I love hugging my girlfriend.
I love the smell of her intoxicating perfume, her silky soft skin, her shiny hair and of course, her big boobs (size 44 bra size btw).
I bet you love hugging your girlfriend too!
But I’m sure both of us could improve our “hugging game”, so here are my top tips to hug a girl - no matter how hot!
Table of Contents
1. When to hug a girl
Here are the best times to hug a girl:
- 1Whenever your culture calls for it. In some cultures you greet people with a kiss on the cheek and a warm hug! In other cultures, you’d get the police called on you if you did that. When in Rome, hug like Romans! [1, 2]
- 2Not before she knows and trust you to at least some degree (don’t miss: What Not to Do on a First Date: 17 Date Destroyers)
- 3You’ve already passed the touch barrier on the first date
- 4She’s showing some signs of attraction (laughing at your jokes, blushing, playing with her lips, etc.)
- 5She’s doesn’t want to leave even as your dropping her off at her house (very similar to: When to KISS a Girl: The 9 Prime Times)
- 6Your in a more private place (your girl may be embarrassed to hug you if her friends are watching)
- 7Your date is finishing up and you can feel sexual tension
Lastly, here's a quote from Chapter 2: "Setting her on fire - Cracking the code of the female mind", from Sebastian Harris's dating guide (link to his Full book):
Have you ever been on a date with a girl who licked her lips while looking at you? That’s a window of opportunity. She’s screaming, “Kiss me!” at you. Sometimes it’s subtler: She comes closer and smiles at you, or she touches your arm and leans in. Or, my all-time favorite: The “Sooo…” invitation. Whenever a girl fills a moment of silence with “Sooo…” she’s waiting for you to make a move. If she says it right after hugging you, you have to turn your head and kiss her. But you don’t do it, because you’re paralyzed. It’s not fear, it’s worse. You overthink the situation. You think about the perfect moment. You worry about whether or not she even wants to kiss you. Let me tell you something: If a woman shows up in high heels and a tight dress, she doesn’t want to play Scrabble. She wants to kiss you.
I'm sure you noticed he's discussing kissing, however the rules for hugging are basically the same: go for it if you see that she wants you!
(By the way, his book will totally help you, I have friends that still read it to this day.)
But what are your best times to hug your girl? Leave them in the comments!
“But I want to hug whenever I want - God damn it!”
OK, OK, I get it!
But as a beginner in your “hugging career” you’ll benefit from these set times as you will avoid unnecessary objections and you’ll hesitate much less (appearing 10 times more confident).
Then, obviously, once you become a pro, you’ll hug whenever you feel the time is right.
2. How to hug a girl properly
Oh’ so you want all my hugging secrets?! How dare you!
Well I’m a nice guy™ so here are my tips exclusive to DatingArmory.com:
3. Hug her with the right energy
Seriously, no girl wanted to hug me. Why?
It wasn’t my looks.
It wasn’t my career.
It wasn’t my style.
It was my clingy, needy energy which made no girl want to hug me.
When you hug a girl, (I beg you!) have the right energy:
When girls feel this type of energy, you’ll be irresistible… I mean I would hug you too!
4. Leaning into the hug
You got to lean in.
Lucky you because I’ve already covered this exact topic thoroughly in my post titled: 12 Simple Steps to Lean in for a KISS.
But here’s the essence of the article:
Initiate the hug by leaning in the majority of the way (up to 90%) and then wait for her to meet you.
5. Open your arms wide and hug
First off, lean to the right so that you don’t bump heads!
Now that we got that out of the way, here’s what you need to focus on:
- 1Open your arms wide (remember you’re coming with “open” energy)
- 2Place your arms around her so that she feels enveloped in your “largeness” (girls want to get that protected feeling)
- 3Take it slow, take it slow, take it slow (yes, repeat that 3 times!). Rushing a hug makes you look like a newbie.
OK, but what exactly do you do with your hands? Chill! I got your covered…
6. What to do with your hands while hugging
It largely depends on the type of hug, so…
- 1Usually you want your hands on her back.
- 2If you want to be romantic, rub the back of her back. 
- 3If you really want to make your girlfriend feel special, have your own little custom hug between yourselves to show how much you appreciate being together.
7. How long should you hug for
You’re doing all the right things, but for how long!?
Assuming that it’s your girlfriend and she’s not in a rush, hug for at least a couple seconds.
But be careful not to hold on for too long because no one likes being forced-hugged.
If this is your first hug with this girl or your just friends, a second or 2 is definitely enough.
8. What to say while hugging a girl
This step is optional as sometimes it’s simply better to say nothing. But if you feel the time is right, here are some of my ideas:
Again, if you have any other things to add, share them in comments and I’ll include them when I update the article!
