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Notice to all new readers: Girls, start with His Secret Obsession

Guys, you need The Obsession Method. Good luck :-)

Did you know that you can make any girl feel a deep emotional connection from a single eye compliment without trying creepy pickup artist tricks?

In the next few minutes you’ll discover exactly that with practical examples so strap your seat belt and get ready to learn how to compliment a girl’s eyes!

complimenting a girls eyes

Quick tip: her eye color will usually fall into one of the following:

  • Amber
  • Blue
  • Brown
  • Gray
  • Black
  • Green 
  • Hazel
  • Red

Step 2: Give her a compliment based on her eye color.

For example...

  1. 1
    Are they brown? Why not tell her that she’s got the hottest coffee-colored eyes you’ve ever seen
  2. 2
    Are they blue? Tell her that she’s got the calmest blue eyes ever
  3. 3
    Are they green? Tell her that she’s got the perfect shade of green
  4. 4
    Are they gray? Tell her that she’s got the most intense, stone grey eyes ever!

More examples for you here: 11 Loving Ways to Tell a Girl She's Beautiful, Pretty and Looks Good [With 33+ Examples] | datingarmory.com 

You might be wondering: why does this technique work so well on girls?

Good question! 

It’s because you're appreciating and noticing the details of her beauty, not just commenting on her general looks. [1, 2]

To get some practice, just watch the following YouTube video and think about what you’d tell her: 

2. Say your eye compliment in a seductive way

We have another 10 techniques to run through, but I’d like to pause with a couple tips on how to “do the compliment” so that it’s 260% more effective.

#1 Have a powerful body language

Quoting from Kate Spring’s course - The Obsession Method - where she’s discussing the 5 ways to kickstart your confidence:

Use the Power Pose
You might be asking, WTF is a power pose? Great question. Amy Cuddy, a professor from the Harvard Business School, suggests that our body language shapes how others see us, but also how we see ourselves. For example, if you are sitting with your arms and legs crossed and you have your back hunched, you are making yourself small and letting people know that you are timid. Conversely, Cuddy suggests that if you sit with your legs and arms uncrossed and you make yourself big to take up space, people will see you as having more confidence.
Cuddy’s theory suggests that before you enter into an intimidating situation, which in this case is a date or approaching women, beforehand, spend two minutes in what she calls a “power pose.” 

Screenshot of Kate Spring excellent dating course for men: The Obsession Method

Make yourself big, and hold that pose for two minutes. Using this secret language will make you feel more confident and powerful, and will also make people perceive you as such. The power pose is going to come in handy throughout this book, especially when we get into the Subliminal Signal System-- this is what we call the language that will be your secret weapon in making a woman attracted to you. So do it. Try your power pose every morning that you wake up. Wake up big! Do it again when you’re about to enter into an intimidating situation. 

Lots to unpack here (and a lot more to learn in her secret obsession presentation), but what does this mean for us?

It means that before each and every compliment, give yourself a moment to get into that power pose and feel more confident. 


#2 Talk slowly 

The second way to make each and every one of your compliments more effective is to say them slower!

How slow?

Slow enough that you think you’re just starting to be too slow for most people. 

For more help on this tip, read: 8 Steps To Compliment a Girl - ONLY The Hottest | datingarmory.com

#3 Imagine yourself succeeding

Here’s another life saving tip from Kate Spring in her course, The Obsession Method (Module 1.2):

This next part of the program will help you to change the outcome of your life through changing the way that you see and visualize yourself. This means that you are changing your thoughts, how you see yourself, and ultimately, how you see the world and yourself in it. I want you to start visualizing yourself as being successful. The goal is for you to be able to start picturing yourself performing tasks successfully and with confidence. This will help you to set the foundation for a happy life; it is one of the first steps to a life where you are in the driver’s seat, not the passenger seat.

She’s saying that in order for you to take control of your life and choose in which direction you want to take - single and lonely OR having a sexy girlfriend - you need to start seeing that success now. 

