139+ Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text [+Tips!]

Welcome to my ultimate guide on telling your crush that you like her over text. 

You will learn a lot in this comprehensive guide.

I promise:

1. Over 100 ready-to-use texts
2. A handy checklist to decipher if she's into you via her texts
3. An in-depth analysis of the dozen-plus techniques I personally use for each of the provided 100+ examples
4. Expert tips on the ideal timing and application of each technique
5. A compilation of Do’s and Don’ts to keep you on track
6. And to top it all off, a free PDF copy of this guide, packing over 10,000 words, available for your reference whenever you need it.

Dive in and enjoy,

Coach Colt.

How To Tell A Girl You Like Her Over Text Examples

1. Hi [name], I like how you’re so passionate about your science projects. I like ambitious girls 🤓
2. Hello future astronauts, it was nice to meet you and I’m looking forward to knowing you until your next space launch 😉🚀
3. Hi [name], well I need to be honest with you. I’m not actually attracted to you, I’m just a spy looking to steal some academic secrets to build my own spacecraft 🥷
4. Hi [name], I know you’ve been studying like a madman for the past week, but I gotta say you look kinda cute all exhausted with your hair all over the place 
5. Hi [name], was cool meeting you 👋😎
6. Hi [name], we both need a year away from humanity and this work! It’s great how we share this hatred for humanity 😆
7. Hi [name], I like your cute dress, but why was your hair all over the place today. I’m afraid you’re turning into Einstein!
8. Hey [name], there's a new Italian restaurant in [nearby area]. I've been dying to try their lasagna and I can't think of anyone else I'd rather go with. What do you say?
9. Hi [name], there's a [name of rock band you both love] playing on Saturday and I thought it could be a lot more fun if we went together. 🤘
10. Ever tried rock climbing? I've been wanting to give it a shot, but only if you're up for the challenge with me. 
11. There's a boring art exhibition next week that I need to see for my reporting job. Your crazy, artistic perspective would make the experience ten times better. Will you save me? I am the damsel dude in distress! 😢
12. Good morning! A classic movie marathon is happening at the [name of local cinema] this weekend. I'd love to share some popcorn and old-school charm with you. How about it?
13. I've got an extra ticket for the football game this weekend because [name of friend] can’t make it. Wanna come along?
14. I saw an advertisement for a pizza workshop at [name of restaurant] and I thought it would be super fun if we went together. Are you free on [any of the days of the workshop]?
15. 💃+🕺= frisbee + picnic at the park?
16. I know this is kinda random, but I am thinking of doing a weekend road trip to see all the nature around [national park around you] and it would be super cool if we could go together.
17. I haven’t eaten well all week. How about we raid the farmers market, steal their food and cook some delicious food together? 😋🥕
18. I’d like to try hip hop dance classes soon, but it would be even more fun if you could join me. Will you come along or are you too scared? 😉
19. It’s amazing this weekend and I’m dying to get out. I bet you are too! How about we hike [name of hiking trail together] sometime this weekend?
20. I’ve run out of fun ideas, wanna crash a poetry reading event at [name of library] this weekend?
21. There’s this cool, horror escape room not even 15 minutes away, wanna get freaked out together?
22. I love your red scarf, it really puts your whole look together as a cute “strawberry” girl or maybe the little red riding hood! 🍓
23. Your black boots plus your dark eyes really makes you seem like a dangerous ninja woman. But I’m not scared! 🥷
24. That ponytail you always wear gives you this cute yet determined look, it's like I'm talking to a charming superheroine or maybe a villainess. I haven’t yet made up my mind 😉😏
25. I like the way you wear your glasses. It adds this geeky, yet sophisticated edge to your cute persona. It’s like you're a stealth bookworm! 📚
26. Your oversized sweaters are not just cozy, they make you look like a big teddy bear. It's like you're a walking embodiment of comfort
27. It’s super cool that you lift weights, lots of girls are too scared to seem muscular. I like your IDGAF attitude. 
28. Your messy hair somehow makes you seem cuter. 
29. Your knack for vintage style is super cool. Timeless classic where everyone else is about the latest trends…although maybe you’re just from another timeline 🤔
30. Simple t-shirts and jeans make you look adorable. It's like you're the girl next door who's ready for an adventure.
31. I like the way your hair falls onto your shoulders, it’s very…graceful!
32. That vintage denim jacket you're wearing adds such a cool vibe to your look. It makes you seem like a rockstar!
33. Your outfit is really perfect for this sunny day. Damn, it even puts me in a better mood!
34. I know this sounds weird to say, but you have a very cute and super infectious laugh. You make me giggle too!
35. Your sense of style is special. You really brighten up the room.
36. The way you handled [a recent challenging situation] was very impressive. Made me feel calm too.
37. I love the sparkle in your eye when you talk about your ambitions and plans. Makes me want to go after mine too.
38. I love how you're not afraid to be goofy and let loose. I feel like I can be the real me around you. 
39. I love your hair, it’s so shiny and full. What is your hair routine? 
40. You seem so cheerful. I love happy women! What are you so excited about these days?
41. That’s a super unique looking necklace. What’s the story behind it? Is it an heirloom? 
42. Your cooking smells too good. Whose recipe did you steal?
43. Those were some cool pictures you took at [name of event]. Everything is framed nicely. Were you always into photography?
44. Your sense of style reminds me of [Fashionable Celebrity]. It's super cool.
45. The way you just said that with so much confidence (referring back to an incident), it felt like I'm talking to [Inspirational Celebrity].
46. You make me laugh. Do you watch a lot of [Comedian Celebrity]? She’s kinda like you.
47. You’ve only been working out for a year and you have the body of [Hot Celebrity]!
48. Stop looking at me like that! It’s too seductive. Gosh, you make me think I’m dating [hot celebrity]
49. The way you dance, you could give [Dancing Celebrity] a run for her money!
50. You have super bold eyes. Reminds me of [Beautiful Celebrity].
51. You carry the same energy and trendiness as [Fashionable Celebrity]. How do you keep up with all the latest styles?
52. There’s something about you I can’t quite put my finger on. It’s like you're quietly intense and it’s making me feel something…
53. There's something captivating about your energy; it's like a gentle force field…
54. Your dark eyes seem to tell stories all by themselves…
55. You have this subtle charm, almost magnetic in a way I can’t explain
56. The way you walk…almost like a silent dance. Very graceful.
57. You leave me feeling warm, but also slightly cold. Kinda scatters my mind…
58. The way you sing, talk and even snore… it's like a sweet melody
59. You have this pure look to your eyes like a vast ocean, so many mysteries 
60. There’s always more to learn from you, like a never ending novel that I can’t put down
