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Do you want to ask a girl for a second date? 

Do you want to ask a guy for a second date? 

Well, you came to the right place because in just a few minutes, you will learn everything about getting a second date!


From now on, whether it be in person or over text, you will always get the dates you want. 

So without further ado, let’s get started:

asking a guy for a second date

“Hey, you’re super cute, what do you think about going out again?”


“Uh’ didn’t quite think about that, let me get back to you”

I call this the: You Don’t Know, You Don’t Get Principle.

If you don’t know where you want to go for your second date, your chances of getting one is a lot lower!

It also helps to have several second date ideas, that way if one place doesn’t work out, you always have plan B.


At this point I’m guessing you’d like me to give you some examples, so here they are:

  1. 1
    Farmer market
  2. 2
  3. 3
  4. 4
    Horse riding
  5. 5
    The park
  6. 6
    The zoo
  7. 7
    Shooting range

(If you’re in need for any more date ideas - especially for first dates - be sure to read What to do on a First Date: 23 Creative Ideas

However, here’s where you want to be extra smart by asking yourself the following question: 

“Is he/she an introvert or an extrovert?”

If she’s an introvert, inviting her to go to the club or a music concert as a second date is a bad idea and she’ll probably turn you down.

If she’s an extrovert, asking her to go to the local library or the park together as a second date is also a bad idea and she’ll probably turn you down.

Bottom line: learn about your partner on the first date so that you can suggest a second date idea that’ll be fun for your partner too!

example of having fun on a second date

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2. Ask in a confident way

Ah’ the age old question… how to seem more confident.

We both know the topic of confidence has been beaten to death, but let me give you my two cents (especially regarding dating):

  • Keep it short and sweet (don’t deliver a speech to get the date)
  • Remember that there no such thing as being “out of your league”
  • Don’t make dating such a big deal
  • There are always many other beautiful people that would be happy to date you
  • Don’t try to qualify yourself (e.g. you should date me because I am nice, funny, etc.)
  • Talk from your chest so that you sound less nasally
  • Have the mindset that you are the prize

But before you rush out and try these tips, you can't miss out on the following [exclusive] videos so that you can truly cement you newfound levels of confidence:

  • If you’re a guy, watch The Tao of Badass Presentation by Joshua Pellicer where you’ll learn “The 7 Scientific Tricks to Have Any Woman You Want” (just be aware that you may get offended by the information presented).
  • If you’re a girl, watch The Infatuation Scripts Presentation where you’ll learn how to arouse any mans’ infatuation instinct to alter his brain chemistry and literally become his favorite drug so that he can’t live without you.

Understand that both of these videos are not for everyone and will not be up for long, so make sure you watch it while you can!

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3. Asking a guy for a second date

Most of this article is focused on helping men get a second date, but I can’t leave girls out!

Girls need help too… 

So here’s what I learnt from The Infatuation Scripts Presentation (& the full online course) and it should be more than enough to help you get a second date with the guy you truly love:

  1. 1
    Be curious about who he is by asking him some deep questions
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    Don’t be on your phone throughout the entire first date
  3. 3
    Seduce his mind by giving him the right compliments
  4. 4
    Let him talk about his hobbies
  5. 5
    Be girly, don’t try to seem too “manly” because you’ll end up making him feel like a girl
  6. 6
    Ask him some flirty questions so that he warms up to you
  7. 7
    Kiss on the first date (no guy will ever turn down a second date after a good kiss!)
  8. 8
    Look attractive (read: 17 ways to attract a man without getting rejected)
  9. 9
    Let him feel like a man, don’t start talking about all of your accomplishments (guys hate feeling less accomplished around girls)
  10. 10
    Touch him in all the right places to turn him on
  11. 11
    Tease him with some dirty questions so that he needs to ask you out
  12. 12
    Get to the first date on time to show that you’re serious

At this point, most guys will build up enough courage to ask you out, however if that doesn’t work - just ask him out yourself! [1, 2]

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4. When to ask for a second date

Everyone is desperate to know “how soon should I ask for a second date?” and the answer is:

As soon as possible!

The longer you wait, the longer your date will forget about you and all the fun you just had on your first date. 

And as you’ll soon see, I even recommend guys set up their second date on their first date!

5. Talk about what you’ll do on your second date

While you’re on the first date and having tons of fun, simply start talking about what you’ll do on your second date.

This is a great technique for 2 reasons:


So let’s assume you want to go to the farmers market, well there are tons of things to talk about:

  1. 1
    What type of meal you want to cook together with the food you buy
  2. 2
    What are your favorite fruits and vegetables
  3. 3
    Talk about what you love about farmers markets’ (organic food, the lovely energy, etc.)
  4. 4
    Funny stories you’ve had at other farmers markets

You get the idea and this technique works with any other second-date idea: woodworking, go karting, shooting range, etc.

And there you have it, before you even finish your first date, you’ve already gotten a second date! 

What better way to end off a first date? [3, 4]

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6. Get a second date without asking

Wait… what!?

How can you get anything without asking!!

Calm down, it’s actually quite simple: 

You suggest a second date instead of asking for it.

Here’s an example:

Asking: You’re the cutest girl, would you like to meet up Friday night at Connaught Bar?”

Suggesting: “You’re the cutest girl, let’s meet up Friday night at Connaught Bar.”

You aren’t waiting for her approval or asking for anything, you’re simply going for it by suggesting a fun place to visit and most of the time girls will be happy to go along.


