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How To Get Out of The Friend Zone After Rejection In 11 PRO STEPS

Getting out of the friend zone after rejection is a tough place to be in because it’s natural to feel angry, but you still desire her.

You feel angry that she cock-blocked you.

The average friend zoning happens when a girl will just slide you under the table “nicely” or tell you that she has a boyfriend. But here you told her that you want more than a platonic relationship and zone situation and she shut you down with a clear rejection!

Maybe you were having fun with her at the park or getting lunch together and after you finally built up courage to tell her you like her she outright told you no.

You thought you’d get the kiss and a hot girlfriend, but now you don’t know what to do with yourself. You don’t even know if your friendship is over…

And you don’t either know what to do with your emotions. Do you feel angry or sad? Do you feel angry at yourself or her?

But you came here to get out of the friend zone — even though you’ve already been rejected. And let me tell you now: it is possible. You will sleep with this girl, BUT you’ll have to follow all these steps and take massive action. 

1. Let her rejection go

The first step that you must take is to let the rejection go completely. Don’t take your rejection personally.

The second you take rejection personally you are giving your power to her. You are showing her that she has control over your emotions.

That makes her dominant and you submissive.

When you get all angry she just makes you a weak little girl because all she has to do is reject you and you’ve lost control of yourself. This obviously destroys any future attraction. 

You’ve got to show her that she doesn’t affect you. The more you can just let it go and move on, the easier it’ll be to change your relationship status with her.

“Letting go” shows her that you are in control of yourself and you don’t have a massive ego. This also means that you don’t need make her jealous or get revenge because you know it won’t help. [1, 2]

2. Give it time

One of the greatest keys to getting out of the friend zone is simply waiting time.

You are waiting time so that she can forget about having put you in the friend zone. Because here is what happens in every woman’s head every time she meets a man: she decides on whether he’s a friend or a sexual partner.

You’ve been put in the first category and that means no matter what she sees you through the frame of a friend.

If you try to kiss her she’ll see you as a creepy friend trying to kiss her. It doesn’t matter what you say she’ll always see you as a friend.

You need time for that to fall away. This means you don’t talk to her for at least 2 weeks.

Even when she wants to hang out and be your friend, you aren’t her friend. You must wait until her mind is ready to restart with you.

3. Understand why this happened

You’ve got to understand why this happened in the first place. Because you know it wasn’t anyone’s fault but yours… Why did she friend zone you?

Start taking responsibility and ask yourself what you did wrong. What about you made her think of you as nothing more than a friend?

Whatever you come up with it’ll boil down to this one answer: you were Mr. Nice Guy. You were not acting assertive or masculine enough and she didn’t feel attraction.

My point is that she wasn’t attracted to you. You need to figure out why and change whatever you got wrong. Let’s get into some things that you can change. [3, 4]

4. Get over the fear of rejection

The fear of rejection is the number one issue that every man must resolve before he can even begin to call himself a man.

Fearing violence, arguments, and pain is what makes you a boy. As a man you need to be looking for rejection because that is how you know you’ve pushed your limits. 

Being afraid of getting rejected by a woman is exactly what makes you so unattractive and gets you right in the friend zone time and time again. 

When a woman can sense that you don’t care what she thinks of you, she immediately feels 10 times more attracted to you. The less you fear women the less you’ll have to fear about.

In fact, women will test men to see if they are scared of rejection. For example, your girl might start complaining about something stupid and she wants to know if you’ll give in.

If you didn’t care about rejection or what she thought of you, you’d tell her to shut up and move on with your day. You don’t give in to every little complaining that she has. 

When she sees that you don’t care, her attraction levels to you goes up by tenfold.

This means that if you want to have a second chance with this girl you’d better start getting over the fear of rejection. It’s the only way she’ll start feeling attraction for you.

And of course how do you actually get over the fear? Start approaching women every day… 

And if you aren’t sure about how to approach women here’s a great video explaining everything you need to know by the creator of the Tao of Badass course, Joshua Pellicer. (THE top dating coach.)

5. Become more masculine

Remember this is not your ticket out of the friend zone fast or just through texting. That’s impossible, she already rejected you. You need to do more.

That’s why you need to get over the fear of rejection first before anything can happen between you and her. But there’s one other trait you need to cultivate before you try to get her to like you again.

And that’s called MASCULINITY. 

This is the only thing that will ever sexually attract a woman to you. The more masculine you are the more attractive you are to women.

But how can you be more masculine?

We already mentioned one trait: getting over the fear of rejection, but there’s much more to masculinity than that.

Masculinity means that you have control over your emotions. It means that you have this core confidence about yourself that everyone can see on your face.

But most of all it means that you have a purpose. You have something that makes you feel alive every single day.

For most guys I recommend starting a business, specifically an online business because it gives you that passive income so you’re making money while you’re sleeping!

If you aren’t sure how to get started here’s a live webinar by John Crestani that I think is still available for free. You’ll learn everything you need to know to get started, thank me later.

Creating that business can become your new ambition. You’ll wake up feeling passionate about your day because you’re doing what you want to do.