61. It’s like your a pretty flower in middle of a dark forest full of dangerous animals 
62. Sometimes you’re a little too sharp for me, you’ll cut my head off with your mental samurai blade!
63. You know what's cool about you? You don’t put up a facade, no matter what. I feel like I’m always talking to the real you. 
64. I’m impressed with your determination in [her life goals]. 
65. I saw you yesterday doing [name of charity event]. Was genuinely heartwarming. 
66. Your hair, eyes, lips and your whole outfit is exactly my style. 
67. I love your passion for literature. It’s sexy in its own way. 📚🫦
68. I've got to say, the way you did your makeup this morning was incredible. Your lipstick choice was spot on 😏
69. Thank you for wearing that sundress, it really suits you, you know what catches my eye. 😉
70. Hey [her name], I really appreciate you making the time to come over 🙂
71. What can I say, [her name]? Your presence truly lit up my day - in a good way 😃
72. You and I wouldn’t even get along in a Disney movie
73. You are dangerous. What kinda evil plans do you have for me?
74. From now on I’m calling you [some nickname to tease her based on something she just did]
75. [She apologizes for misspelling something or autocorrect does it’s thing, tell her] Relax, take your time. No need to get jittery. I don't bite
76. You're radiating more energy than a triple shot espresso, Miss Turbo-Charged! How many cups have you had today?
77. Frankly, I’m ready for a divorce now and I don’t even want the kids
78. [Teasing her when she doesn’t text back] You never write, you never call, rent is due, and our 10 kids, 3 sheep and 5 goats are sick. What should I tell them?
79. Ah, I see. It only took you one hour to text me back, you must be hopelessly in love with me!
80. We always have cool conversations over text, wanna continue this over a drink?
81. Hello Miss [cute, teasing nickname], are you more of a beer or wine kind of girl? 🍺🍷
82. I like how we both love the outdoors, let’s have a picnic together at [name of park]. Are you free on Wednesday or Thursday? 🧺🛝
83. Hey [name], let’s grab a drink on Wednesday or Thursday. Just make sure you’re wearing the super cute sundress from the other day when we met 😉👗
84. Hey, [cute, teasing nickname], how about we bring our cooking debate to life? My place, dinner, you pick the day. Loser does the dishes. 😏🍽️
85. I’m craving some outdoor adventure. Let's do a hike this weekend. I promise the view is breathtaking…and I’m not just talking about the mountains 😏⛰️
86. That was fun. Let me know when you get home safely 😀
87. That was a great night, although [insert call back humor]. I hope you got home safely. 
88. I hope the drive home is as smooth as our date was 😏. Let me know when you're back.
89. Good morning sunshine, I’m free this weekend. Let’s grab some drinks again, plus I got a cool bar to show you. 
90. Let’s meet up at [name of bar] again, just don’t act too cute this time [referencing something she did on the first date]
91. Hello Miss [cute nickname], let’s meet up this week. I’m available Thursday and Friday night.
92. Good news, I found a place that does amazing [her favorite food]. Let’s try it next week.
93. So, I've been thinking we need a rematch at the pool table. Are you free Tuesday night?
94. I've found a great spot for that wine/beer you like. Let’s try this weekend.
95. Just saw a girl wearing [something funny]. Reminded me of you 🤭
96. [Screenshot of you playing on of her favorite songs] Not bad 🎷
97. I think I may have found your twin sister. I swear she’s just like you! [Then tease her by comparing your girl to her crazy, imaginary twin]
98. You: “Guess who popped up in my dreams last night? 😊” Her: “Aw, was it nice?” You: “Well, I didn't say it wasn't a nightmare! 😄”
99. [Following a fun night together] I had the most beautiful dreams last night 💤
100. Good morning Miss Dream Witch… You visited my dreams last night!
101. I had a dream about you last night. I guess you've really made an impression! …Still not sure if it was a good impression or not 😉
102. Whenever we chat and I’m slaving away at work, my day gets a whole lot better
103. Out of all my notifications, your text notification is my favorite haha ☎️
104. Your texts always put a big smile on my face, but especially the pics 😉😘
105. I can’t help but smile when I see a text from you
106. Our good morning texts are the best, like a nice cup of coffee in bed 👩‍❤️‍👨
107. You make my day so much better
108. I like hearing your voice notes while I’m drowning in textbooks 🌊📚
109. Was having a tough day, but thinking about you makes me feel a little better 💌
110. You've been on my mind all day today.
111. Oh’ gosh, you like that movie! We are officially getting married 💍
112. [She compliments you on your kissing skills]. OK, we can kiss again, but only if you say please
113. [As you’re joking about both being geeks]. You’re the WiFi to my internet life. 
114. So you're a dog person too? That's it, we're soulmates! 👩‍❤️‍👨
115. [After she says something cute or funny] Stop that, or I might just have to ask you out! 🍸
116. My diary is asking me if we’ll kiss the next time we go out. How do I respond? 💋
117. My mouth is starting to hurt from smiling so much. Next time you meet me, I’ll be a wrinkly old man!
118. You make things hard for me…in a good way 😏
119. Hi beautiful, I need to spend more time with you
120. Well, to be honest, I was nervous about writing this, but I like you! 
121. I’ve pushed it off for too long, but I love you and everything we do together
122. I've really enjoyed going out with you and I can't help but admit I'm really into you
123. You are constantly on my mind too, guess I’m in love…
124. Everytime we kiss, you give me butterflies. I love you [her name]
125. You have a lovely personality. I love that and I love you. 
126. There’s amazing chemistry between us. I am falling deep into love!
127. I know this is sudden, but I really appreciate you and I love everything about you
128. We’ve had so many lovely moments together, especially [referencing one moment]. I can’t deny it anymore, I love you. 
129. I thought I could control my feelings, but I’ve got a crush on you.
130. I am really, really into you. My God! 
131. I was really scared to send this, but here we go. I really like you and I want you to be my girlfriend
132. I was nervous to ask, but I really want you to be my girlfriend…
133. Would you make me the luckiest guy and be my girlfriend?
134. You make me happier than I ever thought I could be. I’ll be your boyfriend if you let me be your girlfriend!
135. I can’t imagine my life without you. Will you be my girlfriend?
136. Your kindness melts my heart. Thanks for bringing me breakfast. I love you so much for it 😘❤️
137. I love you because I can’t get over your cuteness 🩷
138. I love you because you make even the most boring moments in life so special
139. If I you don’t top smiling I’ll be forced to fall in love with you
140. You’re the naughtiest girl I’ve met. So open minded. And I love you for that!
141. You are the best cuddler ever, I love you so much
142. I love being able to talk and have these geeky and intellectual conversations… Or maybe I’m simply in love with you. 
143. Your creativity at your work and in life takes my breath away. I love you for that.

Looking for a massive list of compliments to shower on a girl? 

