12 Creative Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text [With Examples] 

Before we get into telling a girl that you like her over text, I want you to remember a couple things:

Anyways, let’s get started! 

1. When to tell a girl you like her over text

Before I tell you what to say, you need to know when to say it!

Here’s when you do not want to confess your feelings:

If you tell her too soon, she will see you as the needy guy in the relationship and leave you! 

Joshua Pellicer, the great dating coach, talks about this idea extensively:

A badass does not ask for permission.
Asking for permission is a sign of submission.
A badass plays the male gender role, and therefore takes on the dominant position in a relationship.
Take risks, take chances, and take responsibility.

(Quote from his dating system - The Tao of Badass: Everything You Have To Know To Be A Complete Badass With Women)

The point is take it easy and only reveal your feelings later; preferably when the following things have already happened:

Now that you have the green light, here’s what you want to text your crush:

2. The direct way

If you choose to tell her directly, here’s what you do not want to say (or sound like):

Here are some good, bad boy examples of what to text her:

But as I mentioned (and as I’m sure you know), it’s not about what you say, but about how you say it so make sure you sound as genuine and confident as possible.

Warning:

This technique is risky as your girl may freak out and leave you in the friend zone.

However, if you time it right and make sure that she loves you already, it should all work out fine!  [1, 2]

3. Tell a girl that you like her over a casual text conversation

Start a casual texting conversation. 

Ask her about her day. 

Make some jokes, laugh around. 

Warm her up.

Now you text her this:

However, here are 3 things you never want to do while texting a girl:

Don’t use too many emojis

Emojis are for girls. You are not a girl.

Never send any of these:

Those are exclusively for girls. If you do send emojis stick with this one:

Don’t go crazy about grammar

Remember, you are just flirting with her over text. You want to keep the energy playful, and if you do misspell something, don’t apologize!

OK, don’t write like this: sknfo mfmkekf! But you get the point…

Don’t message bomb a girl

When you send too many “I like you” texts, you’ll look needy as hell which will send you right into the friend zone.

Here’s the rule:

Never send more than one text before she responds. And in general, don’t respond immediately to her texts, let her wait for your reply.

Here’s how it works:

You text a girl about your appreciation for her (“Hey [her name], thanks so much for coming over. BTW, I loved that dress!”) and she realizes that you like her without you saying anything about that!

Now for some text-message examples:

5. Text her that you like her in a funny way

We all know girls fall for guys with a great sense of humor, so why not add some humor in your text messages?

By the way, you can always copy her text messages and send them right back as a joke.

6. Text her a compliment so that she knows you like her

Compliments are another indirect way of telling a girl you like her that a lot of guys use because it’s 100% rejection proof!

No girl will ever turn away a compliment.

Let me give your some examples:

Want some more examples? Read Best 100 Compliments For a GIRLFRIEND.

7. Tell a girl why you love her

You can either:

Telling a girl why you like her is a much better than telling her outright for 2 reasons:

Reason number 1: You’re backing it up with a reason, you are not just throwing out facts.

Reason number 2: You don’t have to awkwardly wait for her response. 

So here’s how you tell her why you love her:

Once you send her this, she’ll know what you feel about her and you definitely won’t be waiting awkwardly for a text back.

8. Tell her you like being with her

Don’t text anything about her beauty, cuteness or how much you love her.

Instead, just mention how much you love spending time with her.

This technique works just as well 99% of the time.

9. Text her in a sexual way

How do you like this girl?

My guess is #2, so give her a sexual compliment and avoid the friend zone! Here are some examples:

If you’ve been reading up until now I bet you’re wondering: 

How in the hell am I supposed to get so direct and sexual with a girl over text?

While I know this isn’t the answer you want, the bitter answer is that you need to become a real confident badass!

To make sure you truly understand the gravity of becoming a confident-badass, let me quote you (again) from The Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer:

Sure, all women are different in some ways, but when it comes to what women find attractive in a man, they’re a lot more similar than you might think.
Ask as many women as you want, and the one thing they’ll all agree on is that they love men with confidence.
It’s a MASSIVE misconception that men are confident because they are attractive – in fact, it’s the other way around.
Men are attractive because they are confident.

So what Joshua Pellicer is saying is that confidence is the only thing that matters when it comes to women and that you can build confidence no matter what you’ve been though!

Side note:

If you aren’t sure about getting his entire dating system “The Tao of Badass,” you can always watch his secret mini video course (free of charge) where he goes through 90% of his transformational concepts… 

You’re welcome! 

10. Show a girl you like her by asking her out

At the end of the day, texting is only a means to an end, the real goal is to connect with her, kiss her and take her home.

So why not show your love by asking her out over text? Here are some great examples:

Once you do this, she’ll know that you like her and it won’t be that hard to get a kiss or even take her to your place.

11. How to tell a girl you like her over text examples

Let’s me pool together all the examples I’ve given you so far and give you some bonus text message examples:

Here’s another funny example: “mistakenly” ask her a question over text that was “supposed” to be sent to one of your friends asking “how do I tell [your girl’s name] that I love her?” and then just wait for her response!

Side note: feel free to edit any of my examples to make them more personalized.

12. Dealing with rejection over text

Sometimes girls will reject your advances even if you said all the right words at the right time. And that’s OK, not every girl has to like you.

Here’s a quote from my mentor, Sebastian Harris which will help you deal with rejection over text:

Do I think that texting is evil? Not at all! Texting is great.
It’s great to make her smile, to make her laugh, and to deepen the connection.
But what if you want to set up a date? Don’t text her!
I don’t say this because I’m mean, I say this because I understand one simple psychological principle:
It’s easy to answer a question with, “No,” but it’s even easier to say nothing at all when the question comes in the form of a text message.
Calling is king.
90% of all the dates I ever went on were the result of me calling the girl.
Not me texting her, not me sending a carrier pigeon, and not me stalking her with a spyglass (please don’t do that.)
I call to set up dates and it takes approximately 76 seconds. Sometimes I manage to close the deal in under 60 seconds.
Sometimes it takes 90 seconds…but only with foreign girls who “not good speak English.”
If you follow my blueprint, it shouldn’t take longer than 76 seconds to go from, “Hey, it’s [YOUR NAME],” to, “See you on Sunday.”

He then goes on to explain his calling blueprint which will get you the date within a minute or two in his dating course The Rise of The Phoenix – How to Get The Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You to Fail by Sebastian Harris. A must read book.

Bottom line:

Texting isn’t the best way to connect with a girl because it makes it much easier for a girl to reject you.

But whenever you do get rejected, never take it personally, just move on as quickly as possible because you need to improve your pickup skills.