You have to do all of this before you even try to get out of the friend zone. After you get working on this you are ready for the next step.

6. Start to show her love

Great, you’ve become a different man. You’ve also given her time to forget about your friend status with her while not getting offended by the rejection. 

Now it’s time to actually get out of the friend zone. Start by showing her love and the easiest way to do that is by touching her.

I don’t mean that you touch her like a creep, but rather as you talk to her hold her hand or caress her arm in a loving way.

You are breaking the touch barrier. But remember you need to take this slow. You’ve tried to get out of the friend zone before, but she rejected you.

That doesn’t mean you don’t have a chance with her, it just means that you’ll need to be patient with her.

You are slowly bringing up the heat and now you are ready for the next step.

7. Make friends with all of her girl friends

I’ve mentioned this in other blog posts, but I’ll say it again: the friends of a girl decide who her next boyfriend will be.

Because unlike the average dude, girls are super sensitive to what people think of them. No girl would get into a relationship with a guy that her own friends don’t like.

But on the flip side, if her friends like you and think you are a cool guy your chances of getting her as your girlfriend are MUCH higher. 

That’s why in this step you must start being cool around her friends even though you don’t desire them or you even find them annoying. 

Then as you continue to show love to your crush, she will talk all about you with her friends and they will encourage her to continue with her.

Since you’ve already been rejected by her, you’ll need everything on your side working for you to make this happen.

8. Have tons of fun

This stage is all about flirting and teasing her. You are slowly trying to get her to realize that you aren’t some friend.

Here are some examples of how you can tease any girl on a date or over text.

  1. You are such a spoiled brat!
  2. You deserve a spanking 
  3. Oh’ gosh, you like that movie! We are officially BFF’s
  4. Tell me when you finish writing a song about me
  5. If you keep texting me I’ll ruin your innocence
  6. Sorry I’m not OK with a hookup tonight
  7. We’ve just met and you’re already wet!
  8. Copy her text messages and send them right back

Together with the touching, making friends with her friends and teasing her like this you’ll be out of the friend zone in no time. She is starting to see you as a sexual partner.

But there’s couple more steps before you are ready to get right inside of her and feel those delicious sugar walls.

9. Give her compliments

This is my favorite part of attraction because compliments are so effective and so simple. Just remember that the key to an effective complement is how you say it.

What you say matters too, that’s why I wrote a list of 100 compliments for a girlfriend, but saying it in a cool, confident way is what makes her blush.

Although being confident shouldn’t be a problem for you because you’ve already gotten over the fear of rejection and you are back in your masculinity, so I’ll give you a list compliments that you can say:

  1. Your eyes have the perfect shade of blue
  2. I can’t control myself whenever I look into your eyes
  3. Your smile makes me smile
  4. You look like a model with that dress on
  5. You remind me of Megan Fox
  6. Your lips are so damn kissable

You can copy these and use them, but I would recommend that you tweak them or even come up with your own so that you feel more authentic when you say them.

Spend some time and be creative with your own and with time you’ll be able come up with personal compliments on the spot!

10. Learn how to tell if a girl likes you

You’ve done everything you could do to get this girl to like you, but there’s one thing you must do before you make the bold move: figure out if she likes you.

The first thing you always have to look out for is if she’s laughing at your jokes. She could even be laughing at you as long as it’s in a teasing way.

You might notice that even though no one else finds the joke funny, she starts laughing uncontrollably. That’s a strong sign she likes you.

Another easy way to tell if a girl likes you is if she makes herself look attractive around you. Let me give you some examples:

  1. She always has her nails done around you
  2. Does a pro job with her makeup 
  3. She’s reveals more of her body to you

She’s doing it to allure you, why not give in? Now you are ready for the final step:

11. Make the bold move

Congratulations my friend, she likes you, but what can you do now to seal the deal and get out of the friend zone for good?

Start by going for the kiss. All you need to do to get a girl to kiss you is to go for it! 

Maybe not just like that! But start by having a fun conversation alone with her, start touching her and in a moment of silence look into her eyes and kiss her.

Pretty simple, right? It’s always going to be a little scary when you go in for the kiss, but just know that there will never be a perfect time to kiss a girl.

This is also true for sleeping with her for the first time. When you are ready to go down on her, follow the same rules and then go for it.

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I know this is all going to be very difficult for you. I know how it feels to get rejected, I’ve been rejected more times than you can imagine.

But that doesn’t mean that you need to give in to the friend zone. There is no reason to give up, attracting the sexiest women doesn’t need to be hard.

You are an attractive man, women will desire you. Just start taking action and putting yourself out there. 

When I was in your situation I didn’t just rely on my own motivation and skills, instead I got myself a seduction course called The Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer.

Now I know what you are thinking “why should I invest in a program like that when I don’t know anything about it?!”

That’s a perfectly fair question and I have 2 answers for you. 

  1. Trust me, the course changed MY life
  2. He has a 90 minute video going through everything you need to know about the creator and the course itself

I say you take action now, go watch the video and start succeeding with 100’s of women.

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