I got you covered right here: 215 Compliments for a Girl (Dress, Picture, Eyes, Lips, Hair)

But hey, 

If you're eager to learn how to confess your feelings to a gorgeous girl like the one pictured below and have her texting you like there's no tomorrow, then stick around and keep reading!

When to Tell A Girl That You Like Her

As a general rule, if you're just physically attracted to her and want nothing more, don't beat around the bush or hide your dick. 

Express your attraction ASAP!

Any delay might just land you into the friend zone.

But if you're in love and want her to be your girlfriend, hold your horses!

Don't spill your emotions when you're just getting to know her or on your first date. 

You don't want to come across as the desperate dude. That’ll scare her away, even if she was initially interested in you. 

Take your time, drop her sweet texts, and enjoy dates together. 

Go ahead and kiss her. 

Wait for the signs that she's into you too. 

Then, it might be the right time to share your feelings.

Now, this should be common sense for every guy, but it seems not. 

I was just talking to my cute, crazy Brazilian girl I met back in Portugal (we’re both in open relationships and bisexual so we had a lot of fun together as you can probably imagine) and she was telling me that in the last 3 dates she was on, each guy was talking about marriage on the first date!

I don’t get it!

But if, for whatever reason, you find yourself acting like that, that behavior stops here!

And when it comes to timing your texts, don't go too early in the morning or late night.

She could be busy with work (as pictured below) or out partying, especially on the weekends. 

Try catching her before lunch, after work or after one of her gym sessions (as pictured below) when she'll likely have time to respond properly, especially if she's been feeling the same way about you!

Look For Signs That She Likes You Over Text

The right time to express your feelings via text largely depends on her messages. 

So, are there signs that she's into you?

If there are clear signs of interest, go for it. 

If not, don't go chasing her. Either deal with the rejection and move on or hit pause on the texting for a week or two and try again later.

But what are these signs of a girl liking you over text, you ask? 

Here's what you should look out for:

1. Lots of long, detailed messages
2. Genuine enthusiasm in her texts
3. Various forms of communication besides just text (voice notes, photos, videos, GIFs)
4. She sends you pictures of herself
5. Frequent use of emojis
6. She plays along with your teasing
7. She accepts the nicknames you give her
8. Her texts have gotten a naughtier than when you first started texting
9. She makes it easy for you to ask her out on a date
10. She texts you late into the night
11. She compliments you
12. She's always eager to invite you out to parties and other events. (My boyfriend invited me out to a gay party after knowing each other for only one week!)
13. Quick text responses. Let's face it, we're all glued to our phones these days, me, you and your lovely crush, whether we’re chilling at home or even at a picnic with friends - just as pictured below. So, if she's replying to your texts in a flash, that's a clear sign she's into you. But if she's taking her sweet time, well, you might not be more important than whatever she’s occupied with at the moment. 

Remember, one sign on its own doesn't necessarily mean she's interested. It's when you start seeing a combination of these signs that things are looking promising.

For a deeper dive into signs that a girl likes you beyond just texts, check out: "Falling in Love: 124 Signs to Tell if a Girl Likes You".... Or this hilarious video by Casual Explained:

The Initial Interest Text

The Initial Interest Text (IIT) is like your opening gambit. 

It's the first text you send right after getting her number. 

Its purpose?

To set the tone that you're interested in her romantically, not just as a friend.

Here are a few examples of how to craft an IIT for an academically-driven girl who's neck-deep in university studies:

1. Hi [name], I like how you’re so passionate about your science projects. I like ambitious girls 🤓
2. Hello future astronauts, it was nice to meet you and I’m looking forward to knowing you until your next space launch 😉🚀
3. Hi [name], well I need to be honest with you. I’m not actually attracted to you, I’m just a spy looking to steal some academic secrets to build my own spacecraft 🥷
4. Hi [name], I know you’ve been studying like a madman for the past week, but I gotta say you look kinda cute all exhausted with your hair all over the place 
5. Hi [name], was cool meeting you 👋😎
6. Hi [name], we both need a year away from humanity and this work! It’s great how we share this hatred for humanity 😆
7. Hi [name], I like your cute dress, but why was your hair all over the place today. I’m afraid you’re turning into Einstein!

Choose the right text message template based on the kind of guy you are. 

Are you the geeky type? 

Try: “Hi [name], I like how you’re so passionate about your science projects. I like ambitious girls 🤓”

Got a wild side (like me)? 

Don't hide it. Go with: “Hi [name], well I need to be honest with you. I’m not actually attracted to you, I’m just a spy looking to steal some academic secrets to build my own spacecraft 🥷”

If you're more of a cool, laid-back dude, keep it simple:

“Hi [name], was cool meeting you 👋😎”

In all these examples, you're subtly conveying interest, which is perfect for a first text. Plus a good IIT message paves the way for a natural, flirty conversation.

Discuss Things You’d Love To Do With Her

By discussing things that you’d love to do with her alone, you’re indirectly telling her that you’re interested, much like discussed in this video:

Here are some examples that seem to work well for my students:

1. Hey [name], there's a new Italian restaurant in [nearby area]. I've been dying to try their lasagna and I can't think of anyone else I'd rather go with. What do you say?
2. Hi [name], there's a [name of rock band you both love] playing on Saturday and I thought it could be a lot more fun if we went together. 🤘
3. Ever tried rock climbing? I've been wanting to give it a shot, but only if you're up for the challenge with me. 
4. There's a boring art exhibition next week that I need to see for my reporting job. Your crazy, artistic perspective would make the experience ten times better. Will you save me? I am the damsel dude in distress! 😢
5. Good morning! A classic movie marathon is happening at the [name of local cinema] this weekend. I'd love to share some popcorn and old-school charm with you. How about it?
6. I've got an extra ticket for the football game this weekend because [name of friend] can’t make it. Wanna come along?
7. I saw an advertisement for a pizza workshop at [name of restaurant] and I thought it would be super fun if we went together. Are you free on [any of the days of the workshop]?
8. 💃+🕺= frisbee + picnic at the park?
9. I know this is kinda random, but I am thinking of doing a weekend road trip to see all the nature around [national park around you] and it would be super cool if we could go together.
10. I haven’t eaten well all week. How about we raid the farmers market, steal their food and cook some delicious food together? 😋🥕
11. I’d like to try hip hop dance classes soon, but it would be even more fun if you could join me. Will you come along or are you too scared? 😉
12. It’s amazing this weekend and I’m dying to get out. I bet you are too! How about we hike [name of hiking trail together] sometime this weekend?
13. I’ve run out of fun ideas, wanna crash a poetry reading event at [name of library] this weekend?
14. There’s this cool, horror escape room not even 15 minutes away, wanna get freaked out together?

A few things to remember here:

First, bear in mind that this isn't a date invitation, since your intentions aren't explicitly stated. 