For our discussion, this means you need to start seeing yourself successfully complimenting girls and watching their reactions.

Do this on a daily basis and your confidence will more than double.

3. Use The Compliment-Appreciation Technique

What is The Compliment-Appreciation Technique?

The Compliment-Appreciation Technique is where you compliment your girlfriend by appreciating her beauty instead of flooding her with a non-stop barrage of compliments.

But why… I mean who cares? Why make things more complicated than they have to be? Here’s why:

Showing her how you appreciate her beauty makes her feel cared for, unlike the bribing feeling that compliments give (“If I give you enough compliments, you need to be my friend”).

And now for some examples:

  1. The cuteness in your eyes is God’s gift to me
  2. I love seeing your angelic eyes every morning
  3. Hey [her name], thanks so much for coming over. BTW, I loved that dress!
  4. The way you did your makeup this morning blew me out of the water! I couldn’t stop looking at your red, hot lips…
  5. I love what you did with your hair today, you must be the cutest girl in the city!
  6. Thanks for wearing that sundress, you know what I like [wink]
  7. What can I say? You made my day! [3, 4]

You’ll find some more great examples over at this post 12 Creative Ways to Tell a Girl You Like Her Over Text [With Examples] | datingarmory.com

example of a girls eyes and where you want to compliment her

4. Compliment her eyes with a gift

Here’s a cool technique most blogs don’t cover:

Buy her some eye makeup as a way to tell her how much her beautiful eyes mean to you.

Here are some eye-related gifts girls love

#1: Colored eye contacts 

Here’s a perfect example from amazon:


Of course, there are 10’s of colors and styles to choose from so make sure you pick the one that matches your girls’ style the best.

#2: False eyelashes

Of course, another beautiful part of her eyes is her eyelashes and for that you can buy her false eyelashes. Here’s one set from amazon that seems to be highly recommended:


#3: Mascara and makeup set

In case your girl likes the more natural path, I got something for you too! Mascara + a whole makeup set.

I bet you're asking yourself, but I have no idea what she likes and what’s even considered good!? No worries, I’ve done the research and this should be your top choice:


I’ve tried this “gifting-technique” and I can say for certain that it’s the best one for beginners by a long shot.

5. Use The Indirect-Compliment Technique

There are 2 steps The Indirect-Compliment Technique:

Step 1: Find something about her worth complimenting 

For our purposes, it’ll be her beautiful eyes.

example of a girl with exceptionally cute eyes

Step 2: Compliment her indirectly by saying how it makes you feel


  1. 1
    The color of your eyes makes me irresistibly attracted to you
  2. 2
    Your perfect eyes turn me on
  3. 3
    You should be careful with your seductive eyes because I’m already feeling the affects
  4. 4
    If only you knew how your eyes make me fall in love
  5. 5
    I have a hard time thinking straight whenever I look into your eyes
  6. 6
    You have the most impressive blue eyes ever, you look so cute, how is this even possible!
  7. 7
    You're making all the other girls jealous with your perfect eyes, keep them closed!
  8. 8
    Your eyes stand out in the most perfect ways that I can’t stop looking at them...

This is super flattering for any girl, but if you want to be even more seductive, try applying The Indirect-Compliment Technique this way:

Start to compliment her eyes, but then stop as if you couldn’t continue because her sheer beauty took your breath away, for example:

  1. 1
    Your eyes are like...
  2. 2
    Those eyes…
  3. 3
    [look into her eyes] OMG…
  4. 4
    I’ve never seen eyes so….
  5. 5
    If only you knew how beautiful…
example of a girl with beautiful eyes

Girls lose their minds whenever I try this because they don’t know exactly what I said, but can tell how I feel about them so what do they do? They end up fantasizing all the things I possibly would’ve told them about their eyes.

