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Before we get into telling a girl that you like her over text, I want you to remember a couple things:

  1. 1
    Don’t worry because this is just over text so the rejection can't be that bad
  2. 2
    Always be authentic, girls can tell if you really mean it - even over text
  3. 3
    Do your best to follow as many steps as you can and comment if you have any questions!

Anyways, let’s get started! 

a girl happy receiving a text that a guy likes her
  • You just approached her on the street
  • You’re just meeting up for your first date
  • You’re just about to start texting each other

If you tell her too soon, she will see you as the needy guy in the relationship and leave you! 

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Joshua Pellicer, the great dating coach, talks about this idea extensively:

A badass does not ask for permission.
Asking for permission is a sign of submission.
A badass plays the male gender role, and therefore takes on the dominant position in a relationship.
Take risks, take chances, and take responsibility.
girls will like you more when you say that you like them over text

The point is take it easy and only reveal your feelings later; preferably when the following things have already happened:

  • She has already confessed her feelings for you
  • She can’t stop asking you what you think about you
  • You’ve made out together
  • You’ve slept together
  • You’ve been dating for a while

Now that you have the green light, here’s what you want to text your crush:

2. The direct way

If you choose to tell her directly, here’s what you do not want to say (or sound like):

  • Hi, uhm, ah, so I kinda like you
  • Maybe we’d go well together because I like you
  • I really like your boobs.. Uh.. um I mean you.. I mean you!
  • I feel really good about becoming good friends because I like you
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Here are some good, bad boy examples of what to text her:

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    Girl, I like you.
  2. 2
    I need more of you
  3. 3
    Hi beautiful, I need more time with you
  4. 4
    I’m into you girl

But as I mentioned (and as I’m sure you know), it’s not about what you say, but about how you say it so make sure you sound as genuine and confident as possible.

Warning:

This technique is risky as your girl may freak out and leave you in the friend zone.

However, if you time it right and make sure that she loves you already, it should all work out fine!  [1, 2]

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3. Tell a girl that you like her over a casual text conversation

Start a casual texting conversation. 

Ask her about her day. 

Make some jokes, laugh around. 

Warm her up.

Now you text her this:

  1. 1
    Hey [her name], I really like you, what do you think about getting some coffee sometime?
  2. 2
    I like texting you, but I like talking even more. Let’s grab lunch at [restaurant name].
  3. 3
    I can tell that you’re super cute even over text, I love it!
  4. 4
    You're making me undress you in my mind, stop it!

However, here are 3 things you never want to do while texting a girl:

Don’t use too many emojis

Emojis are for girls. You are not a girl.

Never send any of these: 😍😘🥰🤩🤗😱🤑

Those are exclusively for girls. If you do send emojis stick with this one: 😉

Don’t go crazy about grammar

Remember, you are just flirting with her over text. You want to keep the energy playful, and if you do misspell something, don’t apologize!

OK, don’t write like this: sknfo mfmkekf! But you get the point…

Don’t message bomb a girl

When you send too many “I like you” texts, you’ll look needy as hell which will send you right into the friend zone.

Here’s the rule:

Never send more than one text before she responds. And in general, don’t respond immediately to her texts, let her wait for your reply.

4. Use The Compliment-Appreciation Technique to show how much you like her

I can hear you asking: what the hell is the “Compliment-Appreciation Technique”!?

Although the name makes it sound over complicated, It’s actually quite simple:

The Compliment-Appreciation Technique is a system that I created to solve one serious problem: 

If you’re constantly giving your girl compliments, she’s gonna start feeling like a 5 year old kid who needs everyone’s validation… and that’s never a good feeling!

That’s why you use the Compliment-Appreciation Technique.

Instead of telling her outright how much you like her, you express appreciation for her which makes her feel loved and cared for.

Here’s how it works:

You text a girl about your appreciation for her (“Hey [her name], thanks so much for coming over. BTW, I loved that dress!”) and she realizes that you like her without you saying anything about that!

Now for some text-message examples:

  1. 1
    Hey [her name], thanks so much for coming over. BTW, I loved that dress!
  2. 2
    The way you did you make up this morning blew me out of the water! I couldn’t stop looking at your red, hot lips…
  3. 3
    I love what you did with your hair today, you must be the cutest girl in the city!
  4. 4
    Thanks for wearing that sundress, you know what I like [wink]
  5. 5
    What can I say? You made my day!

Have any questions, comments or more ideas?

Add them in the comments! I read each and every one of them.

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5. Text her that you like her in a funny way

We all know girls fall for guys with a great sense of humor, so why not add some humor in your text messages?

  1. 1
    Oh’ gosh, you like that movie! We are officially BFF’s
  2. 2
    OK, we can kiss, but only if you say please
  3. 3
    I know how crazy you feel about me, but tonight’s not the best day for hooking up
  4. 4
    You know you’re such a spoiled brat around me and you love it
  5. 5
    Remind me that you deserve a spanking when we get home, I know you can’t resist
  6. 6
    Tell me when you finish writing your love song about me
  7. 7
    If you keep texting me I’ll ruin your innocence
  8. 8
    We’ve just met and gushed over me, can you please wait until we go on at least a couple dates?