At most, it's an indirect date proposal, which is why it's vital to pair this strategy with the other ones we'll discuss to avoid the friend zone. 

Also, remember that these activities should seem like things you'd do whether she's along for the ride or not. 

And yes, it’s true:

You especially want to share these experiences with her because you really enjoy her company.

But…

It's all about finding that sweet spot – you want to show her you're excited about the idea of doing these things together, but your world doesn't revolve around her say-so.

As always, you want to show interest without coming off as clingy.

The Overflow-Compliment Technique

The Overflow-Compliment Technique is a real game-changer, it's been a hit with the guys I've been coaching. 

Plus, it's super easy to use when you're chatting up a cute girl. 

Let's break it down, shall we?

The idea behind the Overflow-Compliment Technique is simple: 

It involves giving compliments that accentuate how a particular feature of a girl's appearance enhances her overall allure.

This simple change transforms a simple compliment into something more profound by going beyond physical attraction to emphasize the harmony and impact of different elements in creating her overall captivating look.

Here are a few more examples for you:

1. I love your red scarf, it really puts your whole look together as a cute “strawberry” girl or maybe the little red riding hood! 🍓
2. Your black boots plus your dark eyes really makes you seem like a dangerous ninja woman. But I’m not scared! 🥷
3. That ponytail you always wear gives you this cute yet determined look, it's like I'm talking to a charming superheroine or maybe a villainess. I haven’t yet made up my mind 😉😏
4. I like the way you wear your glasses. It adds this geeky, yet sophisticated edge to your cute persona. It’s like you're a stealth bookworm! 📚
5. Your oversized sweaters are not just cozy, they make you look like a big teddy bear. It's like you're a walking embodiment of comfort
6. It’s super cool that you lift weights, lots of girls are too scared to seem muscular. I like your IDGAF attitude. 
7. Your messy hair somehow makes you seem cuter. 
8. Your knack for vintage style is super cool. Timeless classic where everyone else is about the latest trends…although maybe you’re just from another timeline 🤔
9. Simple t-shirts and jeans make you look adorable. It's like you're the girl next door who's ready for an adventure.
10. I like the way your hair falls onto your shoulders, it’s very…graceful!
11. That vintage denim jacket you're wearing adds such a cool vibe to your look. It makes you seem like a rockstar!

Remember, the key here is to pay attention to her unique features and how they contribute to her overall look and personality. That's how you give a compliment that stands out from the rest and show that you like her.

The Emotion-Compliment Technique

The Emotion-Compliment Technique is a brilliant way to express your interest in a girl. 

Here’s how:

It's all about picking up on something attractive about her - it could be anything, from the way she looks to her personality traits, and then telling her how it makes you feel. 

Examples:

1. Your outfit is really perfect for this sunny day. Damn, it even puts me in a better mood!
2. I know this sounds weird to say, but you have a very cute and super infectious laugh. You make me giggle too!
3. Your sense of style is special. You really brighten up the room.
4. The way you handled [a recent challenging situation] was very impressive. Made me feel calm too.
5. I love the sparkle in your eye when you talk about your ambitions and plans. Makes me want to go after mine too.
6. I love how you're not afraid to be goofy and let loose. I feel like I can be the real me around you. 

Remember, the trick is to be sincere and genuine with these compliments. You want them to really reflect how you feel and resonate with her. That's when you'll make the most impact.

The Compliment-Question Technique 

The Compliment-Question Technique is a great tool to not only make your compliments more meaningful but also to keep the conversation flowing. 

You kick off by complimenting her on something that stands out, then follow up with a question about that thing. 

It gets her talking about something she loves and you listening – a perfect combo! 

Let's go through some simple examples:

1. I love your hair, it’s so shiny and full. What is your hair routine? 
2. You seem so cheerful. I love happy women! What are you so excited about these days?
3. That’s a super unique looking necklace. What’s the story behind it? Is it an heirloom? 
4. Your cooking smells too good. Whose recipe did you steal?
5. Those were some cool pictures you took at [name of event]. Everything is framed nicely. Were you always into photography?

Keep in mind it's not just about giving a compliment but also showing interest in her. By asking a question related to the compliment, you are showing that you genuinely want to know more about her.

The Comparative-Compliment Technique 

While making comparisons in a romantic setting is usually a recipe for a jealousy filled disaster, it can be used well in my Comparative-Compliment Technique.

Here’s how it works:

The Comparative-Compliment Technique is all about complimenting her in a way that draws a positive association with a beautiful celebrity you know she loves. 

Examples:

1. Your sense of style reminds me of [Fashionable Celebrity]. It's super cool.
2. The way you just said that with so much confidence (referring back to an incident), it felt like I'm talking to [Inspirational Celebrity].
3. You make me laugh. Do you watch a lot of [Comedian Celebrity]? She’s kinda like you.
4. You’ve only been working out for a year and you have the body of [Hot Celebrity]!
5. Stop looking at me like that! It’s too seductive. Gosh, you make me think I’m dating [hot celebrity]
6. The way you dance, you could give [Dancing Celebrity] a run for her money!
7. You have super bold eyes. Reminds me of [Beautiful Celebrity].
8. You carry the same energy and trendiness as [Fashionable Celebrity]. How do you keep up with all the latest styles?

If you need more help or inspiration, check out the 3 celebrities pictured below, comment below with a your own ‘Comparative-Compliments’ and I’ll rate them for you.

Jessica Alba:

Kristin Kreuk:

Alexandra Daddario:

The Mysterious-Compliment Technique

I developed the Mysterious-Compliment Technique as an excellent indirect way to tell a girl you love her by using a vague, mysterious compliment and letting her imagination do the work for you. 

Here’s an example

1. There’s something about you I can’t quite put my finger on. It’s like you're quietly intense and it’s making me feel something…
2. There's something captivating about your energy; it's like a gentle force field…
3. Your dark eyes seem to tell stories all by themselves…
4. You have this subtle charm, almost magnetic in a way I can’t explain
5. The way you walk…almost like a silent dance. Very graceful.
6. You leave me feeling warm, but also slightly cold. Kinda scatters my mind…

Now, that's my secret sauce to the Mysterious-Compliment Technique.

But…

After you've texted this mysterious compliment her way, you carry the conversation forward as if you've just mentioned the weather. 

You've planted the seed of curiosity, now let it grow in her mind while you casually discuss other matters.

Very seductive!

But remember:

Like a potent spice, this technique is best when used sparingly. Overdo it and you might come off as some mystic from a bygone era, speaking in riddles to James VI (as pictured below), rather than engaging in a normal conversation. 

One time use only - keep her intrigued, not confused!

The Metaphorical-Compliment Technique

My Metaphorical-Compliment Technique isn't about being vague to stimulate her curiosity like my Mysterious-Compliment Technique. 

Nope. 