Bottom line: 

The greatest compliment is the mysterious compliment

6. Compliment a girls eyes when you approach her on the street

Some people will say to wait a date or 2 until you compliment a girl's eyes, but I disagree - as long as you’re starting to feel a connection. 

So… how?

Remember Kate Spring from her course, The Obsession Method

Well, let’s consult with her again - this time from Module 2.3 The Approaches - where she teaches The Compliment Approach:

How to Compliment a Woman
Step 1: Establish eye contact.
Step 2: Stop her in her tracks. You want to stop her somewhere coming from the side and a little in front of her, coming at approximately a 40 degree angle. You want to capture her attention and make her forget about whatever she was thinking about.
Step 3: Compliment her. Example: “I love your sunglasses. Where did they get them from?” That one is simple, easy and approachable. And it also gives no undertone of an ulterior motive. 
As I have mentioned before in some of my YouTube videos, the best compliments are the ones that notice something that a girl has chosen, and is not focused on something that a woman is genetically predisposed to. For example, you could comment on her style in general and say, “Wow, I just had to tell you that you have great style!”
Complimenting a girl on something that she has chosen is key because women tend to put a lot of effort into their appearance, which includes many little decisions to complete a “look.” Understanding this puts you ahead of the game.

Luckily for us, her sunglasses example fit in our article perfectly and that’s another part of eyewear that can be complimented!


7. Use The Overflow-Compliment Technique

What’s The Overflow-Compliment Technique?

You focus on one beautiful detail of your girl, i.e. her eyes, and tell her how it makes her look so much cuter as a whole. 

In other words, by using this technique you are telling her that the cuteness of her eyes overflows to the rest of her body. 

Let me give you some examples:

  1. 1
    Wow, your big, blue eyes make you look so cute
  2. 2
    I swear you’ve reached the limits of cuteness with those perfect eyes
  3. 3
    I can’t get over how cute your eyes make you look
  4. 4
    Your eyes make you the cutest girl ever!

You aren’t just focusing on her eyes, you're focusing on her entire beauty which is what makes her feel like a princess.

I wasn’t sure where to place the following quote from The Rise of The Phoenix by Sebastian Harris, but I feel this is a good place because it drives home the point that a simple “you look good” compliment won’t do:

…..Sorry but, “Did you just fart, you blew me away,” or, “Do you work at Subway? You gave me a foot-long,” won’t cut it.
Forget about pickup lines. Individual compliments are the way to go. Forget about the old, “You look really nice,” compliment. I mean, come on.
A freaking dog can look nice.
A pizza can look nice.
That says absolutely nothing. Make it personal. Be specific.
Look at her. What do you notice about her? What do you like about her? Why do you want to see her naked?
You like the way her body looks in her red dress. Tell her that.
You love her shining blue eyes and long blonde hair. Tell her that.
You love her feminine walk. Tell her exactly that.
Tell her whatever you think when you see her.
Okay, leave out the, “I want to f@#k the shit out of you,” part. Tell her the PG-13 and not the NC-17 stuff.

To learn more about telling a girl how cute she is, read my post titled 8 Solid Methods to Tell a Girl She’s Cute and Make Her Blush.

a girl that's waiting for an eye compliment

8. Compliment a girls eyes without being scared

This section is much like what we talked about in #2 Say your compliment in a seductive way, only that we are now focusing on the “fear factor” i.e. how not to feel scared when compliment a girl on her eyes (fear ruins everything):

And here’s the 7 steps that I was able to extract from The Obsession Method:

1. Women Want to be Approached

One of the major complaints I hear from women is that they rarely get approached by men, soberly, in the daytime. They want to be! If you can approach a woman with a genuine interest, that will get you so much farther than approaching her with a cheesy, drunk pickup line. Single women
want to be approached in a genuine way and they want to meet awesome, authentic guys.

2. Women are Not Evil Villains

Women do not take pride in turning men down. Women only get annoyed when the approach is sleazy and if she is chastised or called a slut for declining a man’s advances. Nothing about that situation makes a girl feel good.

3. Not all Women are Superficial

Some women can be superficial, but most are not. Most women simply want to be treated well and respected, more so than being with Brad Pitt’s twin or some other notoriously attractive male. Looks only go so far.

4. Attractive Women Want to be With a Good Man

Women want to be in healthy relationships. They want to be with good men- men who they can trust, and men who trust them. If you find yourself going after women that thrive off of drama, then perhaps you’re going after the wrong type of girl, but generally speaking, nobody goes into a relationship wanting to be treated poorly. 

5. Know That This Feeling is Temporary

The discomfort of rejection can go just as quickly as it came if you do not let it control you. 

6. Get Physical

One of the best ways to take your mind off of your suffering is to do something physical. Use your body in a physical way by doing any physical activity that makes you focus on the present moment.

7. Meet New People

One person’s dislike of you does not translate to everyone’s opinion. If you’re not meeting the right women, change your location and meet some new people.

Try these 7 tips, and be sure to let me know how it went and if you have any other tips in the comments - I’d be happy to add them to this article.

9. Compliment her eyes on the emotions they exude

Instead of talking about how beautiful or cute she is, tell her about the type of emotions her eyes exude, for example:

If she has these bold brown eyes tell her “your eyes are intense.”

She won’t be sure what you really meant by "your dark eyes are intense" which will keep her up all night just trying to figure out what you really meant!

Here’s another example:

If she has calm blue eyes tell her “your eyes radiate calmness.”

Sometimes yelling “your eyes are so sexy” while pinning her down and going for the kiss will get her instantly horny and soaking wet.

It all depends on the environment and the girl.


10. Tell her that her eyes look like a famous celebrity

Telling her that her eyes look or remind you of a celebrity is a great way to kindle her imagination and get her to fantasize about what you really feel about her.

Here’s how you do it:

Step 1: Search on Google “most beautiful women in the world” and find the women that stands out to you the most

It might be Jessica Alba, Kristin Kreuk, or Alexandra Daddario, it doesn’t matter as long as you remember her name.

Step 2: Simply tell your girlfriend that her eyes remind you of whatever celebrity you chose.

That’s it!

Get your examples here: 215 Compliments for a Girl (Dress, Picture, Eyes, Lips, Hair) | datingarmory.com).

(By the way, you can also use this technique to compliment a girl’s picture on Tinder. It works nearly every time, I promise!)

11. Finish off your compliment with a question

When complimenting a girl with “I swear you’ve reached the limits of cuteness with those perfect eyes” - what is she supposed to say back?

“Oh’ thank you…” - but then what?!

See how the conversation can get super boring (and even awkward) even after a great compliment like that?

This is why it’s always worth ending your compliments with a question, for example:

“You have the most impressive blue eyes ever, you look so cute, how is this even possible!?”

Now she gets the chance to explain how she manages to be so beautiful which keeps the conversation going, plus you’re giving her the chance to talk about herself which makes you seem even more likeable!

And that’s it!



I must congratulate you: you’ve made it till the end! Most guys can’t read past the first paragraph....

However, just reading articles like these aint’ gonna cut it! That’s why you must take the following action:

  1. 1
    Look deep inside and find where your skills are lacking with girls (confidence? Technique? Style? etc.)
  2. 2
    Decide on the actions you need to take and the consistency
  3. 3
    Stay simple and invest in The Obsession Method by Kate Spring (linked above)
  4. 4
    Study everything she says
  5. 5
    More importantly, take action
  6. 6
    Report back to me on your results: coltsmith@datingarmory.com

Good luck,

Colt Smith


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  • I looooooove this article. So many examples of compliments that I will definitely come back to read more! It’s funny I’ve seen many girls that react to these compliments very well!

    • I would start with basic compliments like “you’re looking great” and as you talk and get to know her better, give her more specific compliments such as the ones we mentioned above.

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