Here’s a second example:

Asking: “I love spending time with you, you know what? Since we both love painting, would you be OK with checking out the art museum Saturday night?”

Suggesting: “I love spending time with you, you know what? Since we both love painting, let’s go check out the art museum Saturday night.”

You are telling her how much you enjoyed your first date, establishing what you have in common and how much more fun you could have together.  [5, 6]

Who would say no to an offer like that?

The second way to get a second date without asking is by having a passionate make out session or taking her home and telling her that “we better do this again,” but I would recommend against this approach as a beginner.

a girl asking for a second date without saying anything

7. Don’t force the second date

Not forcing a date has a lot to do with your level of confidence and not being needy.

If you see that he/she is not interested when you bring it up, don’t push.

Making someone spend time with you is never a good idea.

The best thing to do when you notice he/she is uninterested is to simply try again when they are in a better mood. 

And if you see that waiting doesn’t help, just let go and move on.

8. Use humor to get a second date

I should’ve made this the number one tip, but what can I say? I got too carried away…

Being witty is the best way of getting a date. Period. 


I’m an average looking guy, yet I can’t even tell you how many girls have admitted that my sense of humor is what got them into bed.

But I don’t want to leave you with just the concept, so here are some examples of what to say:

  1. 1
    You also drink water!? Damn, we have too much in common, why don’t we just get married now? Oh’ OK, a 2nd date is enough for me!
  2. 2
    If you look at me like that again I’ll be forced to ask you out for a 2nd date!
  3. 3
    We have so many options for a 2nd date: we could practice jump rope, build sand castles or play in the mud. You choose!
  4. 4
    Well it’s getting, but I’ll wait for you to confess your feelings on the second date
  5. 5
    I’m warning you know, I’m about to make you miss a whole bunch of college classes

Bottom line: more playful = more dates.

9. Don’t make your second date too serious

Agreeing to a second date should NOT be like signing a contract:

“This agreement was made as of the 12th of December, 2021, between [your name] and [name of partner], of the City of Chicago. Whereas [your name] desires to obtain a second date from [name of partner], and [name of partner] desires to render such date on the terms and conditions set forth. Signed below.”

Making everything so formal by making him/her show up at exactly 9pm at this-and-this restaurant is too much!

Dating is supposed to be fun, not some serious business interrogation.

Instead, ask her out by simply inviting her to something that you’re already doing.


Here are some things you could say:

  1. 1
    You’re a cool girl, I’ll be heading to the beach tomorrow, come if you like!
  2. 2
    Free tickets to the NFL game on Monday, I know you can’t resist!
  3. 3
    Crazy party at Daniella’s house tonight, comin?

By inviting her out this way, you are sharing your already awesome life with her and who would turn down an invitation like that?

10. Asking for a second date over text

Sometimes you leave the first date without ever having the chance to ask for another so here are some things to send over text:

  1. 1
    Well after spending hours deliberating, I’ve decided to put up with you for another date
  2. 2
    After wearing red hot lipstick like that you leave me with no choice by to ask you out again
  3. 3
    I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like your cute laugh, why don’t we meet up at [name of bar] at [select a time]?
  4. 4
    Hey, I got some time tonight, why don’t we meet up at that bar you mentioned earlier [refer to a club or a bar you talked about on the first date]
  5. 5
    Do you like beaches? [Wait for her to answer yes.] Oh’ cool, I’m going there tomorrow, why don’t you come along?
asking for a second date over text

Important side note:

After sending your text, don’t send anything else. Wait for her to get back to you, otherwise you risk being seen as needy.

11. Dealing with rejection 

It happens.

You tell a girl (or a guy) you want a second and you get the classic turn down:

  • I’m busy, I’m busy, I’m busy
  • I’m not interested in dating now
  • Can we just be friends

It’s OK. It happens to the best of us.

The best thing you can do now is:

  • Let it go and realize there are many other girls that would be more than happy to date you.
  • Learn from this experience and get better at asking girls out so that next time you actually get the date.

But at all costs, never get resentful because it only shows her/him how insecure and fragile you are.


12. Why you can’t get a second date

Here are the reasons why you can’t get a second date:

  1. 1
    You don’t have good first/second date ideas
  2. 2
    You don’t have good conversational skills
  3. 3
    You don’t know how to escalate sexually
  4. 4
    You have needy energy
  5. 5
    You constantly smile even when there’s no need
  6. 6
    You don’t know when to hold silence
  7. 7
    You talk too quickly
  8. 8
    You don’t know how to tell if a girl likes you or not
  9. 9
    You don’t have good pickup lines
  10. 10
    You don’t know how to dress

As you can see there are a sh*t ton of things you could be getting wrong.

So what’s the solution? We both know how much you’re willing to do to get a smokin' hot girlfriend…

Do exactly what I recommended you do at the beginning of this article:

Watch The Tao of Badass Presentation by Joshua Pellicer where you’ll learn “The 7 Scientific Tricks to Have Any Women You Want” and never have issues with hot girls again.

It’s an incredible presentation and plus, once you’re done watching, you’ll have the sacred opportunity to join the 900,000+ men who have invested in his masterpiece: The Tao of Badass Platinum Course.


At the end of the day, it’s great to hear people talking about later dates because it shows you’ve figured out first dates, you might even know how to kiss a girl on the first date

If you’ve figured that out, I guarantee you, nothing can stop you. 

Just believe in yourself and I’m sure you’ll do just fine!

Your friend,

Colt Smith


If you have any questions, be sure to leave them in the comments! (I read each and every comment.)


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