By the way, you can always copy her text messages and send them right back as a joke.

example of telling a girl you like her over text

6. Text her a compliment so that she knows you like her

Compliments are another indirect way of telling a girl you like her that a lot of guys use because it’s 100% rejection proof!

No girl will ever turn away a compliment.

Let me give your some examples:

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    You have the cutest eyes and you don’t even know it
  2. 2
    Your smile makes me smile
  3. 3
    You have a naturally good sense of style and I like it
  4. 4
    You have an adorable smile
  5. 5
    Your stunning eyes remind me of Alexandra Daddario
  6. 6
    The way you put on that makeup makes you look like a model
  7. 7
    Has anyone ever told you that your curious personality makes you super cute?
  8. 8
    Your thin cherry lips are just so juicy and I find them wildly kissable
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    Your hair has such a natural shine to it, I hope you’re not trying to seduce me!
  10. 10
    I swear every time you stutter I fall for you even more
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    You have the sexiest lips
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    You are so adorable
example of telling a girl you like her over text

Want some more examples? Read Best 100 Compliments For a GIRLFRIEND.

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7. Tell a girl why you love her

You can either:

  • Tell a girl that you like her
  • Tell a girl why you like her

Telling a girl why you like her is a much better than telling her outright for 2 reasons:

Reason number 1: You’re backing it up with a reason, you are not just throwing out facts.

Reason number 2: You don’t have to awkwardly wait for her response. 

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So here’s how you tell her why you love her:

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    I love you because I can’t get over your cuteness
  2. 2
    If I you don’t top smiling I’ll be forced to fall in love with you
  3. 3
    You’re the naughtiest girl I’ve met and I love it!
  4. 4
    Oh’ don’t you dare dress like that because you know what it does to my mind!

Once you send her this, she’ll know what you feel about her and you definitely won’t be waiting awkwardly for a text back.

8. Tell her you like being with her

Don’t text anything about her beauty, cuteness or how much you love her.

Instead, just mention how much you love spending time with her.

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    You are the best cuddler ever, I love cuddling in bed with you
  2. 2
    I had the best time, by the way, you have the cutest laugh
  3. 3
    I’m glad we had an awesome time together, we better do this again!

This technique works just as well 99% of the time.

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9. Text her in a sexual way

How do you like this girl?

  • As a friend
  • As your girlfriend

My guess is #2, so give her a sexual compliment and avoid the friend zone! Here are some examples:

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    Just so you know, my dick won’t let me stop thinking about you
  2. 2
    Why do you have such control over my level of horniness
  3. 3
    Your sexy, red dress is working wonders on me!
  4. 4
    If you keep playing with your lips that way, I’ll lose control over my body
  5. 5
    You’re one hell of a busty girl

If you’ve been reading up until now I bet you’re wondering: 

How in the hell am I supposed to get so direct and sexual with a girl over text?

While I know this isn’t the answer you want, the bitter answer is that you need to become a real confident badass!

To make sure you truly understand the gravity of becoming a confident-badass, let me quote you (again) from The Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer:

Sure, all women are different in some ways, but when it comes to what women find attractive in a man, they’re a lot more similar than you might think.
Ask as many women as you want, and the one thing they’ll all agree on is that they love men with confidence.
It’s a MASSIVE misconception that men are confident because they are attractive – in fact, it’s the other way around.
Men are attractive because they are confident.

So what Joshua Pellicer is saying is that confidence is the only thing that matters when it comes to women and that you can build confidence no matter what you’ve been though!

Side note:

If you aren’t sure about getting his entire dating system “The Tao of Badass,” you can always watch his secret mini video course (free of charge) where he goes through 90% of his transformational concepts… 

You’re welcome! 

10. Show a girl you like her by asking her out

At the end of the day, texting is only a means to an end, the real goal is to connect with her, kiss her and take her home.

So why not show your love by asking her out over text? Here are some great examples:

  1. 1
    Hey [Her Name], you must be the prettiest girl in the city, let’s grab a coffee at Starbucks
  2. 2
    I love texting, but why don’t we continue our conversation at [Name Restaurant] 
  3. 3
    You got a super sweet personality, how about we grab a coffee later today?
  4. 4
    Have you been to [name of park or mall]? Let’s go there tonight

Once you do this, she’ll know that you like her and it won’t be that hard to get a kiss or even take her to your place.

