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The reason why it’s so important to get a girl to kiss you is because if the girl rejects you while you attempt to kiss that can hurt quite a bit.

The first time that I kissed a girl I just told her that I wanted to kiss her and we kissed. I think that I was so clueless as to how to get a kiss that I just went for it.

I basically demanded her to kiss me. Not in a forceful way, but confidently. Gosh I remember how her lips felt.

Her lips were so soft. I’ll admit, the first time that I kissed a girl I got a boner. Lfmao.

I was just so excited that I got my first kiss.

I was this scared, horny, virgin. What could you expect from a beginner?

But you don’t have to go through what I went through. 

I’ll teach you exactly how to get a woman to feel that she needs to kiss you. You will learn the exact technique to make her feel horny.


You will realize that you have everything inside of you. You don’t need to force yourself to be someone or something else.

You deserve to make out with a girl. You deserve to kiss a girl while you get inside her.

Stop telling yourself that you aren’t good enough, because you are about to learn the exact techniques that make a girl want to kiss you.

(If you read to the end of this post I’ll tell you about the one course that I took when I began this journey to change my dating life!)

1. Touch her

I am assuming that you have already gotten past the friend-zone and she likes you. If you haven’t, go read my post on how to get a girl to like you.

Only once she likes you and you are just waiting to make out with her, you can follow these 12 master steps.

But the first step is to touch her.

Touch her leg

You need awareness here. Is she pulling away?

Does she look uncomfortable when you put your hand on her leg?

Or you notice that she maybe blushes a little. Does she giggle a little, encouraging you to continue?

What is her reaction? You must pay attention. This valuable information will tell you if you are ready to move to the next stage.

Touch her cheek and chin

You are getting into her personal space, but assuming you are on a date with her and she already likes you this should be fine.

Get closer to her and caress her chin with her cheek. This does 2 things:

It makes her feel a connection to her. It makes her body release oxytocin which makes her feel love for you.

She will become much more comfortable with kissing you. 

And secondly, you’ll see how she reacts. You will see if she feels comfortable or not. You are testing the waters.

If you have gotten to the point where she is OK with you touching her face like that you could really go in for the kiss now. [1, 2]

She will not reject you. But if you need more assurance then continue with step 2.

2. Look in her eyes 

I used to be so scared to look at a girl in the eye. But I finally got over it and I’m happy that I did.

Looking into her eyes will make her feel a deep connection with you. She will feel a deep sense of trust.

How does this work?

When people say that the eyes are the windows to the soul they are not kidding. When you look at a girl in the eye she feels that you “see” her. 

She feels understood.

In fact a study by Jack Rubin, a social psychologist, studied the amount of time that different couples would look at each other in the eyes.

He found that the couples that would naturally look at each other more in the eyes also had more romantic relationships. 

When you have deep eye contact with someone you are showing them that you aren’t afraid to connect on a deep level.

You are showing the woman that you are with that she can look into your soul too. You have nothing to hide.

And biologically speaking you are making her (and yourself) produce oxytocin, the love hormone. Her own body will make her crave you.

This works between people who you have never met before. Studies have shown that if you take strangers and make them look into each other’s eyes for more than 2 minutes that can start to feel love for each other.

This all means that she will be more than willing to kiss her if you allow yourself to hold eye contact with her for more than 7-8 seconds at a time.

She has already connected to you on a deep level so kissing you isn’t much of a step up. 

(But you’ll need to build heavy confidence for this, that’s why I’m going to tell you soon what I did to build up my own confidence and what course changed my life, keep on reading and you’ll find out soon.)

Once you get to the stage of touching and looking at her in the eye, you don’t have to wait, kiss her now. You don’t have to do all the steps.

But I’ll give you more options now. 

3. Prepare your lips 

Here’s a quick tip for you if you know you’re going to make out with a girl. Have soft lips.

You wanna make sure that your lips aren’t peeling or super dry. Try getting yourself some lip moisturizer or whatever keeps your lips soft and looking nice. 

Also want to have a clean mouth. Brush your teeth, use mouthwash.

You already know this, but it’s worth mentioning. Having a bad breath will destroy your confidence.

4. Compliment her lips in a imaginary way

Girls have a very strong imagination. They love to picture in their minds the romantic things that they’ll do. 

But when you compliment a girl’s lips in a descriptive way she starts imagining her lips in that way. And she also imagines all the things that she’ll do with her lips.

Tell her what her lips remind you of.

Tell her that her lips look like “this” model. You must learn how to compliment a girl.

5. Be relaxed

This is the most important tip that I have for you when it comes to anything that has to do with relationships.

Just be relaxed. Girls are super attracted to authentically calm guys. 

You don’t have to be full of tension and anger in order to be seen as masculine. Authentically masculine guys have this calm, core confidence to them.

By being forceful, you are giving up your power.

Anytime that you feel yourself getting emotional about someone or about something you are giving away your control.

Women love to kiss guys that can act calmly. Just practice being calm. [3]

Here is a good exercise to do every day:

Relax yourself for 5 minutes every day and imagine yourself kissing a girl while you are just completely calm.

Do this for 60 days and you will see a measurable difference in the energy that you put out to the world. You will seem like a more attractive man.

Additionally, you have nothing to fear. What are you worried about?

That she will reject you? But you love yourself!

Once you love yourself you won’t feel dependent on women for love in a needy way. And getting rejected won’t feel that bad.

6. Kiss her on her forehead

I wouldn’t do this on a classic date. If you are at a restaurant skip this step and go straight for her delicious lips. 