This one is about showering her with vivid, positive metaphors. 

Picture this:

You're comparing her to the most exquisite, awe-inspiring things that the universe has to offer. She gets a glimpse of what you truly feel about her, and it's something she can latch onto and let her imagination run wild with. 

Examples to use:

1. The way you sing, talk and even snore… it's like a sweet melody
2. You have this pure look to your eyes like a vast ocean, so many mysteries 
3. There’s always more to learn from you, like a never ending novel that I can’t put down
4. It’s like your a pretty flower in middle of a dark forest full of dangerous animals 
5. Sometimes you’re a little too sharp for me, you’ll cut my head off with your mental samurai blade!

Again, this is a one use only technique for the same reasons mentioned above. 

The Compliment-Appreciation Technique

With my Compliment-Appreciation Technique, you’re not merely tossing out random compliments until you win her over. 

That only makes her feel stupid and you seem needy.

That's not the point here. 

What you’re doing with my Compliment-Appreciation Technique is simply acknowledging her unique qualities, traits and individuality, showing her that you see her for who she truly is and you simply appreciate it, rather than putting her on a pedestal and making her uncomfortable.

Here are some examples I've shared with my students:

1. You know what's cool about you? You don’t put up a facade, no matter what. I feel like I’m always talking to the real you. 
2. I’m impressed with your determination in [her life goals]. 
3. I saw you yesterday doing [name of charity event]. Was genuinely heartwarming. 
4. Your hair, eyes, lips and your whole outfit is exactly my style. 
5. I love your passion for literature. It’s sexy in its own way. 📚🫦
6. I've got to say, the way you did your makeup this morning was incredible. Your lipstick choice was spot on 😏
7. Thank you for wearing that sundress, it really suits you, you know what catches my eye. 😉
8. Hey [her name], I really appreciate you making the time to come over 🙂
9. What can I say, [her name]? Your presence truly lit up my day - in a good way 😃

Show her you see her, you acknowledge her and you appreciate her for being who she is. 

You're not needy; you're appreciative.

The Teasing Text

Teasing can be an effective tool when it comes to letting a girl know that you're into her. It lets you playfully jab and challenge her, while also giving off subtle hints about your feelings. 

I've written a comprehensive, 16,000 word guide about how to properly tease girls, which I encourage you to check out. 

For now, here are some additional examples of teasing texts that can indirectly confess your love for your crush:

1. You and I wouldn’t even get along in a Disney movie
2. You are dangerous. What kinda evil plans do you have for me?
3. From now on I’m calling you [some nickname to tease her based on something she just did]
4. [She apologizes for misspelling something or autocorrect does it’s thing, tell her] Relax, take your time. No need to get jittery. I don't bite
5. You're radiating more energy than a triple shot espresso, Miss Turbo-Charged! How many cups have you had today?
6. Frankly, I’m ready for a divorce now and I don’t even want the kids
7. [Teasing her when she doesn’t text back] You never write, you never call, rent is due, and our 10 kids, 3 sheep and 5 goats are sick. What should I tell them?
8. Ah, I see. It only took you one hour to text me back, you must be hopelessly in love with me!

The key here is that you strike a balance. 

Not too much of a ‘Bad Boy’ to wear she feels like you're criticizing her and not too much of a ‘nice guy’ that she feels like you’re walking on eggshells. 

Find that sweet spot.

On The Date Request Text

Instead of drily asking for a date on ‘Wednesday night, 7pm at Scott’s Bar’ like most boring guys, add some flavor to your date request to further show that you’re into her. 

Here’s what I mean:

1. We always have cool conversations over text, wanna continue this over a drink?
2. Hello Miss [cute, teasing nickname], are you more of a beer or wine kind of girl? 🍺🍷
3. I like how we both love the outdoors, let’s have a picnic together at [name of park]. Are you free on Wednesday or Thursday? 🧺🛝
4. Hey [name], let’s grab a drink on Wednesday or Thursday. Just make sure you’re wearing the super cute sundress from the other day when we met 😉👗
5. Hey, [cute, teasing nickname], how about we bring our cooking debate to life? My place, dinner, you pick the day. Loser does the dishes. 😏🍽️
6. I’m craving some outdoor adventure. Let's do a hike this weekend. I promise the view is breathtaking…and I’m not just talking about the mountains 😏⛰️

Now, by using these creative and personalized date requests, you're taking the pressure off of her. 

She doesn't have to awkwardly respond over text with an 'I like you too'. 

If she’s interested in you, she'll say yes to the date! 

If she’s not, you quickly move on and stop wasting time with her as we’ll discuss in the rejection section of this guide. 

For more ideas on how to ask a girl out over text, read my guide: 9 Steps to Ask Any Girl Out Over Text

I’m sure you’ll like it 😉.

On The Post Date Text

After you’ve finished your first date and you’re sure that you’ve had a good time together, send her a cute confirmation text to show your continued interest.

Here are some examples:

1. That was fun. Let me know when you get home safely 😀
2. That was a great night, although [insert call back humor]. I hope you got home safely. 
3. I hope the drive home is as smooth as our date was 😏. Let me know when you're back.

With any text that you’ll use, it’s important not to over invest or sound overly eager.

Keep it simple, light, and genuine. 

While Setting Up The Second Date

Following your first date, and a couple of days of engaging in chill conversation, it's time to make your move for the second date. 

Here's how you can do it subtly while expressing interest:

1. Good morning sunshine, I’m free this weekend. Let’s grab some drinks again, plus I got a cool bar to show you. 
2. Let’s meet up at [name of bar] again, just don’t act too cute this time [referencing something she did on the first date]
3. Hello Miss [cute nickname], let’s meet up this week. I’m available Thursday and Friday night.
4. Good news, I found a place that does amazing [her favorite food]. Let’s try it next week.
5. So, I've been thinking we need a rematch at the pool table. Are you free Tuesday night?
6. I've found a great spot for that wine/beer you like. Let’s try this weekend.

As you can see, the trick here is to be subtly assertive without coming off as needy. 

For more tips on how to request a second date, check out my article: "Ask for a Second Date: 14 Subtle Methods [With Examples]".

The Cute-Reminder-Text

The Cute-Reminder-Text is a simple technique to subtly show that you’ve been thinking about her throughout your day while potentially teasing her.

Here are some examples:

1. Just saw a girl wearing [something funny]. Reminded me of you 🤭
2. [Screenshot of you playing on of her favorite songs] Not bad 🎷
3. I think I may have found your twin sister. I swear she’s just like you! [Then tease her by comparing your girl to her crazy, imaginary twin]

You’re showing that she’s on your mind, but you’re mixing it with some teasing to achieve that perfect balance. 

The Love-Dream-Text 

If ‘The Cute-Reminder-Text’ was you daydreaming about her, ‘The Love-Dream-Text’ is you dreaming about her. 