11. How to tell a girl you like her over text examples

Let’s me pool together all the examples I’ve given you so far and give you some bonus text message examples:

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    I can’t understand how you get sexier everyday, but I love it!
  2. 2
    I’ll admit, I keep staring at your profile picture because I can’t get you out of my mind
  3. 3
    The way you dress is making me fall for you
  4. 4
    I need more of you
  5. 5
    Hi beautiful, I need more time with you
  6. 6
    I’m into you girl
  7. 7
    Hey [her name], I really like you, what do you think about getting some coffee sometime?
  8. 8
    I like texting you, but I like talking even more. Let’s grab lunch at [restaurant name].
  9. 9
    I can tell that you’re super cute even over text, I love it!
  10. 10
    You're making me undress you in my mind, stop it!
  11. 11
    Hey [her name], thanks so much for coming over. BTW, I loved that dress!
  12. 12
    The way you did you make up this morning blew me out of the water! I couldn’t stop looking at your red, hot lips…
  13. 13
    I love what you did with your hair today, you must be the cutest girl in the city!
  14. 14
    Oh’ gosh, you like that movie! We are officially BFF’s
  15. 15
    OK , we can kiss, but only if you say please
  16. 16
    I know how crazy you feel about me, but tonight’s not the best day for hooking up
  17. 17
    You know you’re such a spoiled brat around me and you love it
  18. 18
    Remind me that you deserve a spanking when we get home, I know you can’t resist
  19. 19
    Tell me when you finish writing your love song about me
  20. 20
    If you keep texting me I’ll ruin your innocence
  21. 21
    We’ve just met and gushed over me, can you please wait until we go on at least a couple dates?
  22. 22
    You have the cutest eyes and you don’t even know it
  23. 23
    Your smile makes me smile
  24. 24
    You have a naturally good sense of style and I like it
  25. 25
    You have an adorable smile
  26. 26
    You have the sexiest lips
  27. 27
    You are so adorable
  28. 28
    I love you because I can’t get over your cuteness
  29. 29
    If I you don’t top smiling I’ll be forced to fall in love with you
  30. 30
    You’re the naughtiest girl I’ve met and I love it!
  31. 31
    Oh’ don’t you dare dress like that because you know what it does to my mind!
  32. 32
    Don’t make me come over and hug you
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    I like you even more when you get dressed like that
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    You are so adorable, I might just be in love with you
  35. 35
    Ok, be honest, what love potion are you using on me?

Here’s another funny example: “mistakenly” ask her a question over text that was “supposed” to be sent to one of your friends asking “how do I tell [your girl’s name] that I love her?” and then just wait for her response!

Side note: feel free to edit any of my examples to make them more personalized.

12. Dealing with rejection over text

Sometimes girls will reject your advances even if you said all the right words at the right time. And that’s OK, not every girl has to like you.

Here’s a quote from my mentor, Sebastian Harris which will help you deal with rejection over text:

Do I think that texting is evil? Not at all! Texting is great.
It’s great to make her smile, to make her laugh, and to deepen the connection.
But what if you want to set up a date? Don’t text her!
I don’t say this because I’m mean, I say this because I understand one simple psychological principle:
It’s easy to answer a question with, “No,” but it’s even easier to say nothing at all when the question comes in the form of a text message.
Calling is king.
90% of all the dates I ever went on were the result of me calling the girl.
Not me texting her, not me sending a carrier pigeon, and not me stalking her with a spyglass (please don’t do that.)
I call to set up dates and it takes approximately 76 seconds. Sometimes I manage to close the deal in under 60 seconds.
Sometimes it takes 90 seconds…but only with foreign girls who “not good speak English.”
If you follow my blueprint, it shouldn’t take longer than 76 seconds to go from, “Hey, it’s [YOUR NAME],” to, “See you on Sunday.”

He then goes on to explain his calling blueprint which will get you the date within a minute or two in his dating course The Rise of The Phoenix – How to Get The Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You to Fail by Sebastian HarrisA must read book.

Bottom line:

Texting isn’t the best way to connect with a girl because it makes it much easier for a girl to reject you.

But whenever you do get rejected, never take it personally, just move on as quickly as possible because you need to improve your pickup skills.

Summary:

I’ve given you all the tips and tricks that you could ever need for telling a girl that you love her over text, but you’re still missing one crucial ingredient:

Confidence!

With solid confidence you won’t be worrying about texting. You’ll be doing this face to face when you’re in bed with a super hot chick.

With confidence you’ll smash your approach anxiety and girls will feel a natural attraction for you.

But how can you get your natural confidence back?

1

Take action

Take action by approaching girls, getting numbers and going on dates on a daily basis.

2

Study from the pro's

Learn from men with experience by watching the mini video course by Joshua Pellicer so that you don’t make all the beginner mistakes and learn to trust yourself.

Good luck!

Colt Smith


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  • Thank you for taking the time to write this post I really gained from it. keep on working hard!
    Best regards,
    Dinesen Schneider

  • Yeah i like this post and I like all the examples you gave. My only question is: do you have a post about telling a girl you like her in person? thanks in advance.

    • Hey! Well Redhead to be honest what I can recommend to you is to take the rejection in a good way, and if she rejects you just say “It is ok, no problem”, because if you start showing her suffering from you, that’s gonna make things worse. Also, in order to deal with that I suggest to get disconnected from Social media or whatever Texting app you are using. Also, I suggest if there is another girl that you like or something like that try to flirt with her! focusing on other girls can take the suffering of a rejection away very quickly and forget that girl that rejected you. So this is some of my advice that I can give you. Hope it helps and have a good luck!!!!

  • thanks for the post. it’s crazy how important texting is and how much its ignored. keep on writing colt!

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