girls love having intimate, dirty sex. They want the animal in you and if you can’t satisfy her, she’ll leave you for another man.

This means you need to be good at:

  1. Foreplay
  2. Being able to last at least 3 minutes!
  3. Knowing what to say while doing the act
  4. Knowing some good sex positions

If you can’t last in bed, practice with a  fleshlight/ male masturbator and you’ll see yourself lasting longer and the longer you last, the higher the chances of your girl having an orgasm.

17. A good sense of humor

Last, but not least, women and girls are drawn to any guy that can make them laugh because they love the emotional stimulation they get from it.

Women want to experience a range of emotions and being funny fulfills that need 100%.

The great thing about having a good sense of humor is that you don’t need anything else and you’ll still get supermodels right into your bed.

So yes, being funny is massively attractive and when you mix it with unapologetic confidence you’re left with a deadly mix!


The key here is getting the most important factors down because once you do, nearly every woman will be addicted to you like a drug.

If you focus on the less important factors, expect to see many women leave you for a higher value guy. It’s tough, but it’s time to get in the game and start working.

Your friend,

Colt Smith

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About the author 

Coach Colt here, the founder of Dating Armory, your go-to source for no-nonsense, practical relationship advice. I'm a bisexual male in a same-sex open relationship and a researcher in sex, love, and relationships with 7+ years of experience. I specialize in helping both men and women navigate the crazy world of dating.

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