Both show that she holds a special, emotional place in your mind.

Here’s are some examples: 

1. You: “Guess who popped up in my dreams last night? 😊” Her: “Aw, was it nice?” You: “Well, I didn't say it wasn't a nightmare! 😄”
2. [Following a fun night together] I had the most beautiful dreams last night 💤
3. Good morning Miss Dream Witch… You visited my dreams last night!
4. I had a dream about you last night. I guess you've really made an impression! …Still not sure if it was a good impression or not 😉

I did something similar with my boyfriend as you can see: 

Cute Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text

Here are my best example texts:

1. Whenever we chat and I’m slaving away at work, my day gets a whole lot better
2. Out of all my notifications, your text notification is my favorite haha ☎️
3. Your texts always put a big smile on my face, but especially the pics 😉😘
4. I can’t help but smile when I see a text from you
5. Our good morning texts are the best, like a nice cup of coffee in bed 👩‍❤️‍👨
6. You make my day so much better
7. I like hearing your voice notes while I’m drowning in textbooks 🌊📚
8. Was having a tough day, but thinking about you makes me feel a little better 💌
9. You've been on my mind all day today.

Remember, sincerity is key. Only use these as inspiration and adjust them to fit your personal style and relationship with your girl.

Funny Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text

Girls like guys who can make you laugh, so why not inject some humor into your texts?

Here are some examples: 

1. Oh’ gosh, you like that movie! We are officially getting married 💍
2. [She compliments you on your kissing skills]. OK, we can kiss again, but only if you say please
3. [As you’re joking about both being geeks]. You’re the WiFi to my internet life. 
4. So you're a dog person too? That's it, we're soulmates! 👩‍❤️‍👨
5. [After she says something cute or funny] Stop that, or I might just have to ask you out! 🍸
6. My diary is asking me if we’ll kiss the next time we go out. How do I respond? 💋
7. My mouth is starting to hurt from smiling so much. Next time you meet me, I’ll be a wrinkly old man!
8. You make things hard for me…in a good way 😏

Be playful and have a good time!

Direct Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text 

Here are some direct ways to tell a girl you like her over text: 

1. Hi beautiful, I need to spend more time with you
2. Well, to be honest, I was nervous about writing this, but I like you! 
3. I’ve pushed it off for too long, but I love you and everything we do together
4. I've really enjoyed going out with you and I can't help but admit I'm really into you
5. You are constantly on my mind too, guess I’m in love…
6. Everytime we kiss, you give me butterflies. I love you [her name]
7. You have a lovely personality. I love that and I love you. 
8. There’s amazing chemistry between us. I am falling deep into love!
9. I know this is sudden, but I really appreciate you and I love everything about you
10. We’ve had so many lovely moments together, especially [referencing one moment]. I can’t deny it anymore, I love you. 
11. I thought I could control my feelings, but I’ve got a crush on you.
12. I am really, really into you. My God! 

Like all my examples, be honest and sincere. 

The ‘Official Girlfriend Text’

Instead of telling her that you like her, you ask her to be your girlfriend: 

1. I was really scared to send this, but here we go. I really like you and I want you to be my girlfriend
2. I was nervous to ask, but I really want you to be my girlfriend…
3. Would you make me the luckiest guy and be my girlfriend?
4. You make me happier than I ever thought I could be. I’ll be your boyfriend if you let me be your girlfriend!
5. I can’t imagine my life without you. Will you be my girlfriend?

You can also subtly tell her that she’s already your girlfriend, much like how I confirmed to my boyfriend that we’re a couple by texting “Goodnight baby 😘”

Obviously, don’t rush to send this after the first date of two. Wait till you're 99% sure that she’ll say yes. 

Tell a Girl Why You Love Her Over Text

Instead of simply confessing your love over text, why not share what makes her so special to you and why exactly you love her?

Here’s how:

1. Your kindness melts my heart. Thanks for bringing me breakfast. I love you so much for it 😘❤️
2. I love you because I can’t get over your cuteness 🩷
3. I love you because you make even the most boring moments in life so special
4. If I you don’t top smiling I’ll be forced to fall in love with you
5. You’re the naughtiest girl I’ve met. So open minded. And I love you for that!
6. You are the best cuddler ever, I love you so much
7. I love being able to talk and have these geeky and intellectual conversations… Or maybe I’m simply in love with you. 
8. Your creativity at your work and in life takes my breath away. I love you for that. 

Again, make sure the timing is right.

Tell a girl you like her over Whatsapp, Instagram or Facebook 

The cool thing about using messaging apps Whatsapp, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) over regular texting (unless you’re using iMessage) is that you’re not limited to just using words. You can send pictures, GIFs, videos and even voice notes. 

Below you’ll see detailed instructions for how to use each feature.

Tell a girl you like her using pictures 

The Shared Experience Picture

Send a picture of something you did together (doesn’t have to be a romantic date) and caption it with “I had an amazing time with you.”

The Pet Picture

Send a picture of your pet with a caption “my [name of your pet] is missing you already”. The Pet Picture works especially well if she likes animals and pets already. 

The Handwritten Note Picture

Instead of passing a cute love note in class, take a picture of it and send it to her. This makes it feel much more personal.

The Favorite Place Picture

Send a picture of some cool place you want to visit with her.

The Shared Interest Picture

Send a picture of something you’re both into 

The Cute-Reminder-Text 

Send a picture of something that reminds you of her with a cute caption

The Action Text

if you’re going on a cool hike with friends, send a picture of yourself with a message that you wish she had come along

The Model-Like Message

Take a picture of a stunning model on a billboard or advertisement and tell her that the model reminded you of her. Very similar to my Comparative-Compliment Technique. 

The Love Sketch

Send her a drawing or a sketch that you made of her

Tell a girl you like her using videos

Personal Song Cover

If you play an instrument or can sing well, recond a short cover of a song you both love and add a note saying that the song makes you think of her.

Here’s an example:

The Dinner Cooking Tutorial

Make a short video (think Instagram style) of you preparing your favorite dishes. If you’re looking to set a second or third date with her, add a caption “We’ll have a delicious, homemade dinner one of these days” or “I hope you're practicing for our next dinner together too!”

Example:

Funny Skit or Joke Video

Simply sending her funny Instagram/ social media videos that made you think of her.

Personalized Travel Video

If you can’t see each other because you’re on vacation or in another country for whatever reason, send her personalized highlights of your trip. You can also add a message like “Hi [her name], would be even better with you here with me.”

The Proud Show Off

Instead of trying to hide that you’re trying to impress her, ‘break the 4th wall’ and do it outright by doing something you’re especially good at and adding “Can't wait to show you this in person!”