9. What to do after hugging a girl
There are many things you could do after hugging a girl, including:
- 1Kissing her as seen in the picture coming up...
- 2Giving her a big smile and wishing her a good day
- 3Complimenting her and continuing the conversation
- 4Asking her out for a date
Whatever you choose to do, don’t act as if the hugging was awkward.
Being weird about hugging your girl is the best way to ruin your chances of getting another hug. A great article about this exact topic: What Not to Do on a First Date: 17 Date Destroyers.
10. How to hug a girl from behind
How about we cover different sex hugging positions?
Starting with hugging a girl from behind:
- 1Make sure she’s not busy with something genuinely busy
- 2Don’t do this when she’s wearing a backpack
- 3A from behind hug requires more trust so make sure you’ve been on a couple dates
- 4Make sure she’s not around anyone who she’d be embarrassed to hug you
- 5Stand behind and wrap your arms around her like the following picture:
Here's a small variation of that:
Here's what it would look like if your girlfriend would hug you from behind:
You can also lean your head to the side and kiss her on the cheek like this:
11. How to hug a girl you like as a friend
You’re asking me how to hug a girl as a friend. Uh oh!
If you’re in the friend zone - call 911 immediately.
Ok, don’t do that...Listen I’ve got lots of ways to escape the friend zone so read that first, but for now, here’s your answer:
This picture is a great example:
12. How to hug a girl shorter than you
You may want to read How to KISS a Short Girl: 19 Proven Methods as in that article I share many of these same techniques, but go much deeper.
However, this piece is fine if you’re looking for the 30,000 birds eyes view:
Technique one: have her hug your waist and leaning her head on your chest while you hug her from above and lean your head on top of hers as seen in this picture:
Technique two: have her sit down on your lap facing you
Technique three: hug her while she’s sitting besides you. Can't find a good picture for this one 🙁
Technique four: let her jump into your arms
If that sounds too daring, you may want to try technique five…
Technique five: have her stand on something (bench, stairs, curb, etc)
This technique works especially well if she’s just a few inches too short for you.Here are some tips from that works perfectly here too:
13. How to hug a girl taller than you
Just covered shorter girls, what about tall girls?kissing a taller girl
- 1Stand on your tippy toes and let her lean downwards (simplest solution)
- 2Hug while sitting down
- 3Stand on something to make yourself taller
- 4Hug while cuddling in bed
- 5Do not make it awkward
Yes, #5 is my most important tip. Really.
If you feel attracted to each other, don’t let your height difference get in the way because remember, your goal is to have a great time with her.
Being awkward ruins that, just chill out.
14. How to hug a girl romantically to turn her on
The key to hugging a girl romantically is to make her feel overpowered, yet small and protected. Make her feel enveloped by your strength and size.
Give her an overpowering hug
This idea some is based right on our key concept:
Girls want to feel small, overpowered and protected which is why girls love getting overpowering hugs from huge, muscular guys.
Your job is to start working out, build muscle (link to my favorite basketball workout program) and to start giving big warm hugs.
But what exactly do you have to do?
Place one of your hands on her lower back while placing your other hand between her shoulder blades then lean your head on your hair and take it all in as seen in this picture:
Another way is to bring her in by her waist and let her wrap her arms around your neck.
There’s a difference between a HUG and a hug.
Run your hands through her hair
As I point out in my “God Tier” post (I am very humble) about making girls horny, girls get turned on when guys pull lightly on their hair near the roots, so why not do this while hugging?
Place one hand on her back and the other hand on her head, gradually hugging her tighter and run your fingers through her hair.
Want bonus points?
Use your other hand to grab her butt and pull her in! She’ll be soaking wet after that!
Make complete physical contact
Don’t hug like you’re in the friend zone! Hug like you can’t get enough of her by making complete physical contact:
Give her all of you.
Let her jump onto you
Last tip I have for you is to let her jump into your arms.
But let’s be real: you can’t expect your girlfriend to jump into your open arms if you’ve been seeing each other every day for the past 10 years.
You need to wait until you haven't seen each other for a while and she’s feeling excited to see you.
Once you can tell that your girl misses you, surprise her with your arms opened up to catch her and let her jump into your arms.
Once she’s running towards you, you can either grab her from behind her knees, like this:
Or catch her by squeezing her waist like this:
Or you can hold her up by her butt:
Either way is fine and this type of romantic hug will get any girl turned on.
One thing that guys forget is that girls like hugging too!
So don’t give up on this no matter how awkward it seems at the beginning. Taking real world action always works and you will eventually improve!