9 Techniques to Ask a Girl For Her Number [With Videos And 32 Examples]


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You see her everyday and she’s definitely interested in you, but you just don’t know how to ask for her number…

What if you say the wrong line and come off as a creep? That would be disastrous.

In the next few minutes, you’ll know exactly how to ask any girl for her number no matter what environment you find yourself in.

asking a girl for her number
  1. 1
    Girl, you are so beautiful. Your hair, your nose, your lips - they’re so perfect. It’s so enchanting just staring into your deep, dark eyes - I could do it all day. Can I have your number?
  2. 2
    You have the most seductive smile and the way you talk puts me in a trance will you give me your number?
  3. 3
    I’ve never met a girl that has made me feel this way, you have the perfect body and the most attractive personality. You would make me the happiest man if you just gave me your number.
  4. 4
    You are the cutest girl and my heart pumps at the thought of holding your hand. I must have your number!

These types of questions are perfect if you’re the romantic type or you’re looking to ask her out on a date.

However, if you're the goofy, playful type, try the second type of questions…

2. Funny ways to ask a girl for her number

  1. 1
    You know, this is probably the point where you were going to ask for my number. I'm usually pretty wary about giving that out to random girls, but if you want to give me yours I guess that would be okay...
  2. 2
    What’s your number, uh, um, I mean, what’s your name?
  3. 3
    I lost my number, can I have yours?
  4. 4
    Could you hold my phone? Oh and add your number while you’re at it!
  5. 5
    How will I propose to you if I don’t even have your number?
  6. 6
    Quick! I’m having an emergency! [what?] I’m falling in love with you! What’s your number?
  7. 7
    I hope this isn’t a deal breaker, but I won’t let you kiss me unless I have your number…

Seriously, there’s no better way of getting a girls number than making her laugh. [1]

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3. Smooth ways to ask a girl for her number

Asking a girl for her number in a smooth way is more than just “can I get your number girl.” 

Being smooth is about approaching women like it’s an everyday thing and not getting over excited like a geeky virgin.

That being said, here are some things to say to appear smooth AF:

  1. 1
    Hey can I have your number? It’s chill if you don’t wanna give it to me though. Whatevs.
  2. 2
    Hey cutie, how about you give me your number and we’ll go out for a smoothie some time?
  3. 3
    What up girl, put your number in my phone and we’ll get a drink some time, don’t worry it’s all cool
  4. 4
    I have to go but we should continue this conversation later. Let me get your number. (hold up phone, open a number input screen) [2]

4. Bad boy ways to ask a girl for her number

There are 3 key aspects to the bad boy - as discussed in how you can become the bad boy:

  • Coquettish
  • Lust for beauty
  • Bold
a guy in high school asking a girl for her number

When you put these together, you see clearly how bad boys would use these lines to ask any girl for her number:

  1. 1
    I think you should give me your number, because I’m awesome and everyone loves me. It’s really your loss if you don’t, to be completely honest.
  2. 2
    I am the hottest guy here, but you're cool too, so why don’t we have lunch together. What’s your number?
  3. 3
    I know you’ve got a crush on me, so what are you waiting for? What’s your number?
  4. 4
    Instead of stalking me why don’t you give me your number?
  5. 5
    All the girls love me so you better put a picture of yourself in my phone so that I don’t forget about you.
  6. 6
    Not sure if I’ll have time to hang out with you, but you've got nothing to lose by giving me your number.
  7. 7
    Listen, all the girls like me, but I kinda like you. So why don’t you give me your number and we'll meet up some time?
  8. 8
    You are super hot, let's hang out later, what’s your number?
  9. 9
    I like you and you like me, let’s go out sometime, what’s your number?

Being direct - like a bad boy - makes you less creepy because you seem more confident and women know what you want. [3, 4]

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5. Ask for a girls number during the conversation

This technique is my personal favorite for several reasons:

  • It’s the most natural
  • It creates trust
  • It makes ghosting virtually non-existent

So if it’s so great, how does it work?

Simple: 

  1. 1
    Approach a girl
  2. 2
    Start a conversation
  3. 3
    Ask her for her number
  4. 4
    Continue the conversation and make her laugh
  5. 5
    Optional: go on an insta date
make a girl laugh by asking her for her number in a funny way

What makes this technique so special?

You aren’t just approaching a girl and running away with her number (in fear), hoping she agrees to go on a date with you.

Instead, you find your high school sweetheart and start a great conversation with her and because both of you are having such a great time together, you naturally share numbers during the conversation and maybe even go on an insta date.

See the difference?

You’re focusing on creating a connection vs getting the number. It’s fear vs confidence.

If you’re new to dating and maybe even in high school, this is how you should go for the number close.

6. How to get a girls number online (Tinder, Instagram, Facebook, Chat)

You want a super concise, 4 rules-to-win-online-dating-guide? 