If you’re good at skateboarding, you could copy something like this:

Tell a girl you like her using GIFs

GIFs, those bite-sized looping animations, can be an incredibly expressive way of conveying your feelings.

The Personal GIF

While there's an ocean of pre-made GIFs at your disposal online (Giphy, Tenor, etc.), why not take it a step further? Create your very own, personalized GIF to show her how special she is to you. 

It may sound complex, but trust me, it's simpler than you think:

1. Find or Record Your Own Video: Hunt down a video clip that encapsulates your feelings or, even better, record a new one just for her. 
2. Prepare Your Video: Ensure your video is easy to access and not too large. The shorter the video, the smaller the GIF. 
3. Convert to GIF: Head to https://ezgif.com/video-to-gif, upload your video, and follow the straightforward instructions to transform it into a GIF. 
4. Download and Send: Save your new GIF, then send it over to her in a message. 

So, you've now got the tools to create your own GIFs. 

But if you're short on time or can't quite find the right video, there's no harm in using pre-existing GIFs online. 

Here are 7 ways to do that:

The Famous Movie Line

Find a movie GIF that captures your emotions (could be romantic or something funny) and send it over.

The Celebrity GIF

First, find a celebrity who your girl is obsessed with, then get a GIF of that person waving, blowing a kiss, or doing something else that's flirty.

The Animal GIF

Could’ve mentioned this earlier, but I’ll just drop it here: if religion and politics are the last things you want to talk about with a girl, cute animals are the exact opposite. No one feels negative emotions when they see happy dogs or really any animals for that matter. 

And just like when you send pictures or videos to her with cute animals, you’ll do the same thing with GIFs by finding a GIF of a puppy wagging its tail excitedly and a caption of “this is me when I think of you.”

The Reaction GIF

Send a Reaction GIF to express emotions about something that happened. 

For example, she tells you that she just got accepted to her dream college program, send her something like this:

The Meme GIFs

Find a GIF that’ll make you both laugh.

The Romantic GIF

Find a GIF of a movie character (cartoon or real) giving a flower, heart, or doing any other romantic gesture. 

The Adventure GIF

Send a GIF of you doing an adventurous activity like hiking, skydiving or surfing (or just any GIF without you) and say something like “You and me someday 😃”

Tell a girl you like her using voice notes

A voice note can be a powerful and intimate way to express your feelings. 

If you're blessed with a sexy, masculine voice, using the voice note feature on your preferred messaging app could be a game changer. 

So, how do you pull it off? 

Here's a simple step-by-step guide:

1. Preparation is Key: Know what you want to say before you hit the record button. Make sure it's genuine and captures the essence of your feelings.
2. Set the Scene: The ambiance of your surroundings can add a layer of depth to your voice note. Whether you want the energetic hum of a bar or the tranquil silence of your room, ensure the background sets the right mood.
3. Prep Your Voice: Hydrate, clear your throat, or do some quick vocal exercises. Make sure your voice is in prime condition.
4. Press Record: With everything set, it's time to press record and let your feelings flow. Speak from the heart and let her hear the sincerity in your voice.
5. Send With Confidence: Once you're done, release the record button to send your voice note. WhatsApp doesn't currently allow for pre-send reviews, so confidence is key. Don't worry about perfection - a few natural hesitations can make your message seem even more sincere and genuine.

A personal voice note can be a truly unique and memorable way to show your interest to your woman.

And remember, it's not just about what you say, but how you say it.

Text Her Based on Where and How You Met

Let's ditch the generic text advice and make things a bit more personal, shall we? 

First off:

How did you meet this girl you're texting?

Texting a Girl You Met at School

It's easy for you to land in the friendzone at school (as noted in my School-Girlfriend Guide), since you're already interacting as friendly classmates. 

To avoid the friendzone, it's essential to balance friendliness and sexual attraction:

First, get her number (not just her Instagram), sprinkle subtle compliments in your texts, and only then invite her for a date. 

Texting a Girl You Met Online or on Tinder

Even on Tinder, when you both already swiped on each other, you still need to show that you’re attracted to her by teasing her, complimenting her and asking her out.

The only difference here is that because Tinder is based on superficial looks/ physical attraction, you can be more sexual and less subtle over your messages. 

Texting a Girl You Met at a Club

It depends on how you met her at the club. 

Did your friends introduce you two? 

In that case, you’ll need to follow up with a text showing interest. 

If you confidently approached her with a compliment, this shouldn’t be necessary. 

Texting a Girl You Met on The Street

If you've approached a girl on the street, complimented her, talked for a while, and got her number by proposing to get drinks, there's no need to explicitly state your attraction over text - she already knows! 

In this case, a small reminder of your interest would serve best just before you send your date request text, as discussed.

Think About How Much You ‘Like’ Her Before Texting

It's crucial to take a moment to understand what you truly feel for her before you start rapid firing texts.

What's the deeper sentiment behind your confession when you say you 'like' her? 

Are you just physically attracted to her and open to a casual, no-strings-attached scenario? 

If so, a flirty compliment seasoned with light teasing might just be the perfect ingredients to cook the most delicious text. 

If she's your crush and you can’t think about another woman, my 'Post-Date Messages' and 'Love-Dream Texts' could help you coffees your love to her.

However, if you're in a relationship and you're ready for her to be your official girlfriend, I would suggest having that talk in person. 

But, if for whatever reason, texting is your only way out, my 'Girlfriend Proposal Text' might come to your rescue. 

For more insights on how to navigate your emotions and goals, I encourage you to read my guide: 56+ Affirmations To Attract Women: Manifest Love

Understanding the Girl You’re Texting

Getting to know the kind of girl you're texting can help you tailor your messages better. 

Let's talk:

How old is she?

If she's on the older side with more experience, you can keep it more-or-less straightforward and direct in your texts.

Is she open-minded or more on the conservative side? 

If she's conservative, play it cool:

Be subtle and take time to build comfort via text until she's ready to know about your attraction or feelings (whichever it may be).

What's her cultural background? 

If she’s from a culture that's pretty reserved about premarital sex and relationships, this won’t be easy and you’ll have to take it slow and steady.

Lastly, how do you know her? 

If you’re texting her for the first time now, you get to start from scratch. 

But if she's a friend, you'll need to shake off the friendzone label first. Once that's done, go for the usual - simple compliments and date invitations.

Your Texts Must Reflect Your True Self

Ask yourself this crucial question:

What kind of guy are you really? 

Whether you are more of a bad boy or a good man, you must text to reflect your true self. 

Copy pasting my texting lines or whatever your expert friends are telling you (as pictured below 😉) may come off as inauthentic to her. 

Craft a Natural Flow of Conversation Prior to Your 'Love Text'

Don't just throw your feelings out there like a lightning bolt. 

It's super important to set the stage before you confess. 

Start by striking up a chill conversation. 