But if you are sitting outside with her on a bench and you have the opportunity to kiss her on her forehead. Do it, girls love it.

This will get any girl in a kissing mood. All it takes is a light kiss on the forehead.

7. Touch your lips 

Do this while you are looking at her in the eyes. 

You can play with your lips with your hand. This will get her attention to your lips. 

You can also just lick your lips and just play with them. Maybe tug on your lips with your teeth.

Pay attention to her eyes. Where is she looking?

Does she start to play with her own lips too? This is how you turn her on for the kiss.

8. Touch her lips

You get extra-credit if you can pull this off. But it takes a higher level of confidence.

You can’t just touch her lips without any reason, so you make her angry.

You want to stir her emotions. Criticize her. Tell her that she does something in a stupid way.

She will start getting all angry at you. And while she is having your temper tantrum all you need to do is place your finger on her lips.

You are telling her to be quiet and as soon as she calms down kiss her passionately. Hold onto her body, bring her in and make out with her.

I must give credit to Sebastian Harris, the creator of the Global Seducer Podcast for giving me this idea in his podcast about kissing.

He is also the author of The Rise of The Phoenix and The 14 Day Seduction Boot-camp course. I got both when I first started off.

You will learn everything that you need to learn when it comes to women, dating, and sex. Once you get the course, you’ll want to listen to it more than once.

You will learn everything that you need to know in order to get self-sustaining, you’ll be able to grow by yourself.

But I didn’t get my first kiss till I got his Whatsapp coaching. Once I signed up for his Whatsapp coaching he gave me these daily challenges until I started getting dates.

Actually I got my first kiss on the first date that I went on. Get this coaching too, he will give you daily challenges that you need.

Slowly, over time your confidence will grow. Your fears will begin to melt away. 

Yes, you won’t change overnight. But in 4-6 months you’ll be kissing a girl while she’s naked in bed with you and you won’t regret it.

There is no instant solution.

The book will teach you the basics. The 14 day course will go into all the details you could ever need and his VIP Whatsapp coaching will make you take action.

It’s truly the perfect deal. But the course and the coaching are only available to those who have invested in the book first.

Don’t chain your goodness down any longer. Make yourself proud by making the right decision.

9. Build sexual tension

Sexual tension is so important if you want to get a passionate kiss from a girl. The feeling of needing to release that energy.

Your heart rate increases, you might begin to laugh and even sweat. You want her to feel a great release when she kisses you.

And the number one way to build that sexual tension is by taking it slow. 

Get her to desire the kiss. Get closer, touch her and kiss her forehead, but don’t kiss her yet.

Make her wait. Let that desire build pressure inside of her till she can’t deal with it anymore that she pulls you in and kisses you.

Put your hand on her leg and just look at her deep in the eyes. Don’t say anything. The tension will be unbearable for her. [4]

This will truly make her kiss you and let you inside of her.

But this also takes confidence and that’s why I recommended you the course and coaching earlier. 

10. Be playful

This means that if you want her to get in the mood of kissing you want to be playful. Feel that it’s totally fine to even mess up while kissing her.

You don’t have to be perfect. This belief will allow you to be a fun guy.

Guys who think that they need to be perfect or else they aren’t lovable come across as tense and awkward.

Don’t force yourself to be perfect. Let yourself go.

And by the way, girls like guys that can be fun. They don’t want that super serious man all the time.

11. Stare at her lips

The next little trick that I’ll show you is to look at her lips.

Feel your desire for her lips and project that energy towards her. Let her feel your desire for her.

Think about all the things that you’d love to do with her lips. Feel your own sexual tension mounting while you stare at her lips. 

She will feel this energy. And because she feels so desirable she will open up to you in a physical way.

12. There is no perfect moment

The last thing that you need to know is that there is no perfect time to kiss a girl. 

Do it like my first kiss. Just go in for it and hope for the best.

And nine times out of ten, she’ll be fine with it. 

You go first. You are the man and that means you initiate the kissing.

If you wait for the perfect moment you will never get there. You need to make the moment.

Like I said, be relaxed. Don’t tense up and most girls will be happy to kiss. Remember most girls aren’t lesbian! 

Girls are attracted to men! Like you!


I’ve given you the 12 steps to making a girl in that perfect kissing mood to go for the kiss.

You now know about the top mindsets that you need to have in order to to be fearless around girls.

You know that being a relaxed guy is one of the most attractive things that you can do. But you’ve also learned where to take this.

I’ve told you about the #1 course that I took at the beginning of my journey. That is how I got to where I am today.

I got the book, the course, and his Whatsapp coaching too. 

If you are where I used to be, a terrifying virgin, you need to take the same actions that I took. Get his courses now.

There is no reason to wait. You don’t need to suffer anymore. 

Why don’t you start believing that with hard work you can change your life and that you don’t need to stay where you are?

Kissing is only one of the amazing things that girls have to offer. Why aren’t you sleeping with more girls?

Why hold yourself back from the 9’s and 10’s. You are worthy of them!

So get the course and coaching now and I’ll see you on the other side.

  • I’ve always been scared to talk to girl and getting a kiss is soooooo terrifying.
    I’ve had a rough childhood so the simplest stuff is hard for me, but thnx anyways

    • I was in your exact spot not too many years ago. You’ll be surprised at how quickly your fears will melt away with just 1 or 2 years of consistent action.

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    About the author 

    Coach Colt here, the founder of Dating Armory, your go-to source for no-nonsense, practical relationship advice. I'm a bisexual male in a same-sex open relationship and a researcher in sex, love, and relationships with 7+ years of experience. I specialize in helping both men and women navigate the crazy world of dating.

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