Here it is:

  1. 1
    Start by mentioning something you noticed about her profile
  2. 2
    Start talking about each others hobbies
  3. 3
    Optional: if you’re feeling it, get a little dirty
  4. 4
    Ask her out to a restaurant or bar and get her number in the process

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Now that you have the super simple outline, here are some real life example of what you could send over:

  1. 1
    Hey [Her Name], you must be the prettiest girl in the city, let’s grab a coffee at Starbucks
  2. 2
    I love texting, but why don’t we continue our conversation at [Name Restaurant] 
  3. 3
    You got a super sweet personality, how about we grab a coffee later today?
  4. 4
    Have you been to [name of park or mall]? Let’s go there tonight

7. How to give a girl your number without being creepy

Here are a couple of rules so that you don’t seem like a creep while going for her number:

  • Acknowledge the awkwardness. If you’re feeling awkward while talking to your girl, laugh about it. By the way, girls get scared too! (Especially important when you’re asking for a girls number at work as you both will most definitely feel uncomfortable.)
  • Get a girl to ask you for your number by having a super passionate conversation together
  • Get her number by simple handing your phone to her as a suggestion, not “asking” as talked about in How To Get a Girls Number - 4 Steps With Pics

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8. How to ask a girl for her number pickup lines examples

Before I share my full list of “ways to ask a girl for her number” I’d like to share a very important insight (and maybe even warning) with you:

Never suddenly approach a girl and use a pickup line as a way to get a girl's number because it’ll shock her and possibly creep her out as she doesn’t even know who you are.

You always want to get to know her by starting a conversation with her and building some level of trust.

So what I mean by “pickup line” is anything you say to get a girls number, not something you say the moment you approach a girl.

With that said, here’s my complete list (including the ones we've already mentioned):

  1. I’ve never felt so crazy about girls before, I must have your number!
  2. I feel like we’re meant to be, you must be the one! What’s your number?
  3. I’d love to take you out on [name of trip], but what’s your number?
  4. Oh, I wouldn’t worry much. Most girls fall in love with me after a single text. What’s your number again?
  5. Girl, you are so beautiful. Your hair, your nose, your lips - they’re so perfect. It’s so enchanting just staring into your deep, dark eyes - I could do it all day. Can I have your number?
  6. You have the most seductive smile and the way you talk puts me in a trance will you give me your number?
  7. I’ve never met a girl that has made me feel this way, you have the perfect body and the most attractive personality. You would make me the happiest man if you just gave me your number.
  8. You are the cutest girl and my heart pumps at the thought of holding your hand. I must have your number!
  9. You know, this is probably the point where you were going to ask for my number. I'm usually pretty wary about giving that out to random girls, but if you want to give me yours I guess that would be okay...
  10. What’s your number, uh, um, I mean, what’s your name?
  11. I lost my number, can I have yours?
  12. Could you hold my phone? Oh and add your number while you’re at it!
  13. How will I propose to you if I don’t even have your number?
  14. Quick! I’m having an emergency! [what?] I’m falling in love with you! What’s your number?
  15. I hope this isn’t a deal breaker, but I won’t let you kiss me unless I have your number…
  16. Hey can I have your number? It’s chill if you don’t wanna give it to me though. Whatevs.
  17. Hey cutie, how about you give me your number and we’ll go out for a smoothie some time?
  18. What up girl, put your number in my phone and we’ll get a drink some time, don’t worry it’s all cool
  19. I have to go but we should continue this conversation later. Let me get your number. (hold up phone, open a number input screen)
  20. I think you should give me your number, because I’m awesome and everyone loves me. It’s really your loss if you don’t, to be completely honest.
  21. I am the hottest guy here, but you're cool too, so why don’t we have lunch together. What’s your number?
  22. I know you’ve got a crush on me, so what are you waiting for? What’s your number?
  23. Instead of stalking me why don’t you give me your number?
  24. All the girls love me so you better put a picture of yourself in my phone so that I don’t forget about you.
  25. Not sure if I’ll have time to hang out with you, but you've got nothing to lose by giving me your number.
  26. Listen, all the girls like me, but I kinda like you. So why don’t you give me your number and we'll meet up some time?
  27. You are super hot, let's hang out later, what’s your number?
  28. I like you and you like me, let’s go out sometime, what’s your number?
  29. Hey [Her Name], you must be the prettiest girl in the city, let’s grab a coffee at Starbucks
  30. I love texting, but why don’t we continue our conversation at [Name Restaurant] 
  31. You got a super sweet personality, how about we grab a coffee later today?
  32. Have you been to [name of park or mall]? Let’s go there tonight

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9. Examples of how not to ask a girl for her number

Now that you have my complete list, here’s some things you don’t want to say or sound even remotely similar to from Quora!

  • “Please please please can I have your number? I really want to go out with you some time. Don’t say no. I want this super badly.”
  • “Girl, Hey um … female person … those … I uh I me-mean your phone … the dig-digits on it … can I ha-have all of the numbers of it?”
  • “Hey … your boobs … they’re, they’re very nice … can I have your number?”

Thank you for reading and make sure you leave any comments or suggestions below,

Colt Smith


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About the author 

Coach Colt here, the founder of Dating Armory, your go-to source for no-nonsense, practical relationship advice. I'm a bisexual male in a same-sex open relationship and a researcher in sex, love, and relationships with 7+ years of experience. I specialize in helping both men and women navigate the crazy world of dating.

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