Maybe chat about that awesome movie you watched together last week or that inside joke from school.

Once you're both vibing, it's the perfect time to let her know how much she truly means to you.

Waiting for the Right Mood to Text

Here's the deal: 

You don't want to spill your feelings when you're not in the right headspace. 

Why?

Well, believe it or not, she'll pick up on your energy through your texts, good or bad vibes.

Don't text her if you're:

1. Super tired
2. Feeling lonely
3. Horny
4. Drunk 

Wait until you're feeling positive about yourself like the man pictured below:

Use Emojis In Your ‘Love Text’

Yes, you can use emojis. 

No, they won’t make you look less ‘masculine’ - whatever that means. 

However, they’re are good and bad ways to use them. 

1. Use emojis, but don’t overuse them. Think of emojis as salt. Add too much, and you’ve ruined the food. Just enough, and everything tastes better. 
2. Don’t send major love emojis (😍😘🥰) at the start to avoid overinvesting and seeming needy
3. Use emojis to describe what you’ll be doing on the dates. 🍻if you’ll be going out for drinks. ⛰️if you’ll go hiking. 🎥 if you’ll be watching a movie together. ☕ if you’ll grab a coffee later. 
4. Add nice emojis for your good morning 🌅😘 and good night texts 😴😘

Use All The WhatsApp And Other Messenger App Features 

Whatsapp and other messaging apps have many text based features that you need to be using:

1. Italic: To italicize your message, place an underscore on both sides of the text: _text_
2. Bold: To bold your message, place an asterisk on both sides of the text: *text*
3. Monospace: To monospace your message, place three backticks on both sides of the text: ```text```
4. All Caps

Treat these texting features like emojis. 

Sprinkle some here and there, but don’t overdo it! 

Use Your Social Calibration In Every Message

Sure, I’ve talked about 1000 rules in this guide, but ignore all my advice if it doesn’t fit your situation. Only text what feels right for you. 

Write Your Texts On A Notepad

If you’re not sure what or how to text her, write it down on your notes app and come back to it 10 minutes later. You’ll be surprised as to how helpful this simple tip can be. 

No Double Texting

I know it’s the number one rule everyone already know, but I just had to include it here: 

Do not double text her. 

If your message isn’t perfect, don’t worry about it. 

If she doesn’t respond, either wait a day or move on. 

Do Not Be a Boring Texter

The last thing you want to do is be a boring texter: 

1. How are you
2. What are you up to
3. What’s the weather

She will forget about you!

Instead:

Be an active texter. 

Ask cool, open-ended questions and be stimulating - you want her smiling like this when she receives your texts:

Avoid Sexting At First

Listen up:

If you haven't already had sex with her, steer clear of being overtly sexual in your texts. And yep:

This holds even if she's the one sending you sexy messages or photos!

Consider these messages as bait - she's trying to gauge your desperation level. 

The best course of action? 

Reply with a gentle compliment and then swiftly steer the conversation onto a different topic based on something you found in the photo (or message). 

Let me show you how it's done:

For instance, she sends you a steamy pic of her in the bath with the caption “Just got home from work, finally relaxing.” 

Now you, being the bad boy that you are, respond with: 

“Looks like you've found the perfect way to unwind. Those bubbles look super relaxing! 🛁🧼”

Here's another example: 

And she continued to send me pictures even after I playfully told her "You've gotta stop sending me these pics 😏😉" 

But hey, who was I kidding?

She knew I liked them and kept 'em coming! 

But like I mentioned, if you wanna be sexual after you’ve slept with her, go for it. 

Here's a flirty message I sent to 'tuck' my boyfriend into bed (yep, I swing both ways): 

And hell, if you had amazing sex, she might even initiate the sexting.

Here's an example from one of my girls:

For more related tips, read: How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text

Do Not Try to Seem Overly Impressed 

Remember to keep your compliments genuine and grounded. 

If she's done something truly noteworthy, by all means, applaud her! 

However, resist the temptation to gush with words like "wow", "amazing", or "incredible" for any old thing just she does to show your interest in her. 

Overly enthusiastic praise when she's not really done anything special can come across as needy!

Need more tips to keep neediness at bay? 

Check out my guide: 13 Secrets To Stop Being Needy In Your Relationships.

Text Like An Adult 

Of course, if you misspell something, don’t apologize. 

But always try to keep your spelling and grammar correct... Otherwise you'll end up like Key & Peele in this hilarious 'Text Message Confusion' skit:

Don’t Message Bomb Her

Once you send your text, wait for her response. Do not carpet bomb her with texts. 

Texting a Girl After She Says That She Likes You Too

Once she tells you that she likes you too, you’ll probably chat a bit about what you like about each other and then all you need to do is propose a date and you’re good!

Texting a Girl After She Says That She Doesn’t Like You

If she’s not into you, you’ll have to respect her decision and move on. 

Yes, it sucks. 

But it happens to every guy - no matter how cool, rich or famous.

If it helps, many of my coaching clients tell me that reading my article on rejections has helped them a lot: 59 Moves: How To Tell A Someone You’re Not Interested And Reject a Guy or Girl [& Countless Examples]

One important thing to remember, though, is that in 95% of cases, if she rejects you, it's not because of your texting game.

It’s because you are simply unattractive for whatever reason: looks, personality, etc.

Reading a guide to texting girls may help, but the real, long term fix is raising your sexual value to become an attractive man.

Read: The Top 7 Most Attractive Male Body Types [And Ratios!]

FAQ

Should You Tell A Girl You Like Her Over Text?

Generally speaking, yes. However, if you’ve been on 4 dates or more, it's usually better to express these feelings face to face.

How To Tell Your Friend You Like Her Over Text or Long Distance?

If you're in the friend zone and can't meet her in person, a useful approach is to pause your interactions for a few weeks. 

When you restart texting, shift the vibe to a more romantic tone to help reset the relationship.

How To Tell A Girl You Want A Relationship With Her Over Text?

Ideally, you should have this conversation in person. 

But if text is your only option, start by sharing your feelings for her. Then ask her if she feels the same and if she would consider making things official.

How To Tell A Girl You Love Her Indirectly Over Text?

We've shared numerous indirect techniques in this guide. Compliments, teasing, suggesting a date, and the 'Love Dream Text' are all subtle ways to show your affection.

When Should You Wait To Tell A Girl You Like Her In Person?

As soon as you've been on 3-4 dates, it's generally better to wait and share your feelings in person. 

At this stage, both of you have invested in the relationship, which makes a face-to-face conversation expected and more meaningful. 

Summary

So there you have it - all my ‘texts’ of the trade, right in your hands. 

Now, it's your turn. 

I'd love to hear how these techniques work for you, so don't be shy! 

Text me Drop a comment below and share your experiences. 

Looking forward to hearing from you!

All the best,